I have known this girl for most of my life. She's not a good friend, but rather someone I might meet up with once in a great while. She can't keep a job because she's such a trouble maker and does a lot of drugs (that's the reason I usually keep my distance). She has been asking me for months if I would get her into the company I work for and I always avoid the question. Recently she put in her application and came in for an interview. She also dropped my name at the interview. She told them that she is attending medical school and graduated second in her high school class (in reality she failed out of 9th and 10th grade, then quit high school). She also told them that she does fashion modeling--the truth is that she does pornographic modeling. I'm very angry that she came there looking for a job and even more angry that she gave them my name. They saw right through her lies in the interview, but still...if they didn't know me better, it could make me look bad.
2006-10-29 06:38:06 · 15 answers · asked by Jaime-Lyn! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You know the answer to this already. You should have ended it years ago. I would speak to her and tell her that I did not appreciate her using you to get a job and because of her life style I no longer wish to have any kind of contact with her. Encourage her to get help and tell her when she cleans up her act you may reconsider being friends with her. Then don't take her calls anymore and go on with your life.
2006-10-29 06:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boss you do not recommend her for the job. Say you happened to go to the same schools growing up, but you're not a friend.
Then end the friendship. Stop meeting her- it's not worth it. You knew she was a troublemaker, a drug user, a high school drop out, and a former porn model, so remaining in touch with her, which enabled her to potentially damage your career, was your own fault. Protect yourself from people like her.
2006-10-29 06:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a "friend"..I knew her for a long time as well ..she started hitting on my boyfriend...calls ..coming over..I told her that I had enough of her and her bullshit and to stay away..she tried some more..I told her to back off..she wrote a letter to my work to try to get me fired...told them I was doing drugs...my boss hauled me in and asked I told the truth and also the circumstances regarding her ..my boss..couldn't believe the crap the person was doing..man I was so glad to get her out of my life..I'm so much happier..knowing I will never have to put up with that crap again or her kids(horrible kids)..she was a alcoholic,drug abuser,compulsive lier,and a S l u t...I hear stories about her and her life has not gotten any better..just worse..funny thing..what comes around goes around...
2006-10-29 07:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by Ken and Wendy M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any friend that would use your name at an interview without your permission coupled with those lies only cares about themself. Keep your distance! Make her one of those friends that you only go and get coffee with every few months if you want to keep in touch with her. Make it clear that she really abused the friendship by what she did.
2006-10-29 06:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd be angry too. Sounds like she's not appreciating the friendship. Let her learn the hard way, and drop the friendship.
In the meantime tell your boss you had nothing to do with her choice to show up there.
2006-10-29 06:41:59 · answer #5 · answered by Jas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This girl obviously needs someone like you in her life. You need to tell her that she needs to get her act together, that she can't do drugs, and all the other bad things you described. Help her as much as you can, but if she doesn't seem to appreciate your help and advice, I'd keep my distance from her before she gets you into trouble.
2006-10-29 06:44:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
She is a selfish and disrespectful person, and I wouldn't blame you at all for not wanting to remain her friend. A true friend wouldn't do that to you anyways.
2006-10-29 06:46:21 · answer #7 · answered by magnolia_76 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like it's time to let her go. people like that cause a lot of problems in your life. make it clear at work that you do not recommend for them to hire her. and make it clear to her that you want NOTHING to have to do with her.
2006-10-29 07:21:03 · answer #8 · answered by nina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it comes up at your job,just explain,the truth is a great thing sometimes otherwise let it go
2006-10-29 06:41:18 · answer #9 · answered by boozer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, i would. If your not close with her and you dont enjoy spending time with her, then i would tell her that. I would also talk to your company if your worried that she mentioned your name.
2006-10-29 06:43:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋