ok heres the thing I am engaged I love me fiance more then anything we hve been together for 5 years were getting married in 2008..the problem is I have this guy friend that I used to date before I met my fiance we were to younge to be together so we ended it we hve been friends every since.when me and my fiance broke up for a while I slept with him...then he started tlking all crazy sayin he loved me blah blah blah..now hes in the marines a few times he said he wanted to be with me but since im with my fiance he cant do that to me...now hes talking to some girl and I kinda feel werid about it cause he aint acting like he used to with me..like all in love...do I tell him how I feel or just leave it I dont want to mess up our friendship.....has anyone ever been in this situation???
2006-10-29 06:22:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are experiencing jealousy. You need to stay with your fiance and move on with your life. The friendship will move into a new kind of friendship where you aren't just friends with him, but instead you and your fiance/spouse are friends with him and his girlfriend. It's hard to let go even though you have what you want and need. We all want our cake and to eat it too. I definitely think you need to just keep going forward with your plans and in time your jealousy will pass.
2006-10-29 06:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by Silly ol Me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is what you should do:
1. Break up with your fiance
2. Tell your ex boyfriend lover that you are upset cause he is putting his attentions somewhere else and you want him to love you.
Remember you can't have your cake and eat it too.
Obviously there is something wrong with you and your fiance, otherwise you wouldn't care a hoot about the old lover and wouldn't have done him during your "off" time with your finace. Plus you would be waiting another 2 years to wed.
Face the facts.
2006-10-29 14:33:05 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you actually like him then you should tell him instead of marrying someone who your not in love with...It's wrong to marry someone and not love them at all and it was also wrong for you to sleep with him in the first place when you knew you were going to get back together with your fiance...
2006-10-29 14:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be alone for a while and really think who is it that you love. Maybe you are just feeling weird because you knew he was with you and now he is seeing someone else, but girl you are engaged too. Get your feelings straight and go from there.
2006-10-29 14:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by lady butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a fiance...he now has a significant other in his life. Be happy for him, and , no, do not tell him how you feel. Leave it alone. Don't create problems for the both of you....
2006-10-29 14:47:39 · answer #5 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel. It's always worth losing a friendship for something greater.
2006-10-29 14:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋