an affair? I already know about it and he was caught because I overheard him whispering on private work phone about sticking to their plans, 1st he would leave then her. He refuses to admit it is the reason why he left. He claims he left for other reasons but they all just sound like he is trying to justify what he did. I mean he brought up an incident that happened 6 yrs ago that made him angry. I just shake my head in disbelief because the things he is saying are so minor that no person would end a marriage for. To make it even worse he is still in contact with "other" but she hasn't left yet and does have SIX kids. Just be up front with me, sure it's going to hurt already does but its so humiliating to hear this crap come from his mouth. What could the reason be for not being truthful especially when you're busted?
2006-10-29 06:21:58 · 15 answers · asked by Gettcha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He knows the truth, but is too much of a coward to admit that what he did was wrong. My advice to you is to leave him to his sorry ways, and move on in your life. Find you a good man that will be true to you. You have suffered long enough!! Good Luck! And STILL in contact.......pack your bags!!
2006-10-29 06:28:43 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a coward, and has been plotting and planning this for quite some time. he brings up things that happened ages ago because he simply has no reason, except he just wants to be with this other person.it is all about him and the other woman, not about anything you did.there is nothing one can do when we are betrayed by the man we trusted and loved, but we can go with dignity. sometimes we have to suffer because of someones elses decisions.hurt takes time to heal, don't ask why he will only turn his evil deed away from himself and place blame on an already hurting person. he is a cheater, he has disrespected you, and can't even be up front with the truth, so there isn't anywhere you can go with this situation but out of the marriage. trust is gone,and even if u could forgive you will never be able to forget. even if he did come back and showed remorse you would always remember he chose her over you, and that he came back because she dumpted him. sometimes it's just easier given your circumstances to move on and not wait it out.as once a cheater always a cheater, and why invest anymore into a man like this, who can't even be truthful.
2006-10-29 08:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because all men are pigs and it's second nature to lie, he's my question if you know he's cheating why are you not calling your lawyer??? Maybe he still cares for you a bit and likes the sneaking around but then married life has some quirks. If you want to stay with him, (for some stupid reason) then ask him what you can do for him that would change his ways... I would get rid of him and find a nice man, nice decent men are an endangered species but there a couple out there... Have fun looking for him!!!!
2006-10-29 06:29:22 · answer #3 · answered by gomezmom06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really doesn' t matter if he confesses all his sins or not. Him trying to find an excuse for leaving that doesn't make him look bad is typical of human behavior, he is trying to justify his wrong doing.
In the end he will get his just rewards. Stop nagging and let him think you have moved on are actually glad to be rid of his sorry ways. Make sure the kids get dumped on him every other weekend and holiday. Spend that time pampering yourself, which I think you need.
2006-10-29 06:27:13 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately guys will always be guys, men always feel the need for the conquest, should sit him down and have an actual conversation and watch his eye contact if he is looking down and to the left when he is speaking to you he is lying, no to be blunt but do you think he has had sex with her as of yet? ask him if he really wants your marriage to be over or is this just a fling he is going through & then figure out if you really want to hold onto your marriage, then take it from there
2006-10-29 06:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by seven_ms_man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you knows him very well,why you got involved in a marriage with this type of a person? You are just his kept! Nothing else.Allow him to do whatever he likes and be happy with him as his kept.Some man needs two of them like an Hindi Movie :" Gharwali and Baharwali" Meaning is one in the home and one outside the home.Why woman surrender herself to man in the bed? If you understand it,you won't complaint about him.
2006-10-29 06:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by precede2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 23:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems a bit silly to expect a cheating, lying man to tell the truth about anything. The reason he doesn't tell the truth is because he's a liar.
2006-10-29 06:30:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at your state laws and see if they recognize infidelity and then you will know why he is doing what he is. I believe you will find out he has a lot to loose after being named a cheater and remember 8 out of 10 cheaters will remain cheaters. sorry
2006-10-29 06:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are "making it worse" than it really is (Men have this capacity to justify everything).
Potentially, he may not see it as "wrong", and you may never get aroudn that roadblock
2006-10-29 06:40:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋