Ok now first of all i'm not talking about me.
My friends latest married man takes her to all different places around the world 1st class all the way. He takes her to really exensive places that no one her age would be able to afford.
She gets what she wants, he gets what he wants and no one gets hurt because no one finds out.
Obviously if your married you will say this is wrong...so just young single girls would you do this???? got to admit it is tempting
2006-10-29 06:17:15 · 68 answers · asked by Thyroid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She doesn't want to him to l;eave his wife..it's just for fun.
And they are using eachother if you think about it.
2006-10-29 06:21:48 · update #1
She is hardly wasting her life...she's travelling the worls while we're all sat in the pub!
She will stop doing it when she meets someone she likes but until then...
2006-10-29 06:44:08 · update #2
I think it's fine...she doesn't want him to leave his wife so she doesn't expect anything else.
Like you say i don't think she is being stupid she gets to see the world while you're all sat in the pub go for it i say.
So what if she is having sex with him. How many of us have slept with people we don't have feelings for? is it any less fun after a couple of drinks? nope not really.
She's young so do it...they're obviously using each other.
I can't remember which famous model said it but when asked would she be with her rich older boyfriend if he wasn't so rich she replied..."maybe not but would he be with me if i wasn't beautiful"
Live and let live...the wife is his problem not hers.
2006-10-29 08:21:39 · answer #1 · answered by ge100g 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No it is not tempting, why would you or your friend be so ignorant as to do this. It is just wrong, and no I am not married, But I will say this, I hope that you or your friend never do get married because it may happen to you and then lets see how you feel about it. You say that noone knows but all games end and when it does the wife and if he has kids are going to be hurt. and if you can live with that then I don't know what to say except it is LITTLE GIRLS like you 2 that destroy other peoples lives no matter what the situation is between the married couple.. Grow up and have some respect for yourself and the wife of this man.
2006-10-29 06:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When I was single, I dated married men. Why? Because I could. I wasn't betraying anybody. It was for fun, and I knew it wasn't permanent.
Now, I'm married. Do I think differently? No. BUT, I would be furious with my husband if he did have a lady on the side. He made oaths to me concerning fidelity and honesty. Would I be mad at the other woman? No. But that is my personal opinion and how I view the world.
Society would tell you that it is wrong. Why? Because, the other woman is HELPING the married man destroy a family. By family I mean children. In the end, it's the children who will suffer when the infidelity is discovered. Nobody wants to hurt children, and that is why it is wrong.
2006-10-29 07:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The single person made NO VOWS to anyone, therefore they can do whatever they want. IF the MARRIED person decides to cheat that is on them and no one else. What an attractive person throws themselves at them and they can't say NO, they HAVE to have sex? Um no. They obviously wanted to cheat and they did, the single person is just enjoying the attention. Besides HOW MANY of these WOMEN find out their man has cheated and STAYS WITH THEM???? This is the main problem. I know women who've shown 700 sexual texts messages back and forth and they will still side w/the husband because they are too pathetic to have any self worth. If we raised women to be more confident, assertive and believe in their self worth they'd leave the sorry POS's and not settle. Just my opinion! :)
2016-03-28 00:56:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are sitting on the fence here! In one breath you say 'no-one gets hurt because no-one finds out' and in another you say 'obviously if you're married you will say this is wrong'.
Why would married people think it was wrong if it wasnt???
You KNOW it is wrong, and so does your friend and her 'latest' married man! I see he's her 'latest' - no doubt she makes a habit of it! What a very sad girl underneath she must be. Pretending, in the pub to her girl-friends, that she is happy and having a ball travelling the world and in her heart of hearts knowing she is doing wrong to some woman and kids somewhere.
Never let her kid herself that no-one gets hurt. Does she the know the wife? Do you? I doubt it. So how do you know if she is being hurt. She might be being hurt by his attitude towards her, or she might suspect or she might actually know and be devastated. Your friend doesnt know what it is like to be a wife, at home, checking her husband's pockets and mobile and hating herself for doing it, but desperate to find out why he has changed towards her, why he keeps snapping at the kids etc.
You say it is tempting. If you are tempted if that way then at least do it in a more honest way. Set yourself up as a prostitute and sleep with married men that way.
What goes around comes around - she might be a wife herself one day.
2006-10-29 19:42:04 · answer #5 · answered by Caroline 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Totally wrong. I am on the verge of proposing to my gf and I have to say, at no point in the future would any little piece of fluff get in on the act. I'd take more pride in working with her to evolve the relationship through whatever.
Your friend sounds naive or unscrupulous and either way, she'll wake up one day wondering what the hell she's done with the time she's throwing away collecting trinkets. I firmly believe there are lessons you need to learn about relationships before you can commit to one and your friend is not getting any of them right now, and it sounds like neither are you.
But thats only my point of view. Do what you want... if you are looking for someone to sanction your behaviour... so go ahead, do it, knock yourself out. I'm sure it'll be a blast. As long as you are happy, what else matters and you'll be able to tell your kids what its like to fly in 1st class, maybe they'll even fly it themselves one day?
2006-10-29 06:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
its wrong as if the wife found out she would be hurt but a lot of people are quick to judge when they have not been in this situation themselves!!a female can be promised love and everything from a married man and if they feel insecure and alone then they can accept this as they feel they are someone special and they end up hurt but i think its unfair when people cheat intentionally to get a buzz or whatever but i dont believe people should critisize others when they have never been in the other womans or mans shoes!!
2006-10-29 06:29:07 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
I am not single(sorry but had to post) I was single once!!
Morally, this is wrong and damaging.
No one gets hurt.
Correction. Everyone gets hurt.
Husbands and wives can get very hurt if this is found out.
STD, AIDS, Hep B and C hurts....
Chances are this guy and girl may sleep with other people.
Unwanted pregnancies hurt....Unwanted children....hurt.
AIDS hurts and can hurt the innocent.
Hep B and C hurts and there is no cure for Hep C at present.
Lots of people get hurt.
Look at the bigger picture.
I have known people to take their own lives when their
marriage has broken down because of this.....
Tempatation comes with a cost.
2006-10-29 06:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
wrong or right is relative. evidently your friend is all about the money. and oviously the guy its about capturing some youth. of course their is a victim here the wife. and anybody that thinks telling makes things right is wrong. geting a conscious after the fact wont help. society makes laws for a beter society and to keep all this type of activity to a minimum so that inoscent parties wont be hurt. So I will say there is no true answer.
2006-10-29 06:24:33 · answer #9 · answered by imphilthe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That says a lot about her character. Is it so wrong? Just because she hasn't been caught or found out she thinks there is nothing wrong. You should read Proverbs 7. God calls your friend a "fool" and those men are as "ox being led to the slaughter, or a fool being led to the stockade."
But its fun right now because shes not pregnant from a married man, she hasn't yet broken up a family, she hasn't had a sexual transmitted disease, she hasn't dealt with an angry or bitter wife bent on harming or destroying her. I hope God has mercy on her soul if she were to die in that sin. That's a one-way-ticket to hell.
Don't believe me read it for yourself
2006-10-29 07:03:31 · answer #10 · answered by cruizer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋