2006-10-29 05:26:46 · 22 answers · asked by bilalmasoodkhan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is a question of cultures, you can't really say one is right or wrong. western society will almost always say love, because we value it highly. but their are advantages to the eastern idea of arranged marriage. your mate is chosen on things that do actually matter in the long run; security, stability, etc. even in western society, plenty of people marry because it will better their lives (or they think it will). also, in arranged marriage, people work a little harder to get to know each other, make it work. you don't get a divorce, you figure it out. so many "love" marriages end in divorce, and i don't really see that as the point of marriage, or of love.
2006-10-29 05:35:29 · answer #1 · answered by Renee B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the people involved. There are pros and cons
to each. Love marriage is where you get to know the person very well before the marriage, and each person has strong feelings for the other. Arranged marriages usually have the people involved meeting each other for the first time, and it may take time for the love to blossom between the two, if at all. The problem with this type of marriage is the people agreeing to the marriage probably don't know each other very well before the marriage. I think since marriage is considered like a contract, you should know each other as well as possible before making a commitment.
On the other hand, I believe the divorce rate for arranged marriage is significantly lower than those in love marriages. The point is, whichever one you choose, the people in the marriage have to work together to make it successful, or it will be likely doomed for failure.
If you want to get divorced if your marriage doesn't work out,
then choose the love marriage. If you only want to get married once, then choose the arranged marriage. It depends on what the people want in a marriage.
2006-10-29 13:42:57 · answer #2 · answered by Answerer17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the american people will all say love marriage because that is what we are accustomed to today (and always have been as far I know). If you could look at our divorce rate (I do not know what that is but quite high) and look at divorce rates of arranged marriages---I think the love marriage would be higher. In an arranged marriage, if the couple could spend time together and back out if one was repulsed by the other, but I do not know anything about todays arranged marriages.
I have thought of this question many times in my life and wondered the same thing.
What are your views on the subject and are you facing an arranged marriage or just wondering??
Thank you
2006-10-29 14:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the couple and the families. Some people rush into love marriages or have a great love but don't get along with each other very well. Sometimes passions are too high or they fade. Other people have a serious, stable love, know each other very well and are good friends- they have good love marriages.
Some people have arranged marriages to please their families or they find out later that they don't get along with the person they are married to. Sometimes people have arranged marriages and find out they get along with the partner very well and then a deep love grows.
The most important thing in any marriage is to make sure that the two people know themselves and each other very well and that they are honest with each other from before the marriage. I've seen good and bad from both.
2006-10-29 13:30:56 · answer #4 · answered by blahblah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An arranged marriage seems more like a business transaction to me, but, it has it's purpose that way. The rules and regulations are pretty much set in stone and have less chance of divorce. Luck would have it that this partnership grows into love. But has no garrantee of love. Whereas, the love marriage has a lovely start, but the rules of marriage are not taken as seriously, therefore the breakdown and leads to divorce. Which is better? That depends upon the individual.
2006-10-29 13:36:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love marriage
2006-10-29 13:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by Jas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In today's times, love marriage. If you marry someone for any other reason, you're just asking for misery. If you were a medieval prince and had to marry someone to keep the country intact, then I would say arranged marriage because then the safety of the country would take first place to your own needs. But now, as that most probably isn't the case, marry someone you love, not someone your parents choose.
2006-10-29 13:32:08 · answer #7 · answered by Dancer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love. That's my opinion. Love marriage is the best, it has all the right emotions. A arranged marriage may be good and all, but love is the best
2006-10-29 13:30:39 · answer #8 · answered by Kyle A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're kidding, right? Everybody knows that arranged marriage don't make people happy. So obviously the better one is loved marriage.
2006-10-29 13:31:27 · answer #9 · answered by Smartie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would go for love marriage but it all depends which culture you grow up from. I have known of many very successful arranged marriages.
2006-10-29 13:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by jackbauer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋