I want to move out and on,but my problem is he tricked me into giving him $11,000 several years ago for the down payment on a house we both share(we've been living together about 7 years).The house is in his name,as he had the best chance for the lowest interest rate,but, he hasnt added me onto the deed in any way,as promised(he has not given me any of the $11,000 back,either).I pay more than 1/2 of the bills every month,plus I am the one who cleans all of the house,cooks all his meals,tends the yard,pets,ect...Too late Ive come to realize he is nothing more than a lazy,self-centerd,snot-nosed mommas boy.How do I get out of this mess?And how can I recoup my losses?
2006-10-29 05:24:45 · 7 answers · asked by ms ellimae 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
set up your own personal savings account and put money in it each week. Don't tell him about the account.
Don't put out.
Buy stuff for yourself on his credit cards, oh, maybe $11,000 worth. If you buy jewelry, couldn't you turn around and sell it?
Yeah, I know, not wonderful ideas, but it's an answer nonetheless
2006-10-29 05:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you do move out. I know that it hurts that he used you to a point of despair but your heart is more important than money right now. You need to heal and the only way to heal is to accept Jesus into your heart and allow Him to begin that healing process. God sees your hurt and He is ready to heal you if you allow Him to. That money is nothing that God can't give you back. He will give you back all that and some and restore your heart so He can bless you with someone who will appreciate you for your beautiful heart. It's all up to you now dear because the Lord is ready to heal you. It's going to take courage in the Lord to see you through this ordeal. We can do nothing without the Lord and He knows this and within our hearts we know it too. Just know I pray for you as you make a change for the better. You deserve to have better than what you had. God bless you in your decisions.
2006-10-29 14:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by tfjfiggers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check with your local laws, but I believe you are Common Law Married to this guy. If, so, you should be able to file for divorce and get into the possesions. If not, you may still be able to take him to court over the $11,000. Since it was a loan. I wish you luck!
2006-10-29 15:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by southernbelle966 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know you want to move out?
first I would seek a lawyer and ask what your options are.
What state do you live in, do they have the common law rule?
do you have proof that you gave 11,000 into the house?
I ask all of these because they can offer different options....
If he doesn't know...seek getting your name on the deed.
Wait.....then bingo sell the house and split the differences.
All with smile of course!
Common law makes it half yours.....and everything in it.
Proof that you paid...makes it easier to seek the legal advice and go to court.
Good luck
Bless wishes.
2006-10-29 13:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get out of it by leaving. Unless you take him to court, you won't get anything back. Even if you take him to court, you stand a chance of not getting it back. You should never had done this without some sort of contract or your name on the title. I hope you learned your lesson. Sorry that it had to be the hard way.
2006-10-29 13:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there is anyway you can prove he borrowed the money, a taped confession, bank statements etc. call a attorney to see if the statue of limitations has ran out, sue him.
2006-10-29 13:41:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactally what you are talking about. It all sounds sssoooo very familiar. My story exactally. No advice, except, try to screw him as hard as you possibly can.
2006-10-29 13:40:03 · answer #7 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋