I have a girlfriend,when I first know her, she seems like an Angel to me.But after 5 years of relationship,I feel that she is make use of my relationship with her.She is new in certain trade,when she first know me, but I am good at that trade.I had taught her alot of things about that trade.I have doubt that she used me as a stepping stone for this career.She even sleep with me.Does that means it a Trade off?PLs advise me, I am so confuse in such a relationship?What should I do?I still love her so much.Should I take make her pay for making use of me,orlet it because I am stupid.Because of her,I ruin my reputation in this trade.Am I stupid?I think I use my heart to thr instead of using my brain.Do u agree?Give me your best opinion,Please!!!!!!!
2006-10-29 05:13:34 · 12 answers · asked by curiousmode 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Down n depressed
2006-10-29 05:19:05 · update #1
OK I hope it wouldn't take you five years to finally figure out that she is using you........try this. How about you stop helping her with this "trade" and see how she acts then. If she is still all lovey dovey, and still your girl, then she's sincere, but if she flies off the handle and start giving you attitude because you're no longer helping her, then yeah, she's using you.
2006-10-29 05:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by KryBaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know her very well, but it doesn't sound like a trade off and it doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. The only way I would accuse her of using you is if she started treating you mean or different. But if she hasn't shown that her feelings have changed for you, then you have nothing to worry about. I think it's great that you were willing to help her in a trade. It means you two had alot in common from the start by being in the same trade. Your not stupid and I don't think you did anything wrong. You were just helping her and while in the process of helping her in the trade, you both fell in love romantically. Unless I'm missing something, I don't see anything wrong with this picture. You seem like a nice guy willing to help a young lady out.
2006-10-29 13:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a good whack on the head.
Whatever the situation, you need to keep your professional life separate from your personal life. I don't mean coaching her, but you obviously overstepped the boundaries by trashing your personal reputation along the way.
Wake up dude. Different tacks for different relationships, whatever works man. If you dun like the way she's taking this relationship and you can't resolve it from talking it out, you might wanna consider moving on.
Let me just conclude by saying you dug your own pit, so it's really up to you to climb outta it.
2006-10-30 00:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by Hang Tough 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offense but you're an idiot how can u think she used you its been 5yrs if u felt like this why b with her so long u should b happy to know that she learn from u and that she made it thanks to u don't feel betray I'm sure she loves u the same u made her better now u need to support her and keep on helping her if u made mistakes I'm sure it wasn't because of her u was distracted just b happy to u u made it better for her to continue just love her and find something else as a trade
2006-10-29 13:29:00 · answer #4 · answered by horsnetnet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you have a girlfriend for 5 years and not marry the girl ?
Sounds to me like she is going to take her knowledge and move on.
Sounds like you left her no choice...
What is the trade you taught her ?
Why do you care if she practices this trade ?
How is she going to ruin your reputation ?
None of this makes any sense...
2006-10-29 13:17:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You taught her what you knew because you cared about her. how you ruined your own reputation because of her is beyond me, but you cannot now make her pay for training her unless it was agreed upon before hand that she would. You dont say how your relationship is now and that makes a difference.
2006-10-29 13:17:11 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already figured her out! Try to get on with your life without her . You know what she did, don't get down to her level and make her pay for it. Try now to salvage what is left of your reputation somehow as best as you can and get on with a happier life. Forgive but do not forget your experience.
2006-10-29 13:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOD. I don,t believe you. 5 yrs and only 1 relationship. You must be out of your mind. I bet a dollar to a pound she,s shagging everyone but you. Get out and YOU find someone else. Everyone where i live has 3/4 girls on the fishing line at one time. Why put all your eggs in one basket, I bet she,s not.
2006-10-29 13:25:43 · answer #8 · answered by Purple 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It does not matter at all if you still love her if she doesn't return those feelings.
If does not matter at all if she used you to learn a trade...you can't "unlearn" her.
My advice is to chalk this up to a learning experience and move on with your life a smarter person.
2006-10-29 13:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't be down or think you are stupid. She used you. I'm sorry that you made a bad name for yourself in your trade. Just remember next time to be careful. Life is all about learning. You just had to learn the hard way. I hope everything works out for you.
2006-10-29 13:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋