and for them to be good friends and go hang out and such.
and for the 23 year old to play Yu-gi -oh cards with the 14 year old boy and have sleepovers with him.
is this.... normal? would you do it?
2006-10-29 05:01:41 · 15 answers · asked by Red Crayon Aristocrat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
no hes not a Big Brother. he just met the kid through another 21 year old and they all hang out.
this guy was a friend of mine and I stopped talking to him because of this "problem..."
2006-10-29 05:09:02 · update #1
ummm.... I'm pretty sure it's not a sexual thing....
they just hand out, sleepover, and sometime he will hang out with the kids other 14 year old friends too. they even get together and play poker.
sometimes the 22 year old would even neglect his girlfriend for this kid.
2006-10-29 06:19:03 · update #2
No, it's defintely not normal. That's an eight year age difference, which would be fine if it were a 32 year old man hanging with a 40 year old man, because they're both mature men. This particular age gap is creepy as hell. Not to be accusatory, but it could be a Michael Jackson situation. If he's molesting or not molesting, it just isn't right. Either way, the older guy has serious problems. How do the 14 year old boys parents feel about this. I would cringe at the thought of my 14 year old son (if I had a child) hanging out with a grown man.
2006-10-29 05:38:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No this is wrong why ask this ? If he's someone u know if the 14 and u think something is going on talk too 14 old mom or dad cause if something happens and u already knew it will stay on your heart the rest of your life thinking to yourself.and by the way he's jail bate
2006-10-29 06:03:40 · answer #2 · answered by gxsilver1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are some ideas: * Take out some fun games... can never go wrong with Twister. * Junk food... sleepovers are meant to be fun & a time to not care what one eats so let them have some chips, chocolate, etc. * Also rent some movies... some scary ones, yet let the last movie they'll see be a funny one so they don't have any nightmares. * Karaoke... put on some of their favourite music that they can sing to. Those are some of the things I did when younger... with luck she'll have fun. ^_^
2016-05-22 05:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends...is the guy the father or an uncle or a brother?
Um...otherwise. NO. There is nothing wrong with a man and a boy having a relationship (mentor/mentee), but to have sleepovers...No.
Do a background check. Supervise (always), feel free to tell the man to leave...it is okay to be rudeto keep your children safe.
especially if the man is pretty insistant on "alone-time"
Defanately not normal
2006-10-29 05:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by silverback487 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know there is suh a big age gap I mean 9 years? that is really big age gap. I don't know... I think they can still hang out just not like sleepovers and such. I don't know that just seams kind of off. sorry it is just how I feel. and to answer your question in the first place, I don't think it is normal and I would not do it.
2006-10-29 05:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by Juice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Not normal. Does it happen? Yes. Should it be carefully monitored? Yes. Is he a big brother, like in those programs? Why doesn't he hang out with people his own age? Keep an eye on it.
2006-10-29 05:05:31 · answer #6 · answered by RIDLEY 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The older guy could just be stunted in emotional growth. If something traumatic happened when he was younger that can sometimes cause a person to stop maturing right where they are. I would watch it, but not panic at this point.
2006-10-29 05:03:57 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa, That's me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What could a 22 year old want with a 14 year old boy? I'd be watching those two VERY closely!
2006-10-29 05:04:52 · answer #8 · answered by miyazaki75 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would think theres more than meets the eye going on.
2006-10-29 05:05:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds a little odd. What could they possibly have in common?!
2006-10-29 05:03:48 · answer #10 · answered by mkupgrl0015 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋