ok this is been a lifetime (20 years) problem and the more i grow up the more it frustrate me from the inside. I did have only 2 relationship out of 6 that i really enjoy sex and took away my fear. the other 4 ended also for this reasons. Now if i start with a new relationship i go back to square one the lack of self confidence do not help. But is it really up to me and/or the partner that in somehow have been more sensitive to my feeling and not pushing me. Am I really so intricated?? i really wish it could be more simple. so any suggestion will be appreciate and if any one out there have similar problem with or without solution fell free to reply thanks
2006-10-29 04:55:50 · 7 answers · asked by just a friend 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
you need to find the right person and relax. once you get used to the fact that sex is very basic and generally the same with everyone you will get used to it. there always are some variances but you will learn if you keep an open mind and learn to please yourself too. don't always think it has to be fantastic every time, cause for guys anytime is good. no sex is bad sex for guys. all you need to really learn is if someone really cares about you they will take the time to play and have fun with you not use you
2006-10-29 05:04:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering some of the unplanned results of sex, like PREGANANCY or STDs, it's only natural for you to feel scared and intimidated....one little frolick in the sack can result in your life never being the same again!
There is NO right or wrong way to feel...what good would the experience be if you "went for it" and were only doing it out being pressured??
I can thoroughly understand why a woman would feel that way...if you got pregnant, you're the one stuck with carrying it for the next 9 months.
Ultimately, you need to answer for yourself just what exactly it is that you're truly afraid of.
2006-10-29 05:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are a very sensitive woman and need a wise mature man who is a sensitive, good and practiced lover...
I know it is difficult to trust and relax when in those most intimate moments.....You need to explain your problem to your lover before you get started...Any man worth having will understand and make allowances for your comfort and pleasure....
2006-10-29 05:05:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm kind of an exception: a 36 year-old man who has avoided intimacy and relationships all my life. You are at least average by my standards, and probably better than that. Hope that helps a little.
2006-10-29 07:38:57 · answer #4 · answered by TarKettle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have had the same problem with men but then someone told me that have i ever thought about it the man thats not doing his part and not you. or maybe you comparing your partners to one another and not knowing it but dont worry cause most of the time it is the man.
2006-10-29 05:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by beebe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you just need someone to be comfortable with--i agree the right guy will let you tune in to your comfort zone. another thing be comfortable with yourself, be confident, and partners should understand your stand on the matter, speak your mind!! =)
2006-10-29 05:01:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to find the right man.
2006-10-29 04:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋