what do i do???

Question

well me and my ex have been sepeated for almost a year now...we have a 2 year old and we have been talking alot for the last 2months? we have been abusive and verbaly also....i live with my parents and he thinks that it is wrong but i had no where to go when we split....i live 100 miles away and i take the baby to him and pick her up every other weekend.....he says that i should because he didn't tell me to move that far away.....i think that he should meet me half way...but i don't think that the child should have to suffer just because of him being an ***????am i wrong and what would you do in my situation??? also he wants me to move back to st.louis to accomidate his needs and so he can see her more???no child support order is in effect and he doesn't pay for any thing????i made a promis when she was first born not to....i did it to my first and he hated me for it????

Answer 1

WELL YOU KNOW WHAT HE NEEDS TO MEET YOU HALF WAY BECAUSE THAT'S RIDICULOUS HE ALREADY DOESN'T PAY CHILD SUPPORT AND ABOUT THAT YOU NEED TO GET SUPPORT FOR YOUR DAUGHTER EVEN IF HE WILL HATE YOU FOR IT WHO CARES YOU GUYS ARE NO LONGER TOGETHER

Answer 2

It takes two to break a relationship and the impression you have given is your ex is an idiot. He sounds immature and selfish. I understand that it is important for your child to have as much contact with the father as possible but to subject the child to a 200 mile round trip every other weekend just isnt on. It seems you are bending over backwards to accomadate this guy and he is making stupid unreasonable demands!!! You went to your parents to get away from this guy why the hell would you move away from the only support you have. His attitude ( he didnt tell you to move so far away so you should do all the running around) is immature, either he wants to see his child or not,its not about your relationship breaking up, and if he was any knd of decent father he would be providing for his child regardless of any child support order. Im not saying he is completely wrong because you are allowing all this and helping to create this situation. So what you made a promise....you made that when you thought you were dealing with a mature reasonable person,he still has to provide for his child...it really shouldnt be about hating you. I think its time you got some strength and started fighting for your kids.If they wanna hate let them hate you,you cant change that. You got the love of your family and children so be strong for them....am sorry to say this but please stop being such a push over . Wish you luck.

Answer 3

WELL THE WAY I SEE IT IF THE PERSON WANTS TO SEE THEIR CHILD THEY WILL BE WILLING TO DO ANYTHING FOR THEIR KIDS AND AS FOR THE CHILD SUPPORT UN LESS HE GIVES U $$ FOR THE BABY U SHOULD TAKE HIM FOR CHILD SUPPORT! A BABY IS NOT CHEEP I HAVE A DAUGHTER AND I DID THE SAME THING I DID NOT TAKE HIM FOR CHILD SUPPORT AND SHE IS 1 AND HER DAD IS IN JAIL SO NOW I KNOW BETTER IT IS 2 LATE.. AND YOU DID NOT MAKE THIS BABY ALONE SO HE SHOULD MEET U HALF WAY AND IF HE DOES NOT IT WILL BE HIS LOSE DON'T CAVE IN OR MOVE TO ACCOMIDATE HIS NEEDS HE SHOULD BE THE 1 TO MOVE WHEN U SPLIT UP YOU DID WHAT U HAD TO DO TO MAKE A GOOD LIFE FOR U AND U CHILD!!!YOU ARE A GREAT MOTHER AND DON'T THINK ANY THING LESS!!!! WE CAN DO IT!!!!

Answer 4

I think to meet half way is fair. However, the child's needs must come first. If you don't mind me saying so, he sounds like a selfish individual, and instead of thinking that the child has to do a lot of traveling in order to see him, and it may be tiring for them etc, your ex is only concerned that he may have to go out of his way a little in order to see the child. Surely, any man worth his salt will meet you half way. The only thing to do is to lay your cards on the table and tell him, for the sake of the child, half way or no way.

Answer 5

Dear Wendy,
I think your Husband is a real Looser,and you can be happy that you are separated.You can do way better then that,put your Foot down and tell hem where to go,don't give in to his demands,go to Court and get Child Support,If he like to see his Child,he should come to you,not but more financial Burden on you,he is a real Jerk.I wish you all the Best,keep your Head up,God bless you and your child,K.

Answer 6

You do what you feel is best for the child. If you feel that it's in HER best interest to spend time with him, then you decide how to proceed. You don't owe him a damn thing. If you had to move out because the situation was intolerable, that is not your problem, it's his.

I strongly suggest you talk to a lawyer soon. If you can't afford one, call your county bar association to find a public defense lawyer.

Answer 7

First of all, get him to paying child support. This child is a part of both you, not just you. Secondly, stop accomodating him, if he can't drive up to pick her up , or at least meet halfway, then tough for him, he isn't paying support anyways. Don't move back just to satisfy him, he sounds like an immature d*** anyways.

Answer 8

Make your decisions based on what you want. That is your right as you have the Child and not forcing him to pay support. If he wants things his way then he should pay on his own without being forced too. Otherwise the ball is in your court. CHILD SUPPORT SUCKS and is so biased.

Answer 9

hey girl you have to do what you have to do,if that mean the you need to move 100 miles away still you have to do it. he can not demand you to move closer to him for any reason especially if he is not helping you to support the baby, don't worry about what he want but about what you need and do what ever you have to do to take care of that baby.
GOD BLESS YOU and good luck

Answer 10

Go to court and let them set up visitation and child support. They will do what they feel is in the best interest of your daughter and fair to both of you. It took two people to conceive her and those two people should share equally in her life for her benefit.