i had an hot arguement with my husband over a problem regarding kids.he said ,uwere fond of kids then its ur responsibility.when i said are not they ur kids, he said how does i know they are mine. at first i cried thinking that he said such a wrong thing to me. but now i m worried does he really think so or this type of husband-wife arguments are normal. we are married since last three years.
2006-10-29 04:47:27 · 11 answers · asked by jugnu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WHATEVER HE SAID MAY BE IN ANGRY MOOD SEE SOME GOOD TIME AND TELL HIM REGARDING HIS MISTAKE. EVERYTHING WILL BE ALRIGHT DO NOT MAKE ISSUE OF THESE WORDS.
2006-11-02 02:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a manipulative jerk and you need to learn how to spell. If he truly has doubts file for a divorce and ask for child support. If he says that he doubts the children are his the courts will order DNA testing on all of the children at his expense and then he will know for sure. In the mean time you're getting rid of a jerk and making him be a more responsible parent (even if it is court ordered.) It is never normal for a husband to deny or question the paternity of his children, unless his wife has been unfaithful. Sorry, immature, and selfish men say this to their wife's to try and dodge their share of the responsibility to their children. I say ditch the jerk and get what you can from the courts. Your children deserve to have a better role model than him.
2006-10-29 13:00:43 · answer #2 · answered by BetteBoop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay well I will tell you this...when me and my husband fight...and we do alot...i have threatened divorced, knowing I would never actually do it, but he has said to me that the kids are not his...suggesting I have cheated, but I have never have and if he was to believe such a thing why does he not presue it more....I mean if my husband actually thought these kids was not his he would make sure of it....he is a tight guy and trust me if these kids was not his he would make sure of it and not pay for anything.
2006-10-29 12:54:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello,
you really need to have a long talk with him.....ask him if he trusted you when he married you?? also i would get a dna test to prove to him that they are his....also what would bring this type of aggresion to you from him.....have you thought of a divorce or just a seperation for a while????because something may be going on that you don't know about and maybe he won't tell you.....and no this type of arguement isn't normal my parents were never acused of not being the father....i would really think about the relationship and if it is worth continuing in it????i wouldn't personaly put up with that type of talk from my childrens
fathers.....thats sort of mental abuse because its a trust issue he has with you....but i would look into it more and see where he is getting his info from.....
2006-10-29 12:58:57 · answer #4 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would seriously consider seeing a marriage counselor. If he won't go with you go alone. You would be surprised at how many people go by themselves.
This will get your thinking straight and put you on the right track because you have some decisions to make.
Your children are the most important right now and they do not need a person in their lives who denies them especially their own father.
Good luck,
2006-10-29 12:51:58 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no that is not a normal married argument, or at least it should not be. You should ask him why he feels they are not his kids and seek some counseling for the two of you. This needs to be resolved as soon as possible, it is to early in the marriage for this stuff.
2006-10-29 12:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
men in general run away from responsabilities... but if you have this kind of arguments there is somewhere a big problem..if you are married for only 3 years, it means your child (children) are little...he feels neglected. all Your attention goes to the children. try to give him more attention...let the chidren to Your parents and have a special night like in the beginning...
The spark of love will come again and this kind of arguments will go away....
2006-10-29 12:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by googletrei 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband is a dope if you were faithful the kids are of course his child raising is a joint effort yes me and my wife disagree but we compromise work on him or dump him because any stif d*ck can make a baby but it takes a real man to be a father
2006-10-29 12:54:43 · answer #8 · answered by cmdogg38 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get couples councilling.... this is NOT normal to lash out to this degree... get help... and don't let the children be exposed to this nonscence!
2006-10-29 12:51:57 · answer #9 · answered by T-man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey if u r the one whos leaving him then just go but if u have kids think how it would affect them my parents are devorced
2006-10-29 12:50:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋