im 16 and my mom found out im dating a gurl when she asked me if it was true i said yes and she don't want to accept it because im a fem and i have always been around guys and she made me tell her dat its just dat im confuse since dat was wat she wanted to hear. She also said that if i am shell neva will accept me she also blamed this on my gurlfriend since she is a lot older then me. and i dont want my gurlfriend to go through rough times cuz of me so wat can i do so my parents can understand me
2006-10-29 04:36:20 · 9 answers · asked by jb5622 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
tell your mom that you have to be who you are and if she loves you she will accept you even if she does not agree with your choices.
2006-10-29 04:42:17 · answer #1 · answered by jusme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There isn't really anything you can do until they want to accept it. I know that my relationship was not accepted until I went through the heartache of breaking up with her and everyone saw how bad I was. I also think the amount of time we have been going out also makes them aware that I'm not going through a phase.
How much is your girlfriend willing to stand by you? I know that my girl and I went through all of this stuff when I was coming out and it made our relationship a lot stronger because we had to rely on each other so quickly.
I think generally it just takes time. If your girlfriend wants to be with you she will stay around. If it's to hard for her maybe try to be with her again later. If she doesn't ever want to try again then is that really what you want?
2006-10-29 16:42:03 · answer #2 · answered by gretphemelger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is embarrassed of what people might think of HER. Maybe she doesnt want people saying bad things about you to her because she doesnt know how to handle it.
You mom might be upset now, but there's no way she will dis-own you for making your own choices in life. Just tell her to look at it this way, "Atleast your not on drugs laying in a ditch somewhere all strung out and waiting on your next dose of heroin". It may take awhile for her to adjust to the fact that her little girl is a lesbian, but she will eventually get used to it.
She probably had some preconcieved image of you being with the high school football quarter back, and pictured you going to the prom with him, getting married, having children the traditional way, and all the wonderful things that Moms dream about for their little girls> Now she just has to start all over again and create herself some new dreams for ya.
2006-10-29 04:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by Help Me Help You 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be patient shes just denying it at the moment. When u get older she'll understand more. Im going thru the same thing and I dont bring up my orentiation I just go on with my life and be with anygirl I wanna be with
2006-10-29 05:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by bklyn583 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your gurlfriend to come to your house and permanently let your mother see u two are kissing each other and do something to proof that u and her are lesbian
2006-10-29 04:40:47 · answer #5 · answered by candyshop1994 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you dont neccarilly have to be a lesbian...Tell your mom you Bisexual that way, what she gonna do right, abanded you because of how you personally feel...i dont think so...if she really loved you she would except you for who you are, as her daughter.
2006-10-29 04:40:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you told your parents and they dont understand just give them time and if they dont except you for who you are then just move on
2006-10-29 04:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by mschmitty920 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
french your girlfriend infront of her!
2006-10-29 04:39:33 · answer #8 · answered by Lauren ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem :(
2006-10-29 07:54:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋