she is constantly hitin on me and i hate it! i am not les or am i how do i tel
2006-10-29 04:32:51 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Just say it unless you're enjoying her advances !!!
2006-10-29 04:34:04 · answer #1 · answered by IloveMarmite 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Refuse to talk to her about your sexual preference. If she persists, get a new friend who does not keep after you after about something personal that you would rather not discuss. Believe me, if you have no sexual desires towards her or any other female, you are not homosexual. Do not let her convince you that you are. Shame on her for doing that, some friend. I used to have 3 friends that were lesbians, and they were after me to try it. I soon tired of the constant defending myself, found friends that I was more comfortable around. Besides, sex should not be an issue in a friendship. She is attracted to you, and if she cannot accept the fact you are not interested in her, move on. I really think that if you are not homosexual, you shouldn`t hang around with them, because of the ongoing disagreements.
2006-10-29 04:39:42 · answer #2 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not very nice of your friend. You should just tell her to leave you alone, that she's acting like an obnoxious man who won't take no for an answer, and if she starts telling you you're homophobic, deck her one. The reason I say this is because she is not returning your respect - you clearly are accepting of her sexual orientation, while she is clearly NOT accepting of yours! True friends accept each other for what they are. You say you hate your friend hitting on you, it makes you uncomfortable, then it's extremely inconsiderate of her to do this to you, and could even be counted as sexual harassment. If she turns around and says she doesn't want to be friends anymore, then it isn't really your problem.
2006-10-30 08:25:12 · answer #3 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is really hoping that you are because she wants you. If you are uncomfortable in any way then tell her so. You dont have to be subject to that just because she is your friend. If she knows you well enough then she should pick up on the fact that you dont like the things she is saying or doing around you. Seriously, sit down with her and just let her know where you stand. You dont want it to get out of control, do you?
2006-10-29 04:38:08 · answer #4 · answered by Help Me Help You 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Were you my best friend?
Are you sure you're not just jumping to conclusions? I remember when I came out, and all these ugly straight girls were absolutely convinced that I was hitting on them. In fact, they couldn't have been further from the truth, because I found them stupid and repulsive.
Is your friend trying to discuss sexuality with you? Is she just trying to make you understand what she's going through? Is she just trying to hug you or stand close to you. Think about what she is doing and ask yourself, "How would I feel if a straight girl was doing this to me?" I see straight girls hug each other, kiss each other on the cheek, and call each other names like "honey," and "sweetie." I did this to my friends before I came out, but when I continued to do so after I came out, they freaked out.
If you still think she's attracted to you, it is probably because she has a thing for girls who can't spell. Learn to spell and the problem will go away.
2006-10-29 05:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to make you feelings known to this girl, you like her a a friend not as a sexual partner. If she doesn't take the hint then try to avoid her, maybe then she will get the message. If she doesn't , then end the friendship, you don't need that sort of behaviour from anyone.
2006-10-29 05:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by colin.christie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to sit down and tell her that her hitting on you makes you very uncomfortable and ask her not to do it. If she doesn't get it then tell her you are not a lesbian, you don't have feelings for her outside of friendship and if she is your friend then she needs to respect you. You don't want to lose her as a friend, but you will stop hanging out with her because of how uncomfortable she makes you feel.
2006-10-29 04:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by Redd Morgan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How do you tell whether or not you're a lesbian? If you do not desire sexually, members of your own sex. I would simply let your lesbian friend know that you're not interested in being "hit on", and you just want to be her friend -- period! If she persists in her unwanted advances, you'll have to end the friendship.
2006-10-29 04:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by gldjns 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont accept on one to make pressure on u. U have to be patient, wait for real love, give ur self a chance to know what it feels to be loved by a boy...
Think ur friend is not self confident and she needs to dragg u in...so abusive and so much envy in her...be strong and do what u want not what she says.
2006-10-29 04:35:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i take it you only have feelings 4 her as a friend! you need to speak out and tell her how you feel dont be shy about it honesley the sooner you tell her the better! you need to find a right time and place mabe wen noones around sit her down and have a talk with her tell her how u feel. you will also feel better.
2006-10-29 05:02:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not a very good friend if she keeps coming on to you when you don't want her to. If she doesn't stop, spend a whole day eating smelly things like garlic, then breathe heavily on her and move in - watch her run!
2006-10-29 04:36:08 · answer #11 · answered by Just_wondering 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋