I think I'm having a mid twenties life crisis if there is such a thing. I'm tired of trying to reach the goals and standards I never set for myself. I'm not old but lately I feel that way. I can't stand this boring grind of every day life. I need to recharge somehow. I want to just run away from all this stupid dramatic stuff in my life and just get away for a while. I know that won't solve anything but at least I can forget about all this stuff for a while. I value everyones opinion but I would sort of like to see what some of the older people on here have to say.
2006-10-29 04:32:03 · 9 answers · asked by steven g 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Looking back when I was in my twenties(many moons ago) I would have to say I went through a similar experience but that was because of what I was dealing with. I felt old because my father developed at illness at a relatively young age that caused early dementia and I had to help my mom care for him.
I think it is possible to have these crisis's in our life especially when we have to deal with "stuff".
Are you finding that you have to deal with a lot right now?
More than your young shoulders can handle? I somehow sense this (by your comment, "stupid dramatic stuff in my life)
That's tough and I know how that feels.
Are you depressed or just in a rut?
The last (worst) thing to do is to run away from it. Chances are it will still be there when you get back.
Time out is good though... Having some distractions that will help you relax and enjoy yourself a bit more will definately help you and maybe make you realise that your problems are not so bad after all.
When you are so young, you tend to look back and think that you have lived a long time, but you havn't. You have lots of more roads to travel and lots of good things to enjoy.
Life is indeed what you make it - even if it throws you some mean punches now and then.
Finding good friendships(quality - not quantity) is great.
Looking for a hobbies and discovering where your strengths are is always a good "ego" booster.
Learning to accept yourself and also your faults and weaknesses. We all have these!!
Sometimes life may be preparing you for something big and dramatic and now is the time to start learning.
But all, in all, try not to stress too much about it. You do have the world at your feet.
If these other serious matters are so pressing, try talking to someone or perhaps a counsellor.
Keep a diary, write down your thoughts(you will look back and see where you have come from).
take care and keep smiling : )
2006-10-29 04:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone goes through what u are dealing with. Some of us do run away from it; others deal with it as best we can. This is a time in your life were u are learning what u are made of. U are starting to get to know yourself and it might not be who u thought u were. A change of pace is what u need. It may be a new job a new place to live or just a change in the way u handle these dramatic things. Define what u want and were u want to be. Set goals based on what u want not on what anybody around u wants for u. Avoid turning to drinking to sooth the boredom. That will only lead to more problems. I am 26 and this is just my advise based on my experiences. I worked construction since I got out of high school. I had the same friends and lived in the same place. I was in a position that was based on what everyone expected of me. I broke that mold and came into my own. Good luck
2006-10-29 04:50:36 · answer #2 · answered by dustin g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm older (50, which is the new 30, by the way!) have had several life challenges and dealt with them all differently; In my 20's I was lucky enough to be working for a travel agency which allowed my day to day boredom to be handled by travel; there's something wonderfully fresh and rejuvenating about hopping in a plane and in 5-7 hours being in another country or across the US; you can relax and try/do things you may never have done at home. Why not try to get a job with an International Company that allows you to transfer to another location for a while (like American Express or Starbucks); Also, just as a day to day type thing, I got used to doing things on my own like going to the movies, eating at a restaurant, visiting museums, taking classes at a local college of continuing education...you meet different people, make new friends and this alone is enough to refresh and stimulate your body and soul! Good Luck! Who was it that said "The only thing to fear is fear itself?"...Teddy Roosevelt, maybe? But it's true! Be secure in yourself, take chances and switch up the "norm".
2006-10-29 05:11:33 · answer #3 · answered by sweet ivy lyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Steven -
Interesting question. I'd guess you have a hard time being yourself because you care what other people think about you, a very natural and practical reaction.
No doubt in the past you have gotten some negative feedback while in some experimental phase; I know I have. The natural tendency is to conform to the average. As the Japanese say, the nail that sticks up gets hammered down.
The sad truth is that few of us can get away with being much different from society's expectations. No one wants to risk acquiring some label like weirdo, geek or whatever.
The only suggestion I have is to take a risk and find some new friends with whom you can be yourself. See if you can find a club, sport or organization of like-minded people. If you're lucky, you can either find a group that is tolerant of differences or who have more things in common with you.
2006-10-29 04:52:17 · answer #4 · answered by Tom D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey my man im in my mid 20s to i felt the same way bout a year ago i was working construction just doing the same stuff everyday so i took bout a year off and traveled saw the rest of the country and just enjoyed life now a year later i feel better bout life and am glad to see everyday the only thing that was bad w/ taking a year off is the 20000 grand of credit card debt now but it made my life better
2006-10-29 04:37:29 · answer #5 · answered by mschmitty920 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go down and volenteer at a soup kitchen or go to another place no one knows you and watch yourself and how you react to different situations. you will learn what your true valves are and where you stand in life. go somewhere without money and see how you do with out the comforts of home. you can learn alot about yourself when you start new and no one knows you and you can be anything you want and start fresh, but are you willing to try and can you do it? experiment like that and take a step back and learn and obseve and interreact
2006-10-29 04:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yo,
Do some soul searching.
If you think your life is boring, simply try new stuff. Do thinks you want to and have not. This happens to everyone man. Just take a vacation. somewhere exotic and be a child again
2006-10-29 04:44:32 · answer #7 · answered by lekhaj5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Travel the world. See what lies in the other side of the boundry. Go somewhere far where no one knows you. Think about your life as a story of someone else. Try to see your life from different point of view.
2006-10-29 04:45:06 · answer #8 · answered by shkabaj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SiYo, Brother
Two Favor's For me!!! The Black Hills and Yellowstone just go and reflect, think, talk to who ever! But get the Hell away from the Rat Race!!! Do not take any Electrical equip!!! Just you maybe something that you wanted to read or need to Read!!!
Black Elk speaks Does for me!!!
Waho
2006-10-29 04:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋