Is this weird?? Because my husband really makes me mad..I would rather have my own room..somewhere to go and just have my own space rather then sharing a room with him. No I dont believe in cheating. Nothing else is wrong other then we fight all the time. I hate it and would like some space. Oh and I dont want to get a divorce.
2006-10-29 04:28:28 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay well we dont fight all the time but I would say about twice a week but still to much for me.
2006-10-29 05:08:10 · update #1
Oh and its about his family and my family...not anything else.
2006-10-29 05:09:00 · update #2
yes I understand and agree with you totally with some couples it is a most good luck it is not too much to ask for I was very friendly with my couch during my last marriage but I deceide i could not even live in the same house with that man any more!!!!
But my best friend had to have her own room her hubby snored and she could not sleep they only shared a bed for one thing and it was not sleep!!! they had there own room and bed each and it worked for them!!!
2006-10-29 04:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by mel416 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if the relationship has become taken for granted. For a couple in love to fight all the time just doesn't really make sense if you both really care for the others happiness. Now and then we all need our space. Especially if you are somewhat of an introvert, others can drain your energy, where you need good amounts of alone time. In any event, it sounds as if having an ability to go to your own place to relax and think is important to you...nothing wrong with that. Maybe if you don't share a room, then when you do, it may become special again.
2006-10-29 13:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by seattlego 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then get your own room. See if it changes anything. I am not sure it will change much though as undelying problem wouldn't have been fixed.
I think that if your feel strongly about having your own room then you should get it. At the same time I think you should both try to figure out why you fight all the time. It make be a simple communication issue or it could be something deeper. Look into it .
2006-10-29 12:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your own room. That's what I've done twenty years ago and my husband and I are still happily married. About your families on both sides, that is also a problem we had years ago. We made an agreement that in stead of badmouthed each others family, we'd rather say nothing at all. That also worked for both of us, In fact it worked so good that nowadays I like my in laws and he's also getting along fine with his!
2006-10-29 14:31:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the kitchen or the laundry room. I have never met a man that will follow you there!
But seriously, having your own space is great- men have their garages, why shouldn't we have our own space? Just some place that you can go to cool off, think about things before you say something you will regret later
2006-10-30 18:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by Kare S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If wanting this space allows you to run away and go to bed leaving issues unresolved then to me it is unhealthy for your marriage.
Resolve to get this stuff out and over before bedtime and you have a better chance of your marriage surviving.
Separation inside your house is still separation. Not a good plan for continued marriage.
I have yet to hear someone ask for " space" who is not trying to get out of the relationship. If you cannot maintain individuality in marriage without "space" then you have some structural defect in the relationship. Get that figured out soon.
2006-10-29 13:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have your own space where he cant bother you and respect you enough to give you that. but i dont think you should stop sleeping in the same bed. just make the rule that you dont talk about anything unpleasant and once you are in bed no fighting. if he wont agree, you can always go to your own space then. not sleeping with you mate may cause a rift.
2006-10-29 12:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by hamhead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married for a while now and our relationship is very good. We love and like each other. But our sleeping habits are very different.
We have a few extra rooms in our house....one bedroom is mine, one is his, and we share a room together.
We sleep together about three times a week and the rest of the time we're in our own room.
It makes our married life fun and we love this arrangement.
2006-10-29 13:01:26 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that is kind of unique question, but perhaps you should get you own room, if you don't have and extra room in you house make the living room you room. stay there at night or whenever you get in a an argument you can even spend the whole night watching TV. you can watch some funny shows to cheer you up
2006-10-29 12:33:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with that.
Men have their garages and women have "sewing rooms."
If you have the space, you can convert a spaer room into something girly. Put a sleeper sofa in there as well. Use that. But girl it up so he has so desire to come in.
After us kids moved out, that's what my Mom did. She has her own room and bathroom, in addition to the bedroom that they (my parents) share. My Dad has the family room, which contains his XBox, pool table, and DVD players.
2006-10-29 13:22:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋