We pay almost $500,oo childsupport to his former german ! wife.(Court decision made in GA) She gets also the german child support money E 154,00 = $ 180,oo, because they living in germany. She is working too. We found out she married back in 2005 her american boyfriend , because we get our taxpaper back ! Her new husband has a very good payed civillian-job in the US Army in germany.He claimed US-tax for my husbands 9 year old boy and get ! the child tax credit .They told us : bad luck ! They have much more money than we have plus the child tax credit now. I have a daughter she is 20 years old. She has our family name and she's still in school and we have to support her in every way. My husband start the adoption for her and we are waiting for the final decision from the court until end of nov/begin.dec.2006. Do I have to work more now to finance also his son ? We are not able to pay alot of money for a lawyer and go to court.
2006-10-29 03:26:09 · 8 answers · asked by miss moni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You will have to go to court and have the support ruling amended. Sorry, not something you can do on your own, guess you'd have to do the math on what the lawyer would cost vs. the outlay for the support each month.
If you're not living in the same jursidiction that did the original ruling call a family law attorney tomorrow and ask if you can file for an amended support order where you live now, or if you have to go back to the original court.
People get them amended all the time, no big deal. Your biggest problem is that if she is overseas she has to be given a chance to respond and appear in court to contest it, that will get messy compared to a local ex. Good luck.
2006-10-29 03:34:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say this but I think it takes a cold and heartless person as well as self-centered to not want to support their own child! He created this child, brought him into the world, it is his responsibility to make sure the child is cared for! If the roles were reversed and it was your daughter not living with you and he wanted to cut down on child support would you? As for the mother remarrying, its not the step-dad's job to pay for his step-son, however a good person wouldn't think twice about it they would, it is the father and mother of the child to take responsibility!
As a mother, I sometimes have a hard time keeping up with my families needs, new clothes, food, shelter, and everything else that goes a long with having a family, but let me tell you. My children come first, then my husband, and after that myself. If my husband and I ever divorce, we both know the one thing we will do is always make sure the kids are provided for!
The only thing that effect support when there is a remarriage after divorce is alimony, not child support. Do the right thing, be a responsible adult, set a good example and suck it up, be a parent and pay the money, even if that means you have to eat beans and rice!
2006-10-29 03:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the way it works...you have to go back to court and file paperwork to review the child support amount. They will ask her and you to provide details of your income and expenses. Since she is married, her spouses income will be included with hers as will yours and your husbands income. They use a simple calculation, how much time each parent has the child and income to figure out how much you should be paying for child support. Additionally, Germany has no ability to collect child support from an American citizen. Are you just sending a check to her for whatever Germany asks?? If so, stop now. Germany cannot do anything to you to collect child support, it is a matter for the American Courts. Usually, they will be able to claim this child on their taxes since the child lives with them.
2006-10-29 03:38:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is not making as much income as he was when the child support was first set down...he can return to court to ask for a reduction in payment amounts.
There is also one other thing...and please don't be offended....has he or would he ever consider relinquishing his parental rights to this child and allowing this other man to adopt him? Then he would be releived of all financial obligations. This would not mean that he could never see his child again....just until he turns 18 and then he could register with the Adoption Find (not the correct name) where parents and children can hook up.
These are just some thoughts.
2006-10-29 03:36:04 · answer #4 · answered by lildragonlexi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW.... don't think any question has ever made me more angry. You think your husband should support your child... who, if I may point out, is now an adult. This boy is YOUR husbands son and he is responsible to pay support. He divorced his exwife.... not his child. They are entitled to the tax return, they support the child. Her nationality is irrelevent, her marital status is irrelevent, her husbands income is irrelevent, and german child credit allowance is irrelevent. And hasn't your husband received the child tax credit for your daughter??? Didn't you receive child support for your daughter? If not, thats your own fault.
And no, you don't have to work more to support his son. You should do it to support YOUR daughter if you feel its necessary. Why should your husband support YOUR daughter and not HIS own son? When you marry someone who has children, you take on that responbility as well. If you aren't willing to do that, then don't marry someone with children. My husband and I have a blended family... He has two children from his first marriage, I have one, and we have one together. We also have the international aspect,... and two of them live in England, and two here with us. All are loved equally, and there's no distinction between them... they are all OUR children. The same should hold true for you and your husband. And... as I may point out, a 9 year old isn't old enough to support himself... and your 20 year old daughter is... whether she's in school or not. There are single parents in school that support their own children while they do it... and your daughter can't be bothered to get a part time job???
You seem like one of those women who wants to pretend your husband didn't have a life before he met you and you think he should disregard his obligations and responsibilities to his child as if he didn't exist. You give all step parents a bad name. Thank God the child has a step father that cares.... cause left up to you and your husband, he'd be homeless and hungry. Why not just let the man adopt him.... sounds like he'd be better off to be rid of you and your husband.
2006-10-29 04:07:05 · answer #5 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question gets asked every week and every week it is the same answer. NO, your income does not count towards figuring his child support obligations, only the income he earns. Regardless of what Bob and Wonder say.. The only reason to keep the money seperate is if he is behind on payment because if they take a tax return or deduct the account then for the past due then it will take regardless of who's income it came from. But for monthly owed amount again NO your income does not count
2016-05-22 05:19:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to answer this question is to ask you have you reviewed the divorce decree? The answer lies within the decree and I would suggest that you check with an attorney. Typically unless an adoption occurs the child support remains in effect. As for taxes that needs to be in the decree as well. Alternating years for claiming as an example. She probably is the "head of household giving her that advantage.
Good luck!
2006-10-29 03:33:00 · answer #7 · answered by Tom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to get the support payment changed is to petition the courts to lower it.
You can see if you can qualify for legal aid or some other legal help, but I'm going to guess you don't.
2006-10-29 03:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋