Do I have to say sorry all the time?

Question

My husband just came home last week for Eid celebration. He went back to US today. I'm in Asia. We always had an arguement on the phone and it still continue when he came home. I use to say sorry for the thing that I've done wrong. He can't accept and keep saying repeating until I got tired to hear it. Then we will start argue unti we don't sleep together even we really miss each other. The mistake I did is just because I made a blog about our family. He left me withut saying anything and everytime we had chance to talk on the phone, he'll always says thing that I'd done. I am so sad and confuse about my relations. Please give me some advise. Thanks

Answer 1

It sounds like he is wanting to punish you forever. Don't allow it. Next time he calls, tell him right off the bat, " I don't want to fight with you...and I have apoligized for what I did, and it is over now; it cannot be undone...so get over it." Then, tell him that if he starts to bring it up, you are hanging up...and do it! I know it will be hard to do the first few times, but you have to stand your ground and let him know that you are not gonna live with this guilt from him for the rest of your life. After you hang up on him a few times, he should hopefully get the message and he will not bring it up the next time, and eventually will stop altogether and your marriage and move on. Make sure he knows that when he comes home, things will be just as they were on the phone...if he starts to bring it up...you will leave, or go to another room and lock yourself in. Don't back down or give in. You don't deserve to be treated like a child!!! If there is any doubt...check your birth certificate and see if his name is listed under "Father". If it isn't, then demand to be treated as a wife...as an equal..as a partner.
Good Luck!!!

Answer 2

Tell him look I may not be right all the time but I am human and I do have an opinion. Do you love me enough to listen sometimes whether than react all the time? Tell him you know you always bring up the things I do wrong but do you ever bring any solutions to are problems? What can we do to solve are lack of communication because even though we are far apart I love you? If he does not know any of these answers than a question in your relationship is up. Good Luck!

Answer 3

You can only apologize for something so many times. I don't know what you said about your family on the blog, but most people who create blogs about their family do so out of pride. If you said something that he's particularly offended by, then offer to go in and delete it. If thats not good enough, then he's just being difficult and immature. I'd stop apologizing...and tell him to get over it... or not. Choice is his.

Answer 4

Tell him you want to put this all behind you for good. Ask him if he wants to accept your apology and get over it or just hold it against you forever. Hopefully he will want to get over it. Allow one last argument where he says everything he needs to say about being angry with you. Apologize for the last time about what you did wrong and then shake hands symbolizing the fact that your argument is in the past and won't be a problem in the future.

Answer 5

Hi, I'm sorry you are having trouble with your relationship with your husband. Believe me you are not alone in this confusion that you are dealing with. These situations are very difficult to give people advice on. Well, it's easy to tell you what to do, but when we don't know you or your husband and what personalities that each of you have this makes it very difficult to help you out with this. It is not recommended to give people advice on their relationships because we must be very careful what we suggest to others as it may coomplicate their problems and compound them as well. Sometimes a different approach can help but I don't think its right to tell you what you must do in your relationship.
It seems from what you have shared with us in your question that he obviously holds on to this type of thing way too long and continues to make you pay for your mistake by treating you this way. Maybe ask him if he can forgive you for your wrong doing and ask him not to bring it up any more, because if he continues to bring it up then he hasn't truly forgiven you for it. Sometimes using the words, "will" or "can, you forgive me for this thing that I have done wrong?" it sometimes helps to leave the ball in his court where he must say that he forgives you or not. By saying you are sorry all the time this makes it easier for him to avoid having to say that he forgives you. This is the different approach that I have referred to earlier. Does this make any sense to you? I hope it does!
All the best to both of you and I hope things work out, especially if he is a good man to you and you truly love him.

Answer 6

dear this is the problem u too having , it's u too loving eash other so much

and u got 2 solution for this is

1.ask him "ok dear tell me what i have to do about this blog , " ?.
contnue .... "i'll do it for you"...

and do what ever he told u , and tell him "i've done it "

problem solve


2. i thing he's hurting one of the article u wrote on it (about ur cousine or friend(boy) ,

if u really need not to hurt ur hubby remove that part , and show him



i pary: u too will be happy soon

just give and take ur open mind , don't hurt each others for small things dear

good luck

Answer 7

Something Specially
For You

I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all.

By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra

Answer 8

Think it is helpful not only you but both of you to seek forgiveness to keep your relationship in good conditions. It will be also better for you to make effort to remember some good times you spend together to that remember to add your wonderful start in love when you met by the first time all these could to restore your relationship. Thanks a lot

Answer 9

time for you to decide if you want to be in a relationship where you have to walk on egg shell because the person you are with is hypersensitive
the funny thing about you husband it that he sound like an insensitive person (a jerk) sorry to say it
but usually the insensitive are the one that are hypersensitive
Good luck

Answer 10

if you ran over my child and said you were sorry what good would that do .nothing .sorry is nothing your sorry that he is upset at you you must take responsably for what you do and accept that what you do is going to piss folks off sometimes if he cant get mad at you wonce in a while then you have nothing let him be mad and try to avoid the talking about things that make you to mad .