I have gone through quite a long string of bad girlfriends including two wives. Almost every relationship, for the past 15 years, has ended when I discovered them cheating. Some of them gave me the guilt trip for checking up on them in the first place. One literally screamed at me while accusing me of spying. She said that I should seek help for my sickness.
I would never spy on a woman unless I started to notice clues that something fishy is going on. I had trusted each of them fully until I had a reason not to. Furthermore, I have never cheated on any of them so, we can rule out revenge. Of course I am more gun shy now but I have always given each new woman a clean slate and treated them with respect.
Should I just accept that most women seek extra outside romance or should I continue fighting the battle forever? I sure have been lonely for the past year.
And don't give me the standard "not all women cheat" answer. It's gonna take a lot more convincing than that.
MrSlooooo
2006-10-29 03:03:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, do not be naive. Just find a woman who will not cheat on you. Seriously, I know you don't want to hear it, but not all women cheat. You have just been mixed up with some real losers & have been burned badly. Just be careful, take your time, I mean really take your time, getting to know someone. Don't jump into a serious relationship. Date around until you find someone who you truly believe is Miss Right.
2006-10-29 03:08:37 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-husband cheated on me physically. My current husband has cheated on me with Internet porn. I am gun shy with men, including my own husband, whom I have gone behind and checked up on. I have never cheated, nor would I ever consider cheating. Maybe it was the morals and values I was raised with. I was taught to stick with it till it works or doesn't. If it doesn't work, you get out of it and THEN move on. No ALL women don't cheat. Between my two marriages, I was on my own (dating, but not involved) for about 7 years. Personally, it was so I could rediscover who I was and to re-evaluate my relationships in the past. Maybe you should spend some time with just friends and family, to do a little soul searching. It can work. You will find some one worth the wait.
2006-10-29 14:06:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all woman cheat, just like not all men cheat. Naivetivety never works for anyone.
No one cheats unless there is something missing in their relationship. I suggest you look at what was missing that caused your string of bad relationships and try to correct it the next time around.
2006-10-29 13:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By becoming more naive, it allows these women to walk all over you. Don't lower yourself to allow that. The only reason that they got mad that you were checking up on them is because they got caught and wanted to blame someone else for their actions and place the heat on someone other than themselves. No one deserves to be cheated on and by lowering your level of awareness is just enabling these women to get away with cheating. The right one is out there and you will find her one day, but until then absolutely do not make yourself more naive!
2006-10-29 11:25:49 · answer #4 · answered by DaRkViXeN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are already naive
why not try the opposite
as well try to get to know your women before you get too deeply involve
I don't cheat but that is me, you should try to change the type of women you are getting involve with
and you also should be getting some consoling, try to be a better lover make the woman have an orgasm
1-consoling to get over the hurt
2 - read about technique to make sure they are satisfy
and pay attention to them in bed
that way next time you have no douth that she is just a bicth
& it is not you
2006-10-29 11:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r picking these type of women - why? u have a problem my friend - and i suggest u get some kind of therapy.
i dont mean to be unkind. there is obviously a reason u choose women who r faithless - maybe u love the drama of a cheating partner?? some deep self loathing? sort urself out, unless u want to continue to live life as a jerry springer guest.
2006-10-29 11:21:03 · answer #6 · answered by bettie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, being naive is not the answer. Maybe taking a look at the type of women you are choosing is. I to have had the same experience with men and try not to generalize. I do not cheat, have no desire to, but it seems to happen to me. I guess us nice people lay out a door mat that says "Welcome, walk all over me".
2006-10-29 11:13:03 · answer #7 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somewhere there is a woman who will love you and only you. just make sure you don't punish the next girl for the crimes of the others. Mrs Right is looking for you.
2006-10-29 11:09:11 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Berry Picker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,all i have to tell you is that we still havent found the right woman for your self but be sure that you will someday...dont let all this affect you,yes the world is bad but stick to your basic nature and m sure you'll find someone apt soon...good luck!!
2006-10-29 11:13:25 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋