how can i choose my future husband?

Answer 1

Here I am

Answer 2

Make a list of what you would like in this person. Personality, career, looks, value and morals. Remember none of us a perfect so we can't expect this from anyone else. It's not settling it's be realistic.
It doesn't make us shallow that it is usually the physical attraction that gets are attention first. Meet someone that after getting to know them you consider them a friend. Then see if they have the qualities your looking for. Or how close they come. You'll probably have a winner in your future husband quest.

Answer 3

My friends name is Rania and she is Indian...If you are too and in a situation where ...maybe your parents pick "ideals" for you and you have to choose...I would say this...Pick whoever is the most fun to be with, Optimistic, and whoever has the most OPEN MIND! That way, You will most likely have a marriage full of laughs and happiness...always feel like there is hope no matter what life throws at you, and ...will be the most flexible to whatever you bring to the table. (that maybe in a dating situation you'd otherwise learn about eachother.)

Of course every person has thier own "important must-have" qualities in mind....follow those too. Ask...Do you want KIDS? Do you want an organized life, or a more "go with the flow" style. Do you think about finances in the same or similar light?(soooooimportant....# 1 reason marriages fall apart)
Do you want to live in the same city...his family or your family..
Do you feel attracted to him.
Does he make you feel like your OWN person but is also there for you to lean on when you need it.
Do you want to have your OWN career or does he expect you to be a home mom/wife.(and visa versa)
Do you feel his is trust worthy?
Do you feel that you too can give him the things that HE wants and needs?
Do you feel the same about sexual situations?
Do you have similar beliefs?

These are so important to ask yourself when deciding about a permanent partner. No answer is Right or Wrong. Just make sure that you are both COMPATABLE!(sp?)

If you are not in the Pre destined situation like my friend. Maybe you are just dating or whatever then I say this......

Just like you said it....'my "future" husband'....Future...unless you are psychic(sp?) then you cant. From my experience...YOU dont CHOOSE anything...IT Chooses YOU. It will just come to you. In other words. Were not the ones holding the "bow", but we can decide if its a good idea to keep it in or take it out!


Good luck and keep in mind.........if you have to THINK too hard about it then most likely he's not the one for you. You'll know who and when its right. Just go about living your own life and don't make it your Agenda to FIND "THE ONE"! Enjoy whats going on and whose in your life NOW. Leave insecureties behind and embrace your life as it is NOW....the rest will come naturally and that way you wont be focused on something that may not happen for a while and will make you get depressed impatient and unconfident. Let go and let God! (whoever yours is)

Hope this helps....Don't really know what your exact situation is.

Answer 4

Put out an ad in the paper say looking for a husband I am sure men will be running to your door! lol Seriously, if you have a man does he beats on women, have a job, helps you out financially, ease your mind spiritually, calls you vulger names, have another wife or girlfriend, gives you special time not sex, listen when you talk, performs great in bed? Can he do all of these than you are on the road to a good husband. Oh can he tolerate your nagging mother not necessarily get along with her but tolerate her than that is great too. You do the same about his mama.

Answer 5

Don't put your best foot forward. Don't fool anyone into thinking you are what you are not. Be yourself. Be genuine. Most men think they are marrying the most wonderful person in all the world. After two years, generally, the woman tires of playing that role and reverts to her real self, a self the husband would never have married.

Answer 6

It isn't about choosing the MAN so much as it is choosing what you want IN that man. You need to figure out what it is you like. Looks, personality, sense of humor. Do you like a guy into sports, clubbing, or staying in at night watching movies all the time? Athletic or smart? Once you figure out what it is you like in a guy, then you will know where to meet that man. You meet them, get to know them, then decide if he is "the one".

Answer 7

Well since God made you and knows everything about you, I would say ask Him to help you know "The One" for you. Pray for your future husband everyday. I didn't trust myself to pick so God had me set up a sign which happened to be a Bible verse. My wife and I have been happily married now for 7 years.

Answer 8

Close you eyes spin around 3 times and stick a pin into the nearest thing. Hopefully it will be male, human, over 21,striaght and single.
Then again it could just be the sofa.

Answer 9

Hope that you are at the right place at the right time. Finding the right husband is not about choosing its about fate!

Answer 10

1) By Understanding who you are? What are your likes and dislikes?
2) By finding out what you expect from your other half (ideally he should compliment you)
3) Understanding whether the person whom you are dating will fit the bill - more importantly - after marriage (most guys change after marriage!)

Add me on [e-mail] if you have more questions.

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tom

Answer 11

By really getting to know him first, but then again, one doesn't get to know a person until they are with them all the time or spending as much time with them as allowed.