How is it that the events that don't kill a relationship make it stronger?

Question

Won't those things always be in the back of your mind?

Answer 1

The events that do not kill the relationship are learning experiences. If you and your significant other learn from the event and grow because of it, your memories of the event will not be negative. Instead you will remember what you learned and how your relationship grew from the event.

By the way, when you keep score by keeping those things in the back of your mind, you set your relationship up to fail. If an event does not end your relationship, learn from it, grow and then let it go.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 2

I think it's because we can't forget the event, as we do the emotional pain that was brought on during the event. And the saying "What doesn't kill u, will make u stronger", is true. As for me, I'm not for the staying, because although the hurtful emotional toll has dissipated, I still remember the event and refuse to possibly have the same situation to occur again. But for those who have made it through the turmoil, and continue to stay in the relationship, God bless.

Answer 3

I believe the pain and suffering in this life can either "break" you or "make you".
You have a choice. Usually, people grow stronger as they go through life's painful events.
A relationship that endures the test of time and can get through sufferings and sorrow is a wonderful, strong relationship.
It usually means the couple truly love each other and don't allow
the outside distractions and hurts of life to affect their relationship.
As the vows do say "For better for worse".
Some couples become stronger as they weather the storms of life together, some fall apart at the slightest crack.
The bible speaks about "two people helping to build each other up" whereby with one person, they have no one to help".
It says "Two are better than one".
If you are referring to cheating within marriage, I suppose that would really hurt a marriage, but I have heard cases where it has indeed made a marriage stronger.

Hope this answers your question : )

Answer 4

Yes but in life you are supposed to learn from mistakes and not repete them. If you work through them with your partner that makes you and your relationship stronger. When things get rough thenyou can think back on the other tough spots and remember how you got through them.

Answer 5

Depends what events. if I or my wife cheated on eachother that would end the relationship. but when my mom and her father both died while she was pregnant with our son that made us a lot stronger because we were there for eachother and a trust in the other was strengthened. It's just human nature.

Answer 6

it is true as you will learn through the yrs. to come. that all the bull_sh*it you have to go through will make your relationship stronger an bring the two of you closer. alone with facing tragities in your life together , this too will bring you closer. odd but true , goes along with learning from our mistakes as well. good luck an have a happy marriage.

Answer 7

It's my understanding that a German philosopher named Friedrich Nietzsche said, "if it doesn't kill you it will make you stronger". He must have went through pure hell and survived to come up with that one. So with that being said, if the both of you have real love in your heart. There's nothing you can't get through in a relationship.

Answer 8

u might think about them now and then, but eventually you'll stop thinking about them. and being able to get past these things in a relationship, even though they are hard to get past, make the realtionship much stronger.

Answer 9

it's because if you have both dealt with the fallout from the event together, then you have learned how to deal with things together! How happy that can make you feel!!

Answer 10

Yes and it is big pile poo that when it is stirred up it stinks worse.