I've recently dicovered that a friend of mine (who is 17) is an alcoholic. She sneeks drinks and acts as if she'll die if she doesn't have a drink. The rest of my friends have turn their backs, and even though i'm disgusted by it i want to help her. But what disturbs me is that my friends call themselves Christians yet they are acting so foolish. I'm confused how am i supposed to be treating her?
2006-10-29 01:57:27 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
As a Christian you have a responsibility to help your friend. Try to get her some help, but don't preach to her ... let her know that you're there for her, but also let her know that you are concerned about her well-being. The friends that turned their backs should be ashamed of themselves ... just because a problem comes along, you don't give up on your true friends. In times of crisis they need you even more and as a good christian you should have a kind heart and support the ones that need you.
2006-10-29 02:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by brishaalden 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you are up to the task of being there for your friend, do so. Some people, even though they are Christians, can't deal with the frustration of seeing someone destroy themselves. The one thing you have to remember is not to enable her, in other words, give her power to continue doing what she is doing, drinking. She will, unfortunately, have to hit rock bottom before she realizes this is not the path she should be taking. If you want to be there for her, do so, but just remember, it isn't an easy road until she, herself decides she needs help. When she starts drinking, walk away, tell her when she is sober, you will be there for her. If she needs help when drunk, it is up to you how you want to handle it.
Don't let other people guide your thoughts. You make your own decisions and stand up for them.
2006-10-29 02:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are supposed to tell your friend that if she continues to drink you will not be able to hang out with her anymore. Maybe suggest that if she were to join an AA meeting and get the help she needs that you will go with her to her meetings. I know that when you are trying to kick any kind of drug or alcohol that you feel very lonely and want to isolate from everybody. Don't let her do that. Make her go to the meetings and talk about her disease. Thats the only way she can ever be able to kick this. By going with her to these meetings you will be showing your support. Good Luck and continue to be her friend.
2006-10-29 02:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by flutterby 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well to me seen that your a good friend.And as a christan u can do a thing called back slideing.But saying and being one are not the same,the way u act act the part is 95% of it and people can look at u and tell.I think u are on the right road So be the friend and let them see your actions.
2006-10-29 02:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by gxsilver1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get away from her. You will not solve her problems, she will. If she does not want to, then she will have to pay the consequences. This might seem hard, but she is 17 and life is going to slap her in the face real quick. If you persist in trying to help her it will consume all of your time to deal with you and your family's problems. The fact of being a Christian has nothing to do with it, leave her alone, she will drag you down.
2006-10-29 02:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by DLUVDAIMPERIAL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 08:24:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat her with unconditional love. That's what friends do. At 17, this person needs someone to stand by them, and it sounds like you're it! Just pray about it and you will know what to do. Good luck!
2006-10-29 02:01:46 · answer #7 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Key word "Friend" Act like one to her, tell her your concerned. Offer to help her find help. If all else fails, talk to your parents and let them talk to hers. A friend does the hard things for each other. As for being a Christian, where does it say you have to dump friends that have problems?
2006-10-29 01:59:47 · answer #8 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
screw the others
they are not real friends
real friends might feel confused at times like yourself
but they would not turn their backs on u
there is no diff between a christian and a non-religious person
as a friend you should try to help her overcome her problem
and for those "friends" who turn their backs on her juz let them be
both of u will be better of without them
2006-10-29 02:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by x040493t 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, but everyone I know would be considered an alcoholic to you.
High School; drunken nights.
I'm a senior ( 17 at the time ) and practically everyone has to sneak drinks because we're underage, duh, but I've never heard of anyone hiding it from their friends.
It's high school and there is nothing else to do but get drunk & party, especially in Columbus, Georgia. It may seem immature, and cliche, but it's true.
2006-10-29 02:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by Great. 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋