She has been nothing but trouble in my life everytime I tried to love her despite everything. I want to be able to be civil to her but I really don't have anything nice to say. So I say nothing. Am I a bad person for feeling this way?
2006-10-29 01:34:57 · 21 answers · asked by Jeff W 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the best thing to do is to smile everytime you see her , shes happy looking at you all disturbed and bothered, but once she sees you smiling she will realize that you have movesd on and she will be unhappy !
2006-10-29 01:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by blackd010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with feeling a good or bad emotion for someone. It's what you do to act upon a certain emotion is where you get in trouble. If she's an ex, than be grateful that she is out of your life if she's been a hinderance. As long as you know you tried to make it work and you did all that you can do, than to hell with her and quit thriving on your past, and move forward with your life, and let her live her own life. Don't cause your self more misery than she has caused upon you. Sometimes we try to be nice to people but you can't be nice to everyone. So be glad that you're in one piece, your're rid of her madness, and I hope you find happiness somewhere in someone.
2006-10-29 09:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. PHILlis (in training) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are waiting for her to apologize to you, or change into the woman you want her to be. She's not going to. If you must see her for some reason (kids, same circle of friends, etc) then take the guy's advice above - act happy. This'll either piss her off or you guys actually will start to have a civil relationship. Either way, you win.
2006-10-29 09:42:09 · answer #3 · answered by rrmorris45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have children together - you have to get along for the sake of your children. If you don't have children, then get on with your life. There is no magic wand to make meeting her disappear. If you see her, you have two choices 1. You can ignore her, or 2. acknowledge her presence (i.e., hello, a nod, a wave) and then go about your business. Good Luck.
2006-10-29 09:43:44 · answer #4 · answered by CxeLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why be nice to her she must have done some thing to have become the ex you oue her nothing get on with your life ,You are not a bad person for dislikeing your ex there is alot of people out there that would agree ex wifes and husbands are a pain in the butt.
2006-10-29 09:40:02 · answer #5 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey not all relationships end nicely....just remember why you got married in the first place...don't get back together but it will help you act like a decent human infront of her. and know that its the past being mean or rude to her won't affect her one way or the other its sometimes easy to talk about neutral subjects like common friends or common places you visit...the city news etc
and even if you aren't nice it won't make u a bad person!
2006-10-29 09:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by m3! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gotta let it go sometime, especially if there are kids involved. Yes and no, but you're human. Just chalk it up to stupidity, and go from there :) Try limiting your time dealing with her, and if its on the phone, get off the phone when the conversation starts to turn, and if she doesn't get the message, hang up LOL! Good luck!
2006-10-29 09:40:21 · answer #7 · answered by whydiduaskthis? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U shud not be so negative..U say dat she is only trouble btw there shud be a reason why she is like this..U also, u shud be more open..Try to improve the communication btween u and yr wife..Try to sit down calmly and talk abt yr problems n find ways to be able to live well..Don't wory, its dat u r uncomfortable dat's y u don't talk..follow wat i told u, maybe things will improve..gudluck
2006-10-29 09:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by Glamorous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have children together, there is really NO reason for you to have to deal with her.
Grow up and forget about her. Is you self worth based on what she thinks, feels and says about you? Again.... grow up!
mb
2006-10-29 10:32:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all do things we regret, try to move on but it was good to hear that you are a respectful man and is civil. Other men should tske your route!
Good Luck with that.
2006-10-29 09:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋