How can i improve?

Question

i don't know how to say NO or be tactful with somebody if i dont like something or don't want to do soemthing but end up doing it unwillingly and keep having ill feelings and hatred abt that person. I am not a smart person and can easily be taken for a ride. why am i this way? how shud i learn to be firm? what should I say? how do i continue being in normal terms with a person and not spoil relationships?

Answer 1

First off all, remember that you are important! Your feelings do matter and anyone that asks something of you beyond the "normal" spectrum is not a real friend and is more than likely taking advantage of you. Now, if you just can't say, "I would rather not." Say this, "Ok, but I need you to come with me so I know I am doing what you want" or do what they ask and make it a point to relay that you will let whoever know that so and so asked you to do it for them. When people are held accountable for their requests of others, they tend to think twice about asking someone to do something they wouldn't do themselves.

Answer 2

Talk to yourself in the mirror or try to talk tand contact with more different people, that way you'd expereince different personalities and be able to deal them differently.

Try being firm by balling your fist or pinching yourself hard, it makes your brain remember that your determined to say no and your not going to stop pinching untill you do.

Dont regret what you've just decided, whats done is just done

Answer 3

Be open about things you do & don't like from the start. If you have a real problem with something - try to talk to the person about it. This is a skill you will develop with age & experience. Trust me, I used to be the same. Now I don't take any crap!! :)

Answer 4

Remember you have a RIGHT to say no. Have a few excuses that you always keep in mind and use them. Or better still, say no, sorry I don't like doing that.

Other people say no, they won't think less of you and you will feel SO released!!!