In this relationship she has two children from a previous relationship and he will not allow her to work. He has her on an allowance so she cant pay for child care to look for work.
2006-10-29 01:28:44 · 11 answers · asked by Dragon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go to a Christian church. Talk to the pastor. Only Jesus can help.
God Bless!
2006-10-29 01:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should convince the husband that the extra money coming in from her working would help the overall household income (so he can buy more things, etc). I would find a friend or family member that could keep the children during the day (or night) for a fraction of the cost of licensed daycare. Then she should lie about the salary and open a bank account in her name only and start stashing money away. When she has enough money, leave him. It may take a while but it'd work. If he still won't let her work then she needs to move in with a family member and look for work or go to a women's shelter that can help her get on her feet.
2006-10-29 01:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by rrmorris45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk out the damn door. Go to a shelter temporarily, and get Family Aid Services. File for Child Support from the children's father (or him if he legally adopted them). The state you live in will help you to adjust. Listen you are a grown woman, no man can stop you from doing what you want to do (long as it's legal), unless you let them. Are you even married to this jerk, if not stop looking for a Sugar Daddy and support your self on your feet and not on your back.
2006-10-29 02:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to have enough self confidence to know that if she leaves, she will find a job and be able to support herself. In addition, it is her responsibility as a parent to go for some child support from the childrens' father.
2006-10-29 02:04:05 · answer #4 · answered by doncorleone722001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello again,
okay are you seeing her on the side or are you the woman asking these questions???
she needs to get a job reguardless...because she don't need a man to support her and her children and that gives him all the power of control.....but the allowance thing is crazy....she got her self in the situation and now she needs to to get her self out and stand up to him as a woman.....let him know that she does have rights as a humanbeing.....no one has the right to control any one......thats why we live in usa...and there is help out there she just has to seek if...and if its welfare for a little while so be it....thats why they have help out there...shelters and state organized funds....even housing.......she may not want too but if she really wants out then she will find a way....if i were her or you i would get out while i could.....and never take no for an answer.....i have been in a controling situation my self and the state has helped me and now i am a career woman at IBM.....after all that is why welfare is there......is to help people get on their feet and get stable for their self....and don't feel ashamed to get it.....
2006-10-29 02:43:29 · answer #5 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she had some very difficult things to work out. Is there a relative that she can live with till she finds a job??? That might work, especially if this other guy won't let her work. Good Luck.
2006-10-29 01:34:08 · answer #6 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she could open a can of whip azz on him...has her on a allowance what the hell,any woman that would let a man take control of her whole life is a IDIOT.get a back bone and get a job and tell him to kiss your a@s
2006-10-29 01:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eff him. if she wants to get a job..she needs to go out ant get one. shes a grown *** woman she doesnt need to ask permission!! and if shed got friends, shes got child care. she just needs to let someone know the greavity of her situation. she can also ask her family for help as well. If she wants out bad enough she can do it
2006-10-29 01:33:54 · answer #8 · answered by ApRiL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just leave girl.
this guy sounds like a control freak which isnt good for you or your kids.
you can get help from the state with child care, so you can get rid of this jerk get yourself a job and be happy with your kids.
2006-10-29 02:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by rosierotweiller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET a JOB...
or another Sugar Daddy.
WOMEN! OMG.
2006-10-29 01:31:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋