Please solve my problem....I want the answers from doctors or the experienced persons...?

Question

I did Masturbation for last 6 years ...daily twice for first three years and then daily once in last three years..now even daily once..I am unable to concentrate on my studies and I am feeling that I had lost my talents and memory power that I had before handling this habit...I visited some adult only sex websites 8 times..but now not...I was keen on seeing the bath of neighbouring women for some days..but feeling it as a guilt., I abondened this habit of watching girls..I don't have any bad habits like drinks, using drugs , smoking etc., Also I dont have sex with anyone till..Now I am 20..But I am afraid of my marriage in future..any defect to my marriage life will be ? Now..I am afraid of my studies..because I am unable to concentrate on studies..I hate the teen-age itself due to my bad habits...What can I do ? Can one completely forget the habit of masturbation till marriage..? Is it possible..?

Answer 1

Masturbation is a normal function by both the male and female gender before and even after marriage. Teenagers have a higher frequency of masturbation because of rising hormonal levels, it is neither abnormal or dirty. If you are feeling that it is now causing you problems I would advice that you seek advise from your doctor. He would be able to steer you in the right direction for counseling if he couldn't help you. I have included and excerpt from the Wikipedia Encyclopedia.

Compulsive masturbation:
Masturbating frequently presents no physical, mental or emotional risk in itself, but if such a frequency, e.g. several times a day, seems to have a "compulsive" quality to it, it may be that masturbation is being used to relieve either boredom or stress. In either case, as with any "nervous habit" at any age, it is more useful to consider the causes of the boredom or of the stress, rather than try to repress the masturbation itself.

As with other addictions, there are lists of warning signs as to when sexual activity is reducing a person's ability to function well in the real world, or is placing them at risk for example of pursuing illegal or destructive activities. Very frequent and compulsive masturbation can be one of the signs of a sexual addiction, for which professional help may be advisable.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masturbation#Health_and_psycholocgical_effects

Answer 2

Hm. masturbation is a psychic habit. First, you started to masturbate because it was good, but now, you fall into its trap. The best way to forget it, i think, to have friends, or conditions that won't allow you to do it. For example: sleep with your sibling in the same room, or never stay alone. After a time, you will masturbate 2 or 3 times a week. It is like a bad-habit, you have to forget it step-by-step. You can't concentrate your studies cause you think to much about women and so. It is not bad until a level, but you have left that behind.
Don't feel guilt cause you saw the neighboring women, it is natural, just like masturbation. It helps you to become a adult.
About your marriage: as I sad masturbation is natural, that means girls are also masturbating, and it is accepted.
Teen-age not good, but it is a part of your life. If you don't go through, you won't became normal. Trust me.

Answer 3

You say that you are of 20 years and unable to concentrate on your studies . This is happening to you because you have a lot of free time on your hand and hence you get all this type of ideas to pass the time . Do take up some other hobby or activity which will help you to over come this situation as a lot of us pass through the same age one time or the other in ones life.Best of luck in your studies.

Answer 4

Masturbation is a normal activity; there is no adverse effect from it. After marriage every thing becomes normal.
Do exercises, run daily for some time eat good food, avoid to remain alone. Copy one page daily from you study book.

Answer 5

Please stop worrying. I did masturbation since i was 11. Sometimes twice a day, sometimes once a day, sometimes none.

I married when i was 22. And had sex and masturbation. Still have. Now I'm 35.

I got a cumlaude diploma when i got my college degree..., so the masturbation doesn't mess with your IQ and focusing abilities. What messes with your focusing, intelligence and hopes is your misoriented thinking.

So, what's the problem?.

Answer 6

You can try to overcome it through prayer to God. he can calm. your desires. Masturbation is a sin against God.

Sensuality , worse than all else, disorganizes the capacities of the mind & the clarity of thought. It drains a man of his YIN energy , the life-force stored in the kidneys. It causes debilitation of mind & body BOTH - The same holds true of excessive marital sex. Both are to be avoided.

Answer 7

Strangley, only African or Indian people meet such problem and doubt during their youth!
Will it be the religion or a spread ignorance about the sex?!

Answer 8

it isn't masturbation that is affecting you it is the guilt,quit feeling guilty about something that is normal and healthy.

Answer 9

carry on wanking - its normal and nice

Answer 10

"SIDE" Effects Of Masturbation:
http://www.mckinley.uiuc.edu/handouts/masturbation.html

ARE THERE SIDE EFFECTS?

There are no harmful side effects of masturbation. Medical science has debunked many myths formally associated with masturbation, such as hair growing on the palms, insanity, or that masturbation will drain excessive energy from the body.

Some people report feeling guilty about masturbating. Negative feelings associated with any behavior can threaten a person’s health and well being.

The American medical community pronounced masturbation as normal in the 1972 publication Human Sexuality.

WHY DO PEOPLE MASTURBATE?
Reasons given by people who masturbate include:

To experience pleasure

To relieve tension (sexual tension or general tension)

To relieve stress

To engage in sex when a partner is unavailable or does not want to have sex

To relax

To learn about what feels good to them and how they like to be stimulated or pleasured

MYTHS:
The following are myths relating to masturbation that are unfounded in medical and social science.

Only people, who cannot find sexual partners; or who are socially inadequate masturbate.

Masturbation leads to physical problems such as mental illness and growing hair on your palms.

Masturbation “ruins” a person for partner sex.

Men will run out of semen or sperm if they masturbate excessively.

Others, including medical doctors and sexual partners, will be able to tell if you masturbate.

HEALTH BENEFITS OF MASTURBATION:
A number of studies have proven the benefits of self-pleasuring to mental, social and physical health.

Masturbation alleviates premenstrual tension for many women.

Masturbation provides a healthy sexual outlet for people who choose to abstain from sex with partners or who do not currently have available sexual partners.

Masturbation can be a route to safer sex, to help prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections, including HIV.

Masturbation allows for sexual pleasuring for those who are not ready to engage in vaginal, anal or oral sex.

Increases blood flow to the genital region, which can help overall sexual functioning.

Masturbation can induce sleep.

Masturbation allows people to become familiar and comfortable with their body.

Masturbation is often suggested as a therapeutic technique for overcoming sexual dysfunction.

For women, it can help them learn how to achieve orgasm.

For men, it can help them increase ejaculatory control and manage rapid or delayed ejaculation.

Masturbation can help alleviate stress.

CAN A PERSON BECOME ADDICTED OR MASTURBATE TOO MUCH?
People often wonder about the normal amount of masturbation. Each person must decide for himself or herself how much to masturbate. Professionals agree that there are no physical or mental implications for frequent masturbation, unless it is symptomatic of an obsessive/compulsive disorder (OCD). Symptoms of OCD are repeatedly performing a behavior to the extent that it interferes with daily functioning, professional responsibilities, or personal relationships.

Behaviors that are performed to reduce stress or alleviate tension, including masturbation, are not considered symptomatic of a disorder unless they interfere with a person’s daily personal or professional life or hinder a person from fulfilling their responsibilities and commitments



EFFECTS OF OVER-MASTURBATION:
http://www.4-men.org/overmasturbation.html
Frequent masturbation and ejaculation stimulate acetylcholine/parasympathetic nervous functions. Excessive stimulation can result in over production of sex hormones and neurotransmitters such as acetylcholine, dopamine and serotonin.

Abundant and unusually large amount of these hormones and neurotransmitters can cause the brain and adrenal glands to perform excessive dopamine-norepinephrine-epinephrine conversion and turn the brain and body functions to be extremely sympathetic. In other words, there is a big change of body chemistry when one excessively masturbates.

Note: Masturbation is a healthy sexual behavior. Like other behaviors, when over practiced or addicted it can lead to both psychological and physiological imbalances.

Side-effects of Masturbation
Other than an immediate need for a towel or tissue, the effects of masturbation upon the male body were:
Fatigue. Feeling tired all the time
Lower back pain
Thinning hair / Hair Loss
Soft / Weak Erections
Premature Ejaculation
Eye floaters or fuzzy vision
Groin / Testicular Pain
Pain or cramp in the pelvic cavity or/and tail bone

When to say when
How much is too much masturbation (and sex for that matter)? That depends but it's suggested men keep their ejaculation frequency down to 2-3 times a week. However, sexual activity can be experienced more often if men learn how to orgasm without ejaculation. Doing so can actually store bioenergy into your system and make your penis firmer, your erections last longer, and your ejaculate volume bigger.

Over masturbation participants experience problems with concentration and memory. This is a dangerous side effect of over masturbation and signals that the brain is being over drained of acetycholine. Over masturbation drains motor neurons and neuro-muscular endings of acetycholine, which is eventually replaced. Over masturbation can lead to absentmindedness, memory loss, lack of concentration, and eye floaters. To fight these symptoms, the chemical levels in your body needs to be balanced.


Don't dismiss masturbation myths!
http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/2008.html

READER writes:
Having read a few posts related to the question, "Is masturbation harmful?", most of the answers I've seen seem to suggest that the only possible harm could be psychological, in the sense that masturbation may be a distraction from one's normal routine.

What about the actual PHYSICAL side effects? Some things can not be dismissed as mere "wives' tales"! For example, when I masturbate often, I do notice a darkening under my eyes. I am only 28, but having been at this a while, it does seem as though I can not as easily become erect, or stay erect for as long as I used to. I may not have grown hair on my palms, but I have noticed (and I'm willing to concede that there may be no causal relationship here) that I have become somewhat hairier, in all the wrong places.

Perhaps, when discussing the question of harmful side effects of masturbation, the real question is, how do medical professionals like yourself define the word "harmful"? Perhaps unsightly dark bags under the eyes, hair growing thicker in unattractive places, and decreased ability to get and maintain an erection strike yourself and your peers as "benign" side effects?

Surely, when people write to you asking if any harm comes from frequent masturbation, you are not thinking that they are concerned about it resulting in their imminent death?

Please set the record straight as to what, if any, harmful PHYSICAL side effects may result from masturbation, and why, in the face of my testimonial and no doubt countless others, such symptoms as I have described are dismissed by yourself and your peers as "myths."

ANSWER:
At the risk of sounding like a broken record, or worse yet, dismissive of your concerns, the real "harm" here is not physical. It's all the worry, shame, and conflict attached to masturbation by so many men, women, and children, thanks to negative associations with all kinds of sex — done by one's self and with others. These messages come from so many influential places — often for most of one's lifetime. It may not be true for you, but this cloud that hangs over many masturbators might send some looking for physical "harm" from this popular practice. It can be a way of justifying any bad feelings and beliefs about masturbation that might never allow going it alone totally okay.

That said, your "blame-it-on-masturbation" reasoning is understandable. If one sprouts hair in "strange" places, sports dark circles under the eyes, and says goodbye to those always reliable erections during and after stretches of solo-sex, one could easily conclude that these unwanted reactions came on as a result of whacking off. Then, could it not also be said that hair loss, far-sightedness, and love handles also owe it to masturbation? And what about greater self-confidence, career changes, and the urge to buy property? The point: is it possible that all of these occurrences stem from something besides genital stimulation? Might aging also be the culprit?

It may not come up 'round the copier and coffee table, but many twenty- and thirtysomethings now include big black nose and ear hair plucking in their regular grooming routine. They'd also put down difficulty getting it up and keeping it there as a getting older symptom. Bags under the eyes? Yep, that's on the list, too.

If you're not convinced that masturbation doesn't play a direct role in the physical "consequences" that you're now experiencing, how about conducting an experiment? Masturbate less often, or refrain from doing it for a few months. and see if your symptoms disappear. NOTE: not "relieving" yourself for an extended period of time may lead to other unwanted physical and psychological situations, including irritability, difficulty concentrating, insomnia, and wet dreams. Now, it is possible that any stress, guilt, disgust, etc. with your personal sex play is making it harder to get and stay hard — these feelings are frequently powerful obstructions to sexual arousal. Also, if you're masturbating past your bedtime, dark circles may stare back at you the next morning.