Can U Guys, pleaaaase explain....?

Question

Between Wives and Lovers....

What is the difference.....?

Since you will treat them differently... ;P


As an example:

When a wife talks, she is seen as nagging.
When a lover talks, it is music to your ears....

Why guys? Why? ... when basically we are still the same species...still women....?

Answer 1

It has to do with what they have to say.
And of course the attitude behind it.

The lover says you're great do it some more, the wife says you can do it when I'm ready and you have earned it. Oh, and wife also says, pick up your socks, did you pay the bills, where is your paycheck, the kid needs help with his homework, you don't care about me any more, why do I have to do everything around here,take out the trash and stay out there with it and the ever popular why aren't you as affectionate as you used to be?

I think you are mistaken about the same species, when the wife gene kicks in it removes all the natural inhibition to being critical toward your mate. That is the big difference.

Answer 2

The difference between a wife a mistress and a lover
In bed the
lover says slower, slower
mistress says faster, faster
wife says beige I think I will paint the ceiling beige

What does this all mean we men rarely here sweet things from our wives because they already have us. Our lover say sweet things because they want us. If your married think about the last time you told your hubby what you liked in bed or even that he looked so good. True it goes both ways but guys tend to give loving comments to their spouses more often than wives do.

Answer 3

But women change when they get married. This is an old saying but absolutely true in my experience. "Men marry women for who they are, and women marry men for who they could be." Therefore women are constantly trying to change their husbands, and in doing so, are on them more because it's not working. lol So, therein I believe is the change. I constantly see ads or hear women say they don't think there is a perfect man out there, but don't settle for what they get. Women, I think, feel like they are trying to improve the man they marry, but if they needed improvement, why marry them to begin with? That's why men get angry and start treating you differently. I've been married 3 times and every single wife did the same thing. They were great while dating and even living with, but once married, they change. It seems to me, that some people seem to think that the license is a deed or a contract not a commitment to love honor and cherish.....as you have done in the past. Nothing should ever change in how you treat each other throughout life. But of course things will change with the big things kids house etc. but even though SITUATIONS change, how you treat each other shouldn't.

Answer 4

There is one major difference between the 2 states i guess. One where there is a need (as in a case of a lover). Once the need is achieved (read married as in a wife!) there is some lethargy which sets it. Both the partners need to make that relationship vibrant and lively. Dont allow for that monotonous nature to set in! b Creative. If you need more ideas or want to talk to me then add me on [e-mail]
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Answer 5

Lovers are a replacement for masterbation! Wives, good ones, are friends! Only an idiot would risk the companionship of a good wife for the quick satisfaction of a [whore] lover.

On the other hand, a not-so-decent wife can drive her husband into the arms of another woman [lover]!

Answer 6

Lover can give sexual need better than wife. Wife can provide the care or need of a family. These 2 are of different types of relationship where a man will know how to have his joy and fun with which women. Hope you can realised and know where you stand.

Answer 7

Well for me my wife is my lover, and I don't think of her as nagging me anymore. I used to, but I've done a better job of listening to what she has to say, and instead of thinking about myself, I work at listeing to her, and concerning myself with her and her feelings and needs instead of my own, even when it comes to sex.

So to me there is no difference between my wife and lover, because she's the same person. When my wife talks, it is music to my ears.

Answer 8

The wife sems to always be wanting you to do the choirs around the house and such. The lover does not ask this. You just have to find someone that does thier share of things you ask on thier own.

Answer 9

it seems that for both, it is the same. Something seems to be forgotten. What I mean is we forget the art of seduction , romance, and humor. Everyday mundane things cause us to treat our mates differently. Lovers on the other hand are mostly interested in having sexs with each other, and the art of seduction is used.

Answer 10

Its similar to the difference between love and lust. A man can love the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with and mother his children, and he can lust after her beauty. It is good when love and lust focus on the same woman. But sometimes, the eye strays and a new beauty comes into focus. hormones take over and the man then thinks with his "small head", instead of his "large head" which contains the brains. That's when he gets into trouble.