i think i overreacted yesterday with my hubby. i mean we just talked but instead of telling me it was nothing he got defensive...i have jealousy issues i guess...i just saw his little chat conversations...i dont like it we barely see each other but he hs time to chit chat with other women? was i wrong to be totally pissed?What do you guys think? he even btought me home a present this week,he takes care of me but what is he thinking!!!!
2006-10-29 01:51:59 · 16 answers · asked by yellabanana77 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't know your husband but I am a guy. I talk with other women but would not ever do anythiing to cause my wife to feel she is losing her secrity in me. I love people! And my wife realizes that. I don't (probably can't) cheat and she believes that. Her trust give us both latitude to enjoy life. And life is all about people. The quickest way to drive your hubby into the arms of another woman is to show your distrust in him. Trust him 100% until he GIVES you reason not to.
2006-10-29 01:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by the_pharaoh109 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you barely see eachother, then he has lots of time to chat. Maybe you should consider a little less confrontation and a little more restructuring of schedules......
A way to figure out if these chats are a threat is to look at the chat list. If there are 5 women and no guys in his contact list, there is a problem. He's looking for female conversation, not just conversation.
If he brought you a present, he's thinking of you, that's a good sign. If you are sure you have jealousy issues, confrontation is never the way to address things like this. It is punishing him for YOUR insecurities. It is a sure way to kill a relationship. It puts a negative impression on the limited time you do have together.
If you are sure on an intellectual level that he's really in the relationship and that your suspicions are just angst, then you need to give him some demonstration that you're dealing with it. Otherwise, your confrontational past will cause him to get defensive. You must change your approach and give him time to adapt to it...
good luck
2006-10-29 09:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hard one to answer, I personally do not put up with any B/S from someone I'm dating, You have to look at there past and see just how trust worthy they have been
I was married for 12 years, and would soon just be alone again before seeing her chat on line with "friends"
Like I always say, I can be miserable all by my self, don't need your help to do it
2006-10-29 08:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by supervfive 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You were not wrong to be upset. He should spend time with you, but you may not have handled it as well as it could have been handled.
He, however, is just having a conversation, no different than at work, which is why it may not mean the same to him
2006-10-29 08:58:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
o they do, you can sit in the same room and not talk all night and go out and they are talking all night to everyone, sometimes in hard to get a word in. Dont think they mean any harm by it and too us we are rather taken for granted and may as well be a piece of furniture sometimes.
2006-10-29 09:06:25 · answer #5 · answered by leigha 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Better safe than sorry. Men have a way of makign a woman feel she is wrong even if it is them with the wrong thoughts. Why is he chattign with women in the first place. I dont think you over-reacted.
2006-10-29 09:00:04 · answer #6 · answered by Silli_Babe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just give your boyfriend another chance. I mean, you have other friends that are guys, right? Men are usually like that. They don't talk tro just their only gender, but thir opposite gender, too. However, if your boyfriend starts going on dates and kissing and having s** with other women, give him a talking, go to a counselor, or give your boyfriend another chance.
2006-10-29 08:58:25 · answer #7 · answered by rising_sun 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give your hubby some benefit of doubt lady. The problem with your attitude is that it WILL drive him into doing what you already accused him off. Be carefull.
2006-10-29 08:56:29 · answer #8 · answered by spatz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You got the right to be p*ssed off. I mean, this girl I like that likes me back, we have lots of time to talk but I still talk wit other women and she gets ticked off at me.
2006-10-29 09:04:44 · answer #9 · answered by A guy who cant fall outta love 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It takes a lot of trust in a marriage if he is going to cheat he will do it anyway.you cant cut him off from the rest of the world. that will drive him away sure enough.
2006-10-29 08:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋