Can anyone give me tips on how to be a social butterfly?
im very shy and when i make friends, i say the wrong types of things some times.
i need conversation starters and tips on how to approah a stranger and instantly make them like me.
im quiet and i would love to be popular - im a middle child so i am socially challenged. my bro and sis make friends so easily but i spend all my time at home - doing nothing.
HELP
2006-10-29 01:42:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Be assertive and outgoing. Friends aren’t just going to throw themselves at you, especially if you’ve had a not-so-popular image for years. Even if you're shy, you’re going to have to come out of your shell a little bit and put yourself in social situations. Don’t be afraid to go and sit at a new table at lunch, or strike up a conversation with the person next to you in study hall. Avoid thinking about whether or not you’re "cool" enough to talk to a certain person, rather, let that person see why they should want to talk to you.
Study hard. Being popular doesn’t mean being stupid. Raise your hand in class, do your homework, and don’t be afraid to be known as a smart person. Just be sure you leave plenty of time for social activities. Let people know that academics are important to you, but are not your whole life. Show them you know how to have fun
2006-10-29 01:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trouble with trying to make oneself 'popular' is defining what everyone else desires, and then being all those things!
You end up a huge collection of mismatched socks, scarves, and gloves, with little coordination or fashion!
JUST BE YOURSELF, and those who admire TRUTH will flock to be near you! Then, no one has to lie, or keep up a false fascade! Everyone is much happier, and more relaxed, and can genuinely appreciate the real qualities that make YOU so fantastic!
You are already very popular, but, the fake you is confusing and is actually making people avoid you. Do get out to the activities that YOU actually can enjoy, and don't try extremely hard to be something you aren't.
Don't push the 'approaching strangers' thing, instead, just be YOU, doing things you are happy with, and let them approach the quiet 'goddess of serenity'!
2006-10-29 01:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself and make true friends that you will have for the rest of your life. Don't worry about being "popular!" Who cares find a group of friends who accept you for you! You are bound to meet a few people who love who you are, be yourself and just start conversations by saying hi my name is... and talk about things you are interested in and they'll probably be interested in some of the same things!
2006-10-29 01:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approach someone nice who you know won't be mean. Bring up something you have in common with them "Hey, your in so-in-so's class, aren't you? I was wondering...blah blah blah"
Don't worry about being popular per se - the trick here is to get to the point you really enjoy yourself with this other person, or eventually with a lot of people. That's the secret - it's not about how they perceive you, it's if you are genuinely interested in the person you are having a conversation with.
2006-10-29 01:51:22 · answer #4 · answered by rrmorris45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being popular isn't everything. All social classes do is cause trouble. For me, I am very shy too, but I was lucky enough to meet my friends who were in my classes. Start there with your classes, try to make friends in there by offerering help if someone needs it, being there if someone needs someone to talk to. Just be yourself, dont be anyone you are not.
2006-10-29 01:48:49 · answer #5 · answered by Lord Esaul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in the middle has nothing to do with it. Starting to shift the blame already? Be yourself and learn to be confident this is all you need to do. Learn that you are wonderful in your own way and just try to be outgoing and confident. Looks don't matter that much but does not hurt.
2006-10-29 01:49:38 · answer #6 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be just like that, then I learned a lesson that if you just quit trying so hard to get people to like you, and you just talk to the people you're sitting next to and stuff, you'll end up with more friends than you can count! Just say hi to the person next to you, that's all it takes!
2006-10-29 01:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by Becca M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to be popular is to have GREAT ATTITUDE and feeling PROUD for what person you are..remember if u cant appreciate yourself then no one will..get spicy dont let others look down on u..get boastful..get into relation like friends and bfs..but dont really get involved..REMEMBER THAT ATTITUDE IS POWER
2006-10-29 01:16:41 · answer #8 · answered by Mandy Maklina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
know who you are and just be yourself, dont worry about making people like you. you want people who will like you for who you are. just dont try too hard, being popular is not that important. good luck.
2006-10-29 01:51:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, thats where im at. u first have to get over yourself, and just go talk to some1. dont think about it, just do it. be your wonderful self, and people will warm up to you eventually, cuz its not gonna happen overnight.
2006-10-29 01:46:11 · answer #10 · answered by sydd vicious. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋