ok so im 18 and i was dating this guy that was 16 his parents knew about us & we had there consent to date & such well we started dating when i was 17 and he was 15 but we first had sex when i was 17 and he was 16 well we broke up for a little awhile & started going back out in july & we still had his parents consent to date & such... but than a week ago he tells me we have to take a break & i need to trust him & he loves me & to wait well than i found out about his new gf.... well couple days ago i found out im preg. & hes the only guy i have ever been w/ & at first he said it wasnt his but now he says i need to get abortion & i told him i couldnt & he said i am ruining his life & such but i cant do that & he told me if i didnt that his new gf would have someone kick my butt so i have miscarriage & he said hes gonna tell his parents we had sex & so i can go to jail cause im 18 well i thought in wa. the age 16 is consent & if the parents say its ok to date than can i really go to jail?
2006-10-29 01:38:18 · 22 answers · asked by girlwithalotofproblems 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can't go to jail cause you had sex before you turned 18 didn't you? If there was sex before 18 and not to mention consent, NOT TO MENTION you're a woman (yes it sounds sexist but then look at the country we're dealin with, only time women get blasted for rockin cradles it seems to be only with 30 year old teachers and their 16 year old boy toys.) So as far as the jail situation....not a problem.
Homeboy had the NERVE to say you're ruinin his life? LOOK WHO'S TALKIN!? Takes 2 to tango....if anything ****'s his fault for not wearin a condom or pullin out like a dumbass. Then he's gonna have someone whoop your *** and have a miscarriage? BULLSHIT. First off love, you're gonna have to either get a restraining order done, or consult someone, cause that's assault, and HE can go to jail for it. Second, don't have an abortion, it ain't the baby's fault it has a dumbass father. Besides in this day and age, there are many supports out there for single mothers, and if it's too much for you alone, then put him to adaption, someone will take care of him/her. Abortion is tramautizing to good people (there are the bitches that use it as a contraceptive/exscuse for their promiscuity). You don't wanna have that haunt you.
So avoid this asshole at all costs, make him disappear quickly, find a solution to taking care of the baby, be it by you, or someone else....stuff happens, the baby will survive, we all had to suffer at one point in our lives, it makes us stronger.
And try not to date anybody under 17, and avoid the wild young testosterone bastids between 18-24. Look for someone with a future...not a thrill-factor. good luck to you.
2006-10-29 01:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by Dennis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Calm down dear. It is unlikely you would go to jail. I don't know the laws in your state but in mine the age of consent is 16 so if you are correct about the age you should be fine. Aside from that though I would immediately get a restraining order against this guy. I would want it a matter of public record that he is threatening you. You need to get a stable environment in which to raise your child such as your own apartment and some sort of job. Keep a record of any threats he makes when he makes them and what he said. You may need it later if he changes his mind and wants the baby and doesn't want you to have the baby. Stay away from him the best you can. Good luck.
2006-10-29 01:46:00 · answer #2 · answered by zara01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a loving guy. Did YOU ruin HIS life when HE stuck his penis in you? Tell him he has already threatened to harm you, which is a felony. Ever heard of Scott Peterson?
Can't this pu$$y take responsibility? No, you are not going to go to jail, because even though you are 18, and he is 16, you are close enough in age that the fact that he is under 18 doesnt matter. If he was 16 and you were 43, that would be a different story.
He is legally obligated to care for a child he fathers- financially obligated. You should report that threat just in case something happens. I'm a bodybuilder, and if something happens to you, you can tell him he has someone looking for him.
2006-10-29 01:43:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not be sent to jail at all. 16 is the legal age to have sex. And according to you, you weren't an adult when you had sex with him. And you are doing the right thing by doing what you want, and not having an abortion because of what he wants. Don't worry at all, I really don't think you could be sent to jail. Also I suggest you should get a restraining order against him and his girlfriend since he said that she was going to get someone to make you have a miscarriage. I hope everything goes well, and I hope you stay safe. Wishing you the best of luck!
2006-10-29 01:42:25 · answer #4 · answered by Lord Esaul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, the age of consent for Washington state is 16. I think you need parental consent still, but you didn't say if you had parental consent for having sex with their son. That might make things different, but I'm not sure.
Either way, you won't be able to hold him accountable legally for your child, as he is a minor. The legal responsibility for his half of the parental rights would end up going to his parents - so it really depends on what you want from him AND them.
2006-10-29 01:45:21 · answer #5 · answered by Ciaoenrico 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you should focus on the needs of the child first, and not let all his crap worry you. First get down to Social Services, and get some advice about how you're going to pay for the childbirth, and then see a Doctor to make certain that everything is OK with the pregnancy. In my opinion, you should give the baby up for adoption, as there are nice couples who could give him/her a good life, perhaps better than you as a single mother could. After everything else, give some thought to birth control, and furthering your education, so that no-one can dictate to you in the future.
2006-10-29 02:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i sympathise with you dear but you took the wrong steps with this guy and so early to have sex. that should teach you a good lesson for eating the "ban" fruit = having sex at an early age. now you're pregnant and you must have an abortion, don't bear the child and give birth. you'll realise and regret by giving birth is wrong, you'll not have a future with a burden around. you can see your bf is a total jerk, he had a new gf and dumped you but he lied to you by taking a break. i felt that you shd tell your parents the truth now and let them decide for you. i'm not too sure what age is legal in US to have sex. In Singapore, kids below 18yrs old will be caught in jail if they have been found out to have sex. You better let your parents know now. Don't drag any further and don't forget your baby is growing fast everyday. Take care and I hope you can get over the jerk. Remember don't ever have sex so young and when you don't even know how to take care of yourself first, not to even mention, taking care of another newborn baby.
2006-10-29 01:48:43 · answer #7 · answered by PoshBerries 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think you could go to jail, since his parents gave consent, and his parent would have to be the ones to file the charges, and allowing you all to date for what over two years they are not going to do that, he says your ruining his life, sounds like hes scum. it takes to to make a child. DO NOT HAVE A ABORTION, ITS NOT THE CHILDS FAULT!!. as for him having someone kicking you a**that would not be wise, because if something happens to that child the person who did it can be charged with murder of an unborn child. sound like you need to get a restraining order or a order of protection on this guy, good luck and be safe..
2006-10-29 01:45:38 · answer #8 · answered by bshelby2121 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, forget his butt and worry about yours and your baby's. Get support on your side - friends, relatives, the local church - Positive support. Once he and his new gf find out that you have support, they will not be able to threaten you. Do not abort! The damage you do to yourself cannot be undone. Just write him off and go on with your life. Backward is the wrong way. There are many groups out there to help you and give you support, just look it up in the phone book or on the net. As far as him and his gf, keep a low profile. GOOD LUCK.
2006-10-29 01:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by luvthatharry 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At age 18, you're at the age of majority. You very well could be liable for any number of charges that could send you to jail or at least make it very difficult for you to get by for awhile. You're facing a lot of legal troubles if the 16yr old wants to make trouble for you.
If you're pregnant you need to find help as quickly as possible from whatever responsible source. If he's the father then he & his family will need to deal with the responsibility too. He'll have to support his & your child financially.'
2006-10-29 01:44:46 · answer #10 · answered by Bluealt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋