What To Do About Neighbours From Hell?

Question

We can't afford to move, and we live between neighbours from hell 1 side are druggys and the other side are really nasty people who think there are all that and most of the time are drunk and compline about everything we do from painting our fence to our dog braking, but they are the ones causeing all the trouble a few years ago the police told us to put up securey lights because i have got trouble with a stalker the neighbours wrote a letter complineing how i look out of the window all the time and the lights were causeing a problem to them they also slaned me after that things clamed down, but a few years ago we got a dog now after 3 years of having the dog they complined she barks too much the counsil said its not enough to do anything about because dogs bark, but its them that make her bark when she does as they bang on the walls to wake her up in the night, they bang on the window when she is in the garden, they blow a whisal, what can be done about them?

I Don't Just Leave My Dog In The Garden Like Somone Said, My Dog Only Goes Out To Go To THe Toilet And They Bang On The Window While She Is Going

My House Is Privte Owned By My Mum & Dad,

My Dad Is Disabled And My Mum & Me Take It In Turns To Look After Him,

Someone Said Talk To The Neighbours And Ask Them Why They Are Like This We Have Done This And In-Between The Shouting And Bad Lan Used Its Because My Dad Don't Work Because He Is Disabled So They See Us As Spongers,
These people even Watch My dads Nurses When They Come To See Me Dad Intimadate them,

We Had A Parcal Once A Few Months Ago And This Guy Had A Go About Us To The Delivery Man Its Was Only That I Know The Delivery Man and he told me what he said the next time we saw each other that i know what he said these people really need stopping

Answer 1

I know you said you can't afford to move, but I guess what it boils down to is this - what will it cost if you stay?

*your sanity?
*your health/well-being?
*your relationship?

It sounds like your current situation is already costing you more than you can afford, in more ways than can ever be measured in dollars and cents. I know many would suggest some form of revenge, but there also you'd be losing a part of yourselves by way of your integrity.

My advice? Work out what you guys could afford to be without for a little while and get out of there...before it truly does cost you a whole lot more.

Answer 2

Hi Emma. REALLY sorry to hear about your problem. Can't imagine how uncomfortable and upset that must make you and your family feel, although I've seen the Neighbours from Hell programme on ITV before now so I have a good idea - and thereby hangs a suggestion for the first thing you could do ... call the programme and ask if they have a new series coming up.

You don't say if the house is private or council. If council you can report it to their housing department and something can be done. You need to log EVERYTHING unsociable that they do - date, time, what happened etc. If it comes to court at any time, you have evidence. Obviously I'm assuming that you couldn't rationalise with these people and try to come to some kind of mutual understanding and toleration. I would certainly speak to your local Citizen's Advice Bureau or local advice centre and I would notify the police again! Even if they still don't or won't take action, at least they will have another report on their files which, again, might prove good evidence at any future hearing.

Apart from all that, just try not to antaganise them too much - I know that sounds unfair and probably no fault of your own anyway and if they are getting drunk all the time or on drugs, probably won't do any good anyway but I'm sure if you take some of the above advice, it might do the trick for you.

Take care and good luck - and before I finish I REALLY hope the pendants (of whom I'm occasionally one myself I have to say) will take note of the SUBSTANCE of your question/problem rather than the fact your grammar and writing style isn't the best. This isn't the time for that I don't think. Anyway as I say, good luck.

Answer 3

I know what it's like these bastards take pleasure in upsetting and hurting other people, I was lucky the council moved me after a year. For a start keep a diary of every thing they do to you, try and video their actions (set a camera up outside) record any comments they make, go to your councillors monthly surgery, inform the police they have a special unit apart from the main body if you can find out about them I found that they went to town on the druggies hit them at four in the morning no more trouble, you have to try every avenue that you can, it's a lot of work but you will win. Good luck.

Answer 4

Oh my GOD you weren't kidding when you said neighbors from hell....what a bunch of jerks...especially for blowing the whistle at your dog..that is just plain mean (and it probably scares your poor dog). If it were me....I would call the cops on the druggies....screw them. Maybe if they were nice people they wouldn't get told on. And as for the drunks....maybe you should go talk to them. Ask them why they are doing this and try to get them to understand what they have put you through. If you don't want to do that then maybe you should move. I know it should be THEM that has to move, but they probably won't...so you have a decision....either stay there and be miserable or find an affordable house/apartment and find peace. Find a friend that has a truck and do it all yourself. Get help from some guy friends with moving big furniture and pay them back by cooking something or buy them a case of beer or something.

Answer 5

I had neighbors from hell also , I eventually moved, but in the years before i could move I did the following. Took video of the druggies for the police, called the code office and reported violations of the property ,and all the while killed them all with kindness. I shoveled the sidewalks in front of the house , said hello neighbor at every chance and was generally so nice to them they never suspected I was the one causing all the grief they were getting from the authorities.

Answer 6

There is no quick fix to this and you need to think long & hard before you do anything because these sound like the type of people who could take revenge on anything they feel is "out of order".

1) If you can get a letter from your g.p saying all the aggro is making you depressed or ill, you may get a move on medical grounds.

2) Keep a diary of every incident from loud music to arguments, list everything dated and times it started and finished. (this will help if you need proof).

Answer 7

Are these council tenants...if they are, then speak to the local neighbourhood office about your problems to see if they can help...if they are not, why not try and see if you can get support from your other neighbours, see if they are having the same problems with these people and if they are willing to get together to try a do something about it...again, your local council should be able to help or even try your local councillor...I am sorry you seem to have so much misery from these people and hope you get some help...good luck x

Answer 8

difficult situation dog braking think u meant barking, have u tried to sit down and chat about the problems,with yr neighbours if u dont i think itll just get worse
you cant just allow this to go away in time as it wont, have you tried speaking to he council, and does your dog bark, as i know this can annoy the most placid of people,
but druggies should be reported to the police anyway although they would know it was you so you be living in fear even more.
can you take live without the lights?
if you do your bit then the neighbours have no excuse to harrass u. good luck

Answer 9

you sound distressed,and you have every right to be.

the right way should be to discuss these problems with the neighbours-as most optimistic and loving people would suggest,but a less friendly and ineffective way would be to build tall fences that would block out the neighbours or send a poisonous cake pretending to make peace.

best thing to do is find a third party to sort it out-in every neighbourhood there will be those overfriendly types who smile all the time and offer you muffins and cookies-be nice to these people,and ask them to resolve you conflict by talking to the neighbours-

good luck with the neighbours from hell!

Answer 10

i no of people like u but hav u ever concidered yous mite just b 2 fussy that u r the proplem all dogs bark most people have a drink some do drugs but some just complain full stop i not saying u r like this but maybe they fell u not giving them a chance 2 live everybody has 2 live somewere but we dont always get the rite neighbours thats life sorry u dad not well maybe a we bit of leeway 2 u neighbours they mite change but i dont think it i was in a bad situation with my neighbours now i just ignore them it not pleasant but it helped