2006-10-29 00:30:54 · 27 answers · asked by serene 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It would depend on each circumstance. There are times when I would protect her and other times I wouldn't.
2006-10-29 00:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you need to let her make her own "bad" decisions so she can learn and grow from the experience. Also let's face it even if you try to protect her I don't know any women that once committed to doing something won't go through with it whether everyone else disagrees. When I make up my mind about something I am going to do it regardless of what anyone else may say or think I decide for myself and live with the consequences. All you can really do is express your concern/view on the issue and hope she listens. Don't try to control the situation that will only push her farther away.
2006-10-29 07:38:21 · answer #2 · answered by Tanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you ever acted in an irresponsible way??
ALL of us do stupid things sometime in our lives.
Marriage is for better or worse, and this is just one of the "worse".
Stand by her, maybe she should face the consequences, if it isn't life threatening, but you need to be close by her, so support her and protect her if the consequences prove too much for her to handle on her own.
It may help her to realise, that stupidity does have consequences and she'll act more responsibly in the future....
2006-10-29 07:49:20 · answer #3 · answered by maggie rose 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After a while, I would imagine it would get tiresome having to intervene on her behalf. If the consequences become severe, then I would intervene, but otherwise, let her deal with the fall-out herself. Sounds like it's the only way she'll learn to take some responsibility, if she has to deal with it herself. Some people have to learn things the hard way and protecting them, which is a natural instinct, isn't always the best way to go .
I'm not saying that you shouldn't stand by her, but she is an adult, help her to be a responsible one.
2006-10-29 07:36:09 · answer #4 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you love your wife you will always stand by her side..Sometimes tho standing by a loved ones side just enables them to continue to act irresponsibly so talk to her and tell her you do not approve of her actions..you love her but want her to work on those irresponsible things she does. Help her to see things from your eyes.
2006-10-29 07:35:16 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been there and i tried both methods. the first one backfired and we lost loads of money. I think I should have protected her without making her feel undermined about her decisions. Because I left her to the consequences, they ended up just as I had predicted in my mind and though i could say 'ha! i told u!' we have lost happiness, money and self esteem.
If you are in this place, please don't give up protecting her. Whats the point anyways...whatever she fails at, u will too as a couple.
2006-10-29 08:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by jackbauer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what kind of mistake she makes. If she cheats on you maybe you can consider leaving her. Otherwise try to give her a heads up on why you want to leave her. That way she can atleast try to make an effort to change her ways. If it involves taking care of the kids or something that affects their well being then I would definitely consult with a marriage counselor or attorney. That's just too risky to have someone put your kids at harm even if they are the parent.
2006-10-29 07:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by ♥c0c0puffz♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You protect her, but sometimes one must bear the consequences of our actions before we learn. Depends whether it harms herself only or others as well. Either way it is not good. It also depends on the magnitude of the problem. Some sins are small, others are major, Stealing a piece of bread vs killing another person.............well what can I say. Use your sound judgment in this instance.
2006-10-29 07:36:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I haven't married yet, Other than cheating to me, if she has done a mistake woth out knowingly I will stand always with her and protect her.
If she has done a mistake wantedly, I will protect her by letting her to know the pain(ofcourse, not to a full extend).
Mistakes will be done by humans, not only by wifes.. husbands also do mistakes.
I do expect the same from my wife.
2006-10-29 08:12:49 · answer #9 · answered by cgowrinadh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I for one ALWAYS try to protect my wife. Ofcourse that may be why I am a two time divorcee. If it is an embarrassment to you maybe you could consider explaining that to her and be sure to explain why. But if you are simply trying to protect her.... as much as it hurts to see loved ones hurt themselves, its part of learning and growing.
2006-10-29 07:39:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man should always stand by his wife....but if it's something that is repeatedly done, then he needs to confront her with the problem and let her know what it's doing to him. Things people do in a marraige affect both people involved.
2006-10-29 08:01:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋