everything is a theory when it comes to human mind, isn't it?

Question

so what could be your theory about women who enter a relationship with married men and never care if they are destroying a family?

Answer 1

They learned to be that way.

People tend to try to recreate whatever environment they were raised with, even if it wasn't good for them. That is because it was known and is therefore comfortable; what is unknown is possibly dangerous and therefore uncomfortable, even if it might be better for them. This explains why most - but not all - people raised in chaotic environments involving alcoholism, drug addiction, gambling and/or abuse will subconsciously make life choices which will lead to chaos in their lives.

What about those who do not follow the negative example set for them? Maybe they saw a better way of life when they visited their relatives, maybe someone said their family life was different from most others when they were a pre-teen and wondered out loud, "Why does your (mother/father/sibling) (drink/smoke dope/drop acid/gamble) so much? It's not normal, you know." Others are simply quick to clue into what's going on and make a conscious decision never to copy the lifestyle they were raised with, even though it might be very difficult emotionally to make better choices.

My mother left my father five times, twice before I was born. He was a weekend binger but never mised a day's work, even did overtime. He smacked mom around quite a bit. He tried to kill my older sister when I was nine while I stood in the hallway watching him with his hands around her throat. Later, because of acid she and my brother did in the 1960's, they both became schizophrenic. I believe it was an interaction between earlier family stress and the acid that caused their psychoses (the APA doesn't use the word 'psychotic' any more, by the way).

In an attempt to reach out to me, my father began playing chess with me when I was five. Best thing he ever did for me. I aced out in school because my abilities were developed at a very early age. I went on to do a degree in psychology (from which you are now a beneficiary). I was still somewhat held back by the poor choices thing, though, and copied the negative pattern with a couple of early, bad relationships that ended within a year or, in the case of the second, infidelity involving my spouse with another man (actually, three or four on different occasions). My daughter is not impressed with her mother - who has custody - and has embraced the age of fourteen like a hurricane. I wonder if this is because she married the guy she fooled around with. Anyway, remember I said they learned to be that way. My ex was from an alcoholic home full of physical, emotional and sexual abuse.

That's when the light went on for me. The stuff they said at the Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA) meetings finally made sense.

I am now in my fifth year of marriage to a woman who was raised in a strictly religious home without any alcohol or drugs of any kind. We have a beautiful marriage which is admired by many, although we do have our squabbles now and then, like anyone else. Difference here is I don't have to worry about her doing anything weird. She's not into chaos. She's a very structured person, which I find refreshing! Our lives are very predictable which I really appreciate. I can rely on her and it is a wonderful thing that I fell in love with such a stable person.

I don't miss the BS at all!

Answer 2

I like your question. There is so much to say. Granted the neurological system is an early concept in the all that is. The original blueprint of man contained the ingredients for all the organs, the brain being only one of many. The neurological system in it's entirety holds the potential for being a powerful communication device. (once fully awakened, understood and utilized). Every emotion, every molecule of food, breath, and insight is processed through the neurological system. The ego does what it can with the constant influx of data, yet there is much more to the man. The brain is not the mind, the ego is not the mind, the body has a mind, but it is not the whole mind. The dreaming self has it's own mind, it is not the entire mind either. The subconscious, the unconscious, the conscious mind etc.... No matter what label you put on it, the answer for research is not necessarily summed up within the organ known as the brain alone. This is a well thought out question. I cannot answer it fully, without breaking it down step by step. And it's not necessary, you are a great thinker just as you are.

Answer 3

Pretty much so! I think there should be a penalty for this type of person, if it's a woman or a man. Any woman who would do this, is a wh*re, and needs a wake up call. These type of women have been hurt by somebody in their childhood, and this is their way of getting back at their own demons. They don't care who they hurt, they only care about what they can get, and how much trouble they can cause. Good Luck!!!

Answer 4

With regards to "Everything is a theory when it comes to human mind, isn't it?", the short answer is "yes".

Considering that the study of the mind (and human behaviour, etc) is psychology, and psychology is a science, then yes everything is "only" a theory (or hypothesis). In science, everything needs to be falsifiable and is only true as long as there is no data to deny it, so everything is a theory.

Answer 5

It's human nature to want what we can't have and if there is low self-esteem involved then many things can happen. That person doesn't care about anything because she has a problem with herself. People who don't care about themselves are capable of doing bad things.

Answer 6

My dad's cheating on my mum. It's been years.

The classic businessman goes to China and gets himself some young woman. I don't know the issue entirely, but statistically, and knowing my dad as well, I'd believe that she's in it for the money and security.

Guess how I feel about the matter?

Answer 7

women enter that kind of relationship because the man is "safe". she wont need to commit to the relationship, she gets satisfied sexually, she gets other perks and she can break it off whenever she feels like. Hmmmm, sorta like what a lot of guys do to women

Answer 8

Where did the philosophy 'everything is a theory when it comes to human mind' come from?

They are hoes

Answer 9

selfishness...its a human emotion

Answer 10

That's the lowest in my opinion.