Why do women do it?

Question

Some of the questions in "answers" from have been "My husband/partner treats me like dirt", "My boyfriend is sleeping around" or "he doesnt respect me" or "I dumped me 3 times should I take him back" or "He wants me but not my kids"

Why, when their partner has treated them so badly do they need to ask the question "what should I do" "but I still love him" "should I dump him, when the answer is clearly YES

Why do women put up with so much cr~p?

Answer 1

there horny

Answer 2

Women who haven't been exposed to a positive male role model lack both self respect and self esteem in many cases. Some don't think they can get any better. Some are willing to put up with anything just to not be alone. Most of these women could have a healthy relationship with a man, but deflect it because it doesn't keep their interest or they can't handle the responsibility of being an equal participant. It's best to stay clear of these women. They need therapy not saving.

Answer 3

I have no idea at all why some some women put up with men who treat them badly - I certainly wouldn't - he would be out the door, bags and all - as fast as his two legs would carry him!!! OR as far as I could kick him! No woman should put up with c--p from their partners/husbands - guys should treat women the way they want to be treated.

Answer 4

One of the things that puzzle men and women alike but it is not just women that seem attracted like a magnet to the bad types. There does seem to be a phenomenon where many women seem to latch onto a man with then object of changing him into what she wants, almost in an apparent desire to prove her power over men? Certainly women do have great power over men because of the biological differences and the misunderstanding of what drives us males, the auto desires generated by chemicals from our brains, we desire, we show our affections and those decent amongst us often get rejected, could it be because we are no 'challenge' for the woman that wants to prove her ability to have that power to change a man? Perhaps there are too many factors to ever understand but I am sure of one thing and that is woman's logic is definitely at odds with men's.

Answer 5

Its not that women "put up" with c**p as you say its more of a confidence thing....maybe its low self esteem, maybe it is true love. Who knows............ it could be that they cant stand up for themselves. Not all women are like that. I'm not but I no some women who r and they do put up with a lot of s**t from their men and its cause of many different reasons other than the 1's listed above..........some of them have a fear that they wont find any1 else, they r not good enough 4 any1 else or they are scared 2 move on...........it all depends on the situation and the type of woman involved and how strong, weak or stupid they r (not all women r stupid).

Answer 6

A bully can give you low self esteem and make you feel insecure. This can make you dependant on them. This dependence is seen by the victim as love. To break from this you need to build self confidence and realise that separation is not your fault but necessary for you to go forward with a good quality of life.

Answer 7

I don't think the question should by why do women do it, but why do people do it?

I think there are a lot of men who put up with tonnes of sh*t from women too, but they are less likely to talk about it, as (generally speaking), men tend to talk less about relationships in general, especially in a public place, and especially if it shows them in a bad light (eg, perhaps less of a man because they're allowing a woman to walk all over them).

People allow this to happen for a variety of reasons, but i think underpinning them all is fear. Not necessarily fear of the partner, but fear of the unknown, fear of never again finding someone that may find them attractive, fear of being seen as 'flighty' cos they appear to flit from one partner to the next (because they get out when the warning signals start!), fear of being alone, and fear of all sorts of things.

"I love them" or "I want to make the relationship work" or "I know that they love me really" or "We used to have a perfect relationships" are all seens as acceptable disguises to mask that fear of just getting on with life and having some self-respect.

Answer 8

most of the men that treat women in these ways have away of undermining the woman and therefore they make her feel insecure and inadequate, how do you expect them to feel that they know what is right after they have been treated in this way - yes with hindsight we can all look back and see that we were treated in a bad way but when in that situation you cannot see it.

Love is blind as they say!

The question should be - why do men feel the need to treat women in this way in the first place!

Answer 9

Women who have been cheated on, or hurt, usually get it done to them when they have fallen in love with the guy. To just tell him to **** off would be hard, but not impossable, I was talking to my friend and she said that, she didn't break up with her cheating boyfriend because getting back with him time and time and again was a safe option, because she was scared of being alone and having to be independant again. So maybe thats why women put up with so much crap :/

Answer 10

Women need to know for themselves, as it's them that have to deal with it not us..... when theres children involved it's harder than what you think...especially if the woman have to leave the house etc.
Some people like other people's opinions when we clearly see the "obvious" answer.
Over the years I have spoken to some women in situations like "why put up with the crap". Us men don't know what they go through..we just get up and go(not to say I have), women tend to hold onto what diginty they have...until it's time to KICK HIM into touch.

Answer 11

I think for some women they think its better to have someone who treats them badly than have no one at all.

They know the should end it but are afraid of the unknown.