with anyone who would want to spend a lifetime with him/her? even though he/she is single, for the reason that he/she had decided to be single for life?
in what way is this selfish?
2006-10-28 22:50:27 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
no romantic relations whatsoever?
2006-10-28 22:55:27 · update #1
There is nothing selfish about this persons attitude, some people have always preferred the peaceful quiet way of life as apposed to feeling in some way bound to anothers existence, this should be understood and accepted, and quite frankly to call them selfish and not respecting their decision in such matters is a somewhat selfish attitude on the part of someone who is trying to impose what they want over the feelings of the person that say they care about.
2006-10-29 00:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by Damien Cross 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it is selfish. i think it is a bit stubborn and absolute :) saying that decided to be single. i would just leave an open window, u may change your mind later, why not? u dont let yourself to see the other side of the coin, there may be something there u really need. it is your life, u ll live it the way u want, i would only suggest that u are more open minded, keep all your options open :)
2006-10-29 06:07:29 · answer #2 · answered by kourtina1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not selfish.
I never wanted to get married or have children, although I ended up doing one of each. I love my daughter dearly and wouldn't want to NOT have her, but I was right....I was definitely more of a "single act" than most people.
It depends on who is telling them it's selfish. I can see parents telling their child that not giving them grandchildren is selfish. It is from their perspective....however, the reality is...it's not.
2006-10-29 06:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by Kaia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does your head or your heart rule your life ?
If your heart does you may need someone else in your life.
If your head does you may be able to have a good life if people are clear that you are not interested. It's very difficult to convince people that you're not interested if they can see what they perceive as difficulties in your life. Stick with it and sooner or later they'll get the idea.
2006-10-29 06:06:39 · answer #4 · answered by enirgo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything at all selfish about staying single if that's what you want. It's certainly better than marrying if you don't really want to be married. Love often makes people change their minds. If that hasn't happened, it's better to remain single.
2006-10-29 05:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by Kuji 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he/she has to reconsider some things which he/she overlooked before sentencing him/her self in a life like this. he/she must think thoroughly about this desicion because it is very sad to grow old alone, with no family, no husband/wife or son or daughter. i think, it may not be selfish, but it would be unfair to him/her self to deprive of these wonderful gifts of life.
2006-10-29 06:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by Kalooka 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is best to be yourself. I went to alabama to be a hermit for a year.but I like to be around people sometimes.depends on your way at the time. dont limit yourself . life is a growing and learning experiance
2006-10-29 06:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope not selfish no one has an obligation to be with someone becuse they want it, how ever it would be a sad lonley life
2006-10-29 05:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by Bryn L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This person wants to be a recluse. Leave them be.
2006-10-29 06:07:40 · answer #9 · answered by no nickname 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm more work then I'm worth,
2006-10-29 05:54:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋