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My mum always told me not to argue its a waste off time .So when i fall out with someone i dont talk to them.. EG.. My husband ..EG.. I came home from work last week i was knacked i just wanted to be left alone. So i did snap at him but he snapped at me. So i went up stairs and have not spoke for a week. Am i wrong plus hes the same when he gets home from work your cant talk to him till hes out of work mode.. should i say sorry or wait for him.. lol last time i didnt speak for 4 weeks i know he will leave it another week it was 2 weeks last time sorry if the english is not so good am a bit thick in that department lol cheers

2006-10-28 22:42:45 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

25 answers

When men come back from work, they don't like to speak. They put themselves in their cavern. They will read a magazine, or watch TV. Go to him, and ask him to let you know when you'll be able to speak together a moment.
It is no good to stay so long without communicate. Obviously, he is sorry, and you are too. Make the first step if he doesn't. Say sorry, or make a romantic dinner for you two.
Good luck.

2006-10-29 00:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by boulonpitou 2 · 0 1

People handle things differently - to some people, unwinding at the end of a long day means having time to yourself and gathering your own thoughts, whereas to others it means chilling out with someone/friends etc and discussing it. you just have to recognise this in yourself and people close to you and deal with it accordingly, perhpas letting loved ones know how to deal with YOU too.

Arguing ISN'T a waste of time, sometimes you really do need to express your feelings and passions, and you are never going to agree with someone all the time, so don't expect to. However, this doesn't seem like an argument, more like a period of stress and snapiness.

Not speaking for a week seems a bit drastic - are you sure there is nothing underlying. You obviously do want to talk or you wouldn't have posted this question. be the bigger person - you can restart conversations without actually having to apologise, if that's what you're worried about.

Just ask him if he wants a drink, or ask a quetion about something on the telly, or if there's a film he'd like to see etc - ask a question where he needs to answer, cos then he'll seem churlish if he doesn't reply in the same vein.

Good luck - but make sure one you're past this, you discuss what happened and why, to try and avoid it happening again.

2006-10-29 05:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by spacebabe2 2 · 0 0

I can't do the "no talking" thing. It takes more discipline than I can bear!
What do you actually want? Do you want to have this atmosphere in the house for two weeks or more? Of course not!
Don't get into an argument. Why don't you say "I'm sorry I snapped at you. I don't want to argue and I don't want this atmosphere. Can we make up?" You've made your point, he's made his. Carry on like this though and you won't have a relationship. Next time, think twice before you snap at each other and tell him you want a bit of space. If it's nicely put, he'll understand.

2006-10-29 05:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0 0

A relationship where people don't talk to each other for weeks doesn't sound like a very happy or healthy one. Obviously the best solution is for the two of you to talk things through rather than shouting etc, but maybe it is better to have an arguement and get it over and done with.

2006-10-29 05:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Communication sometimes is the hardest thing to do when both parties are at loggerheads with each other so perhaps a different approach is needed, try holding out a white flag & maybe he will see the funny side it certainly will break the ice .

2006-10-29 05:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by edison 5 · 0 0

You seem quite happy and pleasant to the yahoo crowd,
( ie:sorry if the english is not so good am a bit thick in that department lol cheers) and it leaves me to ponder if there are not deeper emotional issues present. Fighting shows love. It shows that you care enough to respect the other and argue about it. Then, we work through our issues with our partner.

2006-10-29 05:48:18 · answer #6 · answered by James S 4 · 0 2

Me and my husband used to do this a lot, it's like an endurance test to see who will win....how pointless! My advice is just make friends, always just do that - lifes too short AND it puts a strain on your relationship when there not even a real reason to fall out!

2006-10-29 05:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by frazzlefizzle 1 · 0 0

You don't need to argue but you do need to talk and get things off your chest. I think you seem to understand each other regarding space but is this really the way you want to go through life?

2006-10-29 05:48:48 · answer #8 · answered by Alicat 6 · 0 0

If he hasn't already, your pouting and silent treatment will most likely drive him away.
You snapped at him first, it is YOUR fault, period. A man really shouldn't have to put up with a childish woman who goes weeks without speaking and even plans how long..

You really ought to grow up, or get a divorce.

2006-10-29 06:19:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I have to say I don't argue with my wife, because we know each other. I have 2 jobs and I get really tired, my wife knows this, she gives me a kiss & a hug, I do the same to her, I know when not to approach etc....communication is the key to your answer.
Don't apologise just talk..............

I don't argue becuase it's unhealthy and you may say things that you may regret...... as words can hurt and everthing gets out of hand.

I'm a relaxed guy and never let things bother me, as I'm in control of myself and I don't want to upset anyone just because I'm tired.

I hope you both can sort it out.

2006-10-29 06:07:36 · answer #10 · answered by BigD 2 · 0 0

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