She is always cold with me but turning down the invitation with a lame excuse about what the weather might be like has really offended me & my hubby! What should we do, can I improve my relationship with her?
She is never nice to me and has said horrible things about me to my husband, she never has a good word to say about me. She wants a relationship with our children but it seems not with us. I don't know what I've done to deserve this! She I ask her again to come for Christmas and try to make her change her mind?
2006-10-28 22:19:03 · 16 answers · asked by frazzlefizzle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She made it clear we are not welcome there unless we are just dropping the kids off!
2006-10-28 22:23:01 · update #1
We both know what she's like and we don't take notice of most of what she says becuase she is so malicious. I feel christmas should involve putting these negative feelings aside at least temporarily?
2006-10-28 22:27:23 · update #2
Why don't you tell her how hurtful you find her attitude?
You could tell her that you were looking forward to having her spend Christmas with you and your family and that her response about the weather makes you feel that she doesn't want to spend any time with you and ask her what the problem is.
She might be so wrapped up in herself and her own world that she just has no idea the impact she's having on you.
It would be a real shame for both you and your children not to have her in your lives, but she needs to be a positive influence and behave like an adult because if she makes you unhappy your kids will be unhappy
Good luck x
2006-10-28 22:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 01:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave her alone i did that with my mum now she comes over 1 a week that's a big improvement from 1 a year
also tell her if she wants to see your children she can come and collect them why should you do this woman any favours she will want you before you want her sad but true
2006-10-29 00:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by veronica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, leave her alone. Just let her know that if she changes her mind, the invitation's still open.
Many people don't like Christmas with their relations. They'd rather stay at home and stick with their usual routine. Make sure she's got everything she needs and leave her to it.
2006-10-28 22:22:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't actually see why you want to change her mind. If she's that difficult with you and your hubby, and that milicious, why would you want her around your children, especially at a time that is supposedly happy and giving.
see her another time, one where you wont have so much stress as it is. wait until after Christmas to confront her with it.
2006-10-28 23:12:24 · answer #5 · answered by spacebabe2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might just be that as we get older we get grumpier, so socialising is more difficult, and the weather bit is an excuse, but I would try to fin out if there is something she thinks you have done first, it could be a misunderstanding on either side.
2006-10-28 22:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to listen to what she is saying, she is making a perfectly clear statement to me. Don't put yourself in a situation were you feel stressed. if she dont want to see you then the reality is that the kids come as a package, she cant choose
2006-10-28 22:51:14 · answer #7 · answered by simon m 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No ..she feeds off watching you beg.....ignore her and she will make the next move....withold the children from her and make it clear that your family comes as a complete package and that yoy would like her to be part of it...christmas is a load of bollox anyway..the bigger issue is why she can't be nice all year round..the best move would be to say "if you won't come to us..we'll come to you!!" WATCH HER FACE!!
2006-10-28 22:22:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg i can see you care for your mum. i lost my mum last new year . Are relationship was not close when i was younger but we grew close when i got older i can belive people waste time on small things time is precious. if i was you get her on her own and have a heart to heart plus xmas it a time for families am going to miss my mum so much this year life's to short good luck
2006-10-28 22:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
. . . she obviously needs to feel special like the Christmas Tree Fairy - so invite her round and stick the Xmas tree where the sun don't shine! . . .
2006-10-29 04:19:23 · answer #10 · answered by Astra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋