My husband is deployed & I'm so stressed I need help from someone who has been here befor any army wifes?

Answer 1

I was deployed before. Let me tell you the best thing that you can do to make your hubby feel great. He needs to know that he is coming home to YOU. That he is all you love and noone else. Lots and lots of mail to help him know it. Mail is a great motivator for a trooper that is deployed. And to help with your stress....keep him informed of things going on back here. Talk to him in your letters like he is still here and you are talking directly to him. :-)

Answer 2

Was raised army and I can tell you that this passes but you need all the support you can find either from friends and family or from the other wives/husbands of deployed service men/women.Most military bases have groups set for just such situations and like someone else said try the web page for extra help or do what your doing now and use it as a way to vent your stress and frustration over your husbands absence.But never allow your self to brood to much on it for to long as it can slowly eat your sanity and health,find an outlet for it somewhere soon.

Answer 3

I know where your coming from. I was in the military and my marriage failed because I was always deployed. A lot of people don't understand the seriousness of this issue and the turmoil involved.

If you don't want participate in the military support groups (because those groups can also turn into dog & pony shows). my recommendation is to find a good church and become involved. Find a passion and dive into it. That will ease things on your mind. And be on the lookout for other younger army wives so you can help them deal with their separation. Helping out other people always made me feel better.

Answer 4

hey the guy with the first answer is a creep.

You have every right to be stressed. It is how you handel the stress that counts.

Find distractions. Join a club. A bowling league.
Get a hobby, Find things that you can focus on..

Helping others is also a good way to fill fulfilled.
Pray and meditate. Take up Yoga.

Get involved with other women on the base.

Read alot. Work, Cry when you need to. Be jouful when you can.

And thank you to your husband for how is is serving our country

Answer 5

Im not an Army wife, but an Army Husband. Hang tough, and put things into perspective. You are a tough breed, you can deal with anything! Think about how stressed he is, and realize you can handle the great American life he is defending. Support him to the end, be a true wife and don't let anything stray you from your path. No matter what happens, you will both be proud of how you handle this tough time. I've been deployed to combat 5 times, and my wife is a true patriot who supports me to the end. Times get tough for her, but she hangs on! So can you. God never gives you more than you can handle, it is all how you choose to handle it. Good luck, and God Speed to your Hubby.

Answer 6

not an army wife, but just wanted to tell you I can't imagine the amount of stress all you army wife's/husbands are going through with your loved one so far away, and doing what they are doing....I have 2 kids in the military, so I know what worrying is....I wish for you your husband has a safe return, and hope it is soon...Is it possible perhaps you could start a support group for wife's dealing with their husbands deployment so you don't have to go through it all by yourself, and help pass the time with..or maybe start your own web site for that....hope it gets better for you sincerely.....

Answer 7

My huband is on his 6th deployment right now in Iraq/kuwait depends on the mission they do 6 months there 6 months home. I know about stress, bordem, anger, lonliness and everything else. We haven't had Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years or Valentines day together in 5 years, it sucks. u can vistin my 360 or mail me if u wanna keep contact cuz I know soemtimes its just easier to talk to someone who's in the same situation

Answer 8

Here is a website to help you. Also there are services available to you on base. I recommend taking up bowling or roller skating or something else fun to occupy your time. Avoid the downfalls of drinking and gambling and other vices. Good luck, you can do it and thanks for your part of your husband's service. People often forget that behind alot of fighting men there's a good woman.

Answer 9

Hi Faith,

I am an Army Wife also. My husband has also been deployed. I have also been going through very stressful situations at home, especially in our finances. My children miss their father and I miss my husband. When times get tough and it seems like your home is falling apart and you are trying to keep a sane mind, you need to hold it together for the sake of your family at home. If you have children you need to be strong for them and they need to know that You Are Doing Your Very Best to maintain stability in your home. When you worry and wonder if he is alright you need to know that he is also thinking of home too. He needs to focus on what he is doing there if he doesn't and worry about home, he may become a casualty and a danger to his fellow brother soldiers.

Do your very best to keep youself busy by doing those little projects that you have been meaning to get to in your home or outside your home. Get yourself out of the home and do something that will help others and encourage other military wives out there that need uplifting and encouragements. Go to womens functions or help in charities for children. Have Faith in God that your husband is in good hands and that your love for your man is there for him till he comes home to you.

I know it is hard and taking life day to day, just remember that you can get through this! If you also need to just get pampered at a spa go do it and relax yourself and your mind. I can only encourage you and know what you are going through and when he gets the chance to call you, all he will want to do is hear your lovely voice and want to know that you are his life line to strive for life. God bless you Faith and your name means alot. Faith endures and love is precious and you are his sunshine.

By the way, when you feel down and teary and all heck falls around you, stand firm and continue to do your best. There are support groups with your husbands battalion with the Family Readiness Groups. Online there is a military one source that is available 24/7 to help in all your needs.

Answer 10

Hi gal, I understand your plight, and i can come to your help. you can IM or email me at [e-mail].
I have a good experience in this field