2006-10-28 20:50:06 · 21 answers · asked by Chuck Dhue 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Absolutely. You got it. It's true.
2006-10-28 20:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by Dianne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, for the most part. You definitely marry the family, though you get some wiggle room on how much you deal with extended family like cousins and aunts and uncles. You also definitely marry her close friends. With luck and time, they become your close friends, as well. Former acquaintances are negotiable.
When you get married, your social circle pretty much doubles, and there will naturally be people who aren't so important anymore to her, so they needn't be terribly important to you, but for the most part, you need to look at it as marrying a woman and becoming part of her life, which includes family and friends.
If it doesn't happen right away, there's no need to panic about it, as it takes time to find your place in all of that. But yes, basically, you marry a group of people, and after a while, if you are lucky, and things work out, you stop seeing them as "her" family and friends, and you start seeing them as yours, as well.
And it works the same way when a woman marries a man, just in case you were wondering...
2006-10-29 04:09:01 · answer #2 · answered by Bronwen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when you do marry a woman, the family usually is part of it too. Her friends can be important to her just as much as her family can be. As for former acquaintances, I am not sure about what you mean on that one. Male or female? Usually when they are former that means past acquaintances. The same usually applies for the women marrying a guy too. Family, and friends. So if you are going to get married, then Congrats!
2006-10-29 02:57:39 · answer #3 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't mean you got to love her family and friends but you have to tolerate them and be cortious for the sake of your relationship and of the new family you are building. How involved you want to be with them its something you need to make clear to your spouse. I suggest telling her you kind of anti-social and hope she can explain to them so they don't take it personally. Acquaintances have no bearing in your relationship. You just don't want to be rude to them if your wife is hoping to develop a more serious relationship with her.
I have been married for 4 years and my husband has not even met all my friends since some live in other states and countries. But he at least knows about them. Acquaintances, I only introduce him if I am hoping that a friendship will grow from there...
2006-10-29 04:17:15 · answer #4 · answered by TrueSoul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all actuality you are marrying her and her family and she is marrying you and your family.Friends and acquaintances are either way she can have some that you never really meet or know and same for her it is good to have that separation somewhere so you still have a sympathetic ear to hear you vent with out worrying about things you say in anger or fear getting to the other.
2006-10-29 05:35:41 · answer #5 · answered by rsbalent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are marrying a woman. She has had other people in her life. Those relationships will likely continue
If you have problems with these other people, discuss it with your potential spouse before you marry. Make sure you have the same expectations or come to an understanding about these individuals which you can both live with.
2006-10-29 02:56:03 · answer #6 · answered by Susan M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, so true. Goes the other way also.
With the guy.
There is a saying that the apple doens't fall to far from the tree.
If the family is full or trash, the you might need to think twice about getting married.
It is very possible for someone to stop the family cycle of crazziness.And this might be your girl
2006-10-29 02:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Extremely true. EVERYONE that she knows and is in contact with, will enter your life at some point or the other, and influence it in some way or the other. No one can leave what they are behind so don't expect girls to dump their nasty parents, rotten siblings and evil friends because that's not how they perceive them!
2006-10-29 06:10:45 · answer #8 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-10-29 05:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by glyn k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mostly you're marrying her entire family. Secondarily you're marrying her good friends. Acquaintances are of no significance, unless you're a knucklehead who holds her past against her.
2006-10-29 02:52:42 · answer #10 · answered by OU812 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u marry any normal person, they come with family and friends and a whole history that has NOTHING to do with u. u dont have to like them, but she probably does, so u have to accept that they r a part of her life, and therefore, a part of urs.
2006-10-29 04:10:51 · answer #11 · answered by bettie b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋