This is not meant to be a judgement on anyone's character, just after your thoughts
Why, when you know someone is married, would you have an affair with them? I don't understand why people choose to be with a married person when there are squillions of single folk out there.
If you were hoodwinked into thinking a man / woman was single and you discovered later on that was not the case - how could you respect your lover who has lied to you and is lying to someone else.
2006-10-28 20:35:24 · 14 answers · asked by LadyRebecca 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're correct Sweetness, I'm not American, I'm Australian - what gives?
2006-10-29 09:43:13 · update #1
You are so right that is exactly why after I found out my boyfriend of five months was married I broke up with him. It didn't make any sense to continue. what am I going to gain from this infamous relationship? Nothing but a bad reputation and feelings of low self worth. He claimed he was unhappy, but still do I want to be with a guy that cheats on his wife. A wife is supposed to be special and adored. How is he suppose to respect me if he didn't respect his wife? I got out lucky though. I never had sex with him and I didn't ever kiss him, because I thought he was cheating on me with some girl on myspace.
There is no joy in having a married man as a boyfriend. He won't be able to come to you when you really need him. He won't be able to spend holidays with you. It's just pathetic to stoop that low.
2006-10-28 20:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by Bu Tran 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lot of times it's the thrill of the chase, others it's the confusion of "ohi love this person, but i NEED this other person...i'm schizophrenic?" Then there are other unusual cases but the first 2 seem to be the most redundant
Ever heard of the phrase "women want what they can't have?" eeeyah, seems to follow suit on both sides, specially with dudes homewreaking. Since bein a playa is the thing to do, what better way to trophy a prize by nabbin a married woman? Hell they think they're doin the husband a favor by satisfying their lonely wife..ain't dat some sh*t?
For women, a man who's married, has to have SOMETHING good. Because a single man may have issues, cause well...HE'S SINGLE, somethin must not be good if he's still single, while married men....they have something a woman wanted, he's a MAN, he has responsibility, confidence, all that, AND he's TAKEN...which is a challenge for alot of women, and so it just makes it THAT much better for them to chase it.
Then there are the confused idiots...the ones that are happily married (or not, doesn't matter), and then they see someone strikingly better than their significant other, and the lust and infatuation controls them...BUT they don't wanna lose their stability, so in essence they try and satiate their lustful hunger, but just in case it isn't any good, have the good thing you initially have as back-up. Lots of people just aren't satisfied , always lookin for better, regardless of the cost.
For those who got played by a lying married person, yea it sucks, but the obvious answer is..well damn leave..why hook up with someone who, if they're willing to cheat on their wife with you....what makes you think they won't do it to you? Those that try to tell the man "leave her...leave her or him..blah blah blah" and then get pissed off when he cheats on her...that's just stupid. But such is the power of love and lust....many a weak mind can't withstand it....and they eventually stray.
2006-10-29 02:46:38 · answer #2 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They just want a fast fling with no commitment. If someone is married you know they won't expect anything out of you. So it is safe. I almost fooled around with a married man, but that was because I was taking some meds that made me go off the wall. Now i have no attraction whatsoever towards him and wonder why I was so stupid.
2006-10-29 02:39:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're either REALLY in love or don't care. My dad cheated on my mom with a girl from work. They've been married for 10 years now and have a kid. So, that sort of disproves the theory of it being "just a fling."
2006-10-29 02:49:56 · answer #4 · answered by Vera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never have dated a married man. But I guess people do it for the excitement , of sneaking around and the thought of just the two of them know about the relationship.
2006-10-29 02:41:08 · answer #5 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not having an affair,but from what I have heard or seen it is because married men are' safe 'so to speak,they treat them well,are nice to them,give them money or presents,and the woman has no obligation to them what so ever.They don't have to wash their underwear,or socks or cook for them,or put up with them when they don't want to.It's a good deal for the 'other woman'.
Second question:I could not respect him,and further more he has no respect for you if he is lying to you,he is dishonest and I would refuse to see him any more.Tell him to home to his wife.
2006-10-29 02:48:41 · answer #6 · answered by wndrng47 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im a married man having an affair with a married woman. the thing is there is no committment(spelled wrong), after being married 20 yrs one just needs a little spi8ce up in the sex life
2006-10-29 02:42:42 · answer #7 · answered by david h 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have been on both sides. i cheated...and he never knew and then karma was a b$#ch...and he cheated on me. i found out. people stray when they think they aren't getting what they want out of the marriage. it honestly has nothing to do w/ the partner..although we lie and tell ourselfs that! i cheated because i wanted to feel loved and needed..i thought i was n't getting that at home. he cheated because he found someone who was okay with his lifestyle..he is an alcohlic. she knew he was married..my partner did as well. as guess they (the cheaters) think they will win and he/she will leave the wife/hubby? it is a sad deal either way.
2006-10-29 04:07:31 · answer #8 · answered by tsdomann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To bolster low self esteem.
A married person is less likely to have a disease and is less likely to mess up your current living arrangements.
2006-10-29 02:50:05 · answer #9 · answered by Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd love to know. I'm married and I'm having a very hard time finding women who will sleep with me.
2006-10-29 02:49:45 · answer #10 · answered by edward_the_l0ngshanks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋