is it ok if she gets pregnant by her Boyfriend
2006-10-28 20:29:43 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
im 13 and my mum does not pay me enough attention she will blow her top if she reads this my mum said that girls who get pregnant just do it to get attention my mum would really have a go at me if i got pregnant and would ground me for life i dont spend a lot of time with my mum but would not get pregnant i hope she does not have a go at me when she reads this
2006-10-28 23:17:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not getting pregnant that is the issue. Babies don't ask to be conceived. It's the choices you make long before getting pregnant that are the issue. Alot of young girls run off into the arms of some guy because the parents don't pay them enough attention - that happens everyday. There are healthier ways to get attention and feel better about yourself, such as joining a sport, club or volunteering to help others, babysitting. I can't tell you what's OK for you, but I can tell you that you're taking a huge risk if you want to get pregnant at this age. You're body is not fully ready - your boyfriend is probably not ready - your chances of miscarriage are higher and you're probably risking more and going to end up hurting yourself more rather than getting the attention you need from doing this. But, if you're already pregnant - it's okay to be pregnant. It may not be okay - your reasoning in doing it. But, for most everyone the decision to try to get pregnant is hardly a rational one all things considered. You're probably not going to earn the kind of positive attention you crave from your parents in doing this. If they already don't pay you attention - they are not likely going to take the news well - hopefully they would in the end warm up to this. But it's probably not a good idea to try as a way to make things better for you in life with your parents.
2006-10-28 20:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don't do it! I was that 14 year old girl 15 years ago and if I could change anything about my life it would be having a baby when I was a teen. It was a really ignorant thing to do. I thought it would be great and I would get a new family to love me and for me to love, but all I got was a teenage marriage (and divorce 4 months later), a beautiful son who resents me and his father because we are unable to give him what he needs still to this day because we are uneducated and work minimum wage jobs since neither of us was able to attend college. We were too busy taking care of our kid. I went to school all day, worked all night and my kid was pretty much raised by his gramma. His dad ran around with a million girls and left him with her. He is just now getting his life together and so am I. It was a BIG mistake. Just find some good friends and love your boyfriend. Just not that much to make a baby. You will be 18 in 4 short years and be on your own. It may seem like forever, but high school is the best time of your life and being a grown up sucks. Enjoy your teen years cause you never get another chance to be young and free. Once those days are gone they don't come back, so don't end them until you are out of college, have a good job and are ready to give your babies everything they ever wanted and more. They will love you for it.
2006-10-28 20:37:15 · answer #3 · answered by L.J. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No hun,it isnt ok.Parents not paying attention to their children is not an excuse for a child to go out and get pregnant.There is so much involved with having a child,and raising a child that im sure a 14 year old girl isnt aware of,unless she has been in that situation before.Becoming pregnant at such a young age,on top of her parents neglecting her is only going to cause her more stress.At fourteen,a child should continue going to school,continue to grow up and become a responsible adult.There is never a reason for a 14 year old to go out and become pregnant.Dont waste your teen years worrying about having a baby,just for someone to notice you.Odds are,at that age your boyfriend isnt mature enough to raise a child,and once he finds out your pregnant,he will run eventually.There are a few out there,who stand by them,but the percentage of teenage boys who leave is alot greater than the percentage of the ones who stay.Do not worry about your parents neglecting you.Become a responsible young adult,despite their mistakes.You could get a part time job,continue going to school(and graduate),make sure you focus on the important things.Rather than worrying about doing adult things when your only a kid yourself.There will be plenty of time for things like that once your an adult,so dont waste your childhood because your parents fail to watch you grow up.Good luck hun,have a good day.
2006-10-29 00:02:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that's about the dumbest way to try to get more attention. A baby is going to take away ALL of the attention. Not only will her parents not pay an ounce more attention to her, but she'll have to direct all of her own attention to the baby. No more teenage fun at all.
Plus it would be incredibly selfish to do that to the baby. What a horrible life for that child, being raised by another child. It would ruin the 14 year old's life, too.
2006-10-28 20:38:35 · answer #5 · answered by Answer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is absolutely not right for a girl to get pregnant just because her parents are not paying attention. This is very stupid behaviour because bringing another life into this world is not a fun past time or a spoilt child's cry for attention. Its very serious and she's only a kid herself, what happens to the baby, what happens if she wants a career/relationship/education...the baby will put a stop to everything. She'll find that dating gets harder when you have to arrange for an expensive babysitter every time, and when your potential mate is turned off by her being a teen mom. She'll find that education or getting a good career will be very, very difficult for her to obtain since babies are time consuming and expensive...both time and money that should have been utilized on herself for bettering her life rather than destroying it by getting pregnant. Plus babies deserve healthy, mature parents with a stable financial and marital status...not parents who are still kids themselves with hardly any education, no money and no stability.
2006-10-28 23:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by DrSH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was pregnant when I was 14. And to tell the truth, if my parents would have paid more attention to me, more likely than not it wouldn't of happened. My parents not once told me about birth control, sexually transmitted diseases etc. I was never told about the so called "birds and bees". I was too afraid to tell my mother when I had started my menstrual cycle. Just because that's how detached my family was. My first sexual encounter was with my first boyfriend and I end up pregnant because for lack of education I wasn't thinking about the consequences...
Don't get me wrong I'm WAY past the "it's all my parents fault" stage. I love my parents dearly and at the time they raised me the best that 'they' knew how........
If you need attention from your parents why don't you try asking them. You'd be surprised at what parents are unaware of until their children make them aware. If you get pregnant just for attention, who's going to pay attention to the baby once you're on stage.
Talk to your parents.....And make sure you practise safe sex until you and your partner ie, "husband" are ready to make a commitment to a new life. Work on your life first.....
Good luck ! ! !
2006-10-28 21:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Goodness! I should hope (& will give you the benefit of the doubt) by saying you know the answer!
Life is hard for everyone and to blame pregnancy on your parents would show no maturity level in the 14 year old. Everyone experiences discomfort and aloneness in their lives. (at any age)
Before a child should be brought into ANY situation at ANY age, the parents/ 14 yr old in this senerio, should be able to understand themselves, and comfortable in their relationships with themelves and where they are at. (socially, emotionally, financially, & physically)
If the 14 year old thinks their life may be screwed up, why would they want to bring an innocent child into the world and screw a babies life up , too! That is selfishness at it's max! (& selfishness and motherhood DO NOT run any where near hand in hand.. as a matter of fact, they are complete opposites.)
Geez! Tell the kid to "GROW UP< TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS< & LEARN WHO YOU ARE INSIDE & OUT...."
2006-10-28 20:57:02 · answer #8 · answered by Jennewren :) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no... in my oppinion a 14 yr old is not ready for a responsibility such as a child!
just b/c u dont get attention from ur parents doesnt mean ur gunna get attention from them being pregnant!
its just gunna make matters worse!
there gunna grow up to hate u and ur child!
and just b/c ur pregnant it doesnt mean that the world revolves around u! life goes on!
if u love ur boyfriend then go right ahead but im jsut telling u its a big responsibility!
2006-10-28 20:39:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would she want to do this? If she wants attention that's not the way to go. If she has this kid it's not a one time thing, were she has the child for a day just to get attention, this is a lifelong commitment. She must really think about this. And it must be because she wants to not because this is a way to get attention.
2006-10-30 08:07:04 · answer #10 · answered by M&M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋