help me please?

Question

My parents seem to be arguing more and more nowadays, today they argued because dad wanted mum to decide what she wanted for lunch before he'd pick, things like this have been going on for abit now, theres also my 11 year old brother, dad yells at him alot! he's ex airforce so dicipline is important to him, anyway mum and dad have been married now for 18 years and I spose in real terms I only have my girlfriend Laura for support sometimes because mum seems to go off at me for not attending classes but thats my choice, not hers.....and as for dad he's ok most of the time but when he goes off at me he really looses it.....one morning I wound up with a huge gash on my back thanks to him...

anyway I wonder, what do I do here, do we send my parents away for a 2nd honeymoon and hope they calm down or give up all hope and once I move out with Laura tell my folks what I really think of them at the moment?

Laura if your reading this give me some advice babe...

thanks everyone
Mitch

even though we argue abit I still love both of my parents, but just want some help...........its not so cruciul for me but it is for my 11 year old brother ok guys...

i'm in year 12 thankyou all.....which s college here in Australia

the morning I got that gash me and dad had a major arguement, as a result I got that and then was yelled at to "get the F**K up" come on "get up"

Answer 1

tough situation, hard on the kids when the parents fight, especially in front of your 11 yr old brother...as for the gash on your back, assuming your around 18 or so, that is still unexceptable. Here in the states that is abuse. An act of violence on your fathers part. Sounds like your folks are having issues, and it could be alot of things, second honeymoon, getting away from the everyday stuff and stress could be a good idea. But, your father has some underlying issues, yelling at your little brother all the time and hitting you....Moving out may not be such a bad idea, and telling them your tired of the fighting etc. is why is not wrong..But I think your worried about your little brother. So, your going to have to do what is best for you, can't tell you what to do, I don't live in your home. Dad is ex military, ok, disipline, ok, violence and screaming not ok....If he hits little bro. or your mom, I would call the cops.

Answer 2

If you think you know trouble now because you're parents are arguing too much, just wait until you move in with your girlfriend and start taking care of yourself. Can you say "Cash Flow"? Just who is going to pay your bills, dear?
Oh, and your mom is going off on you because you're skipping classes? Now isn't that special! To think--she cares about what becomes of your life. Oh, she is vile, for sure. What do you expect her to do? Nod approvingly at any stupid thing you choose to do? Are you planning on graduating from high school? Going to college? For sure "NOT" if you are not attending your classes. Again, how do you expect to pay your bills when you leave your awful home? Do you really want to work at a fast food place for the rest of your life? Well, actually, you could be a janitor, or dish washer, or lots of other things, just don't expect to be earning 50K a year.
Need I mention that if you leave now your 11 year old brother will be at home with your arguing parents all by himself. I can virtually guarantee that the arguing will escalate too it you leave before graduating.
Yeah, you're parents are having problems but that's not your problem. Your problem is your attitude about your future. Stick it out at home until you have AT LEAST a high school diploma. Then you will have a much greater chance of having the life you want instead of the life you get.

Answer 3

something like that is happening with my mom too.. well what can i say. maybe both are tiried of each other. i guess sending them t ovacation would be a good idea..maybe they have too much stress..

the things i think of to do to my mom..
get into a car accident and pretend i forgot them or be scared and scream to them get away from me..ahh they are going to hurt me..

or pretend to die.. to see if they really care about me,

or run away

..

i really want my mom to know what she has done to me and how it effects my life, my mental life, my feelings..and when she finally notices what she has done too me then she will love so much.



by the way you should attend your classes.. if your a college dude, you really should cuz yout parents are working hard for you so that you can have those classes. if your a hgih school dude..still don't you want good grades? don't you want to get a good job and make sure that laura won't have to work like 3 jobs to pay for everything? don;t you want to buy a big house for laura and the children? don't you want laura to be able to buy pretty clothes and not always have to look for bargains? don't you want a nice car? if laura IS SO IMPORTANT to you.. then why dont you think of the future, what you do today becomes the future. just going to the classes and gettting good grades means that the more happier and the more easier life you will have laura. hey. dont you want to go to pretty places with laura? like hawaii, paris?


i would not suggest you to leave the house.. what about your 11 year bro? i don't know how muc hyou care or love your bro, but wouldn't it be sad to see him all hurt? or possiblely DYING? because you are not there to take some blame from your parents?

if nothing works, contant child abuse. and it doesn't matter how old you are, you are still the child of your parents.. then your parents can get some MAJOR therapy.. yea maybe it will cost money and time, but you can be a health and happy faimly again. isn't this what it is about? and a little tip.. umm your parents may hate you.. but sooner or later they will found out you are doing them good.


i wish you luck to solve this problem. At least you have the real courage to solve this problem, and i don't.. and good luck with you and laura in the future. if you love her so much, think of things you can do to her that can make her happoer (going to class and getting a high degree and a GOOD JOB)

Answer 4

First, I guess yr in highschool. Anyway- you need to go to school, get good grades, prepare yourself for the life outside. Don't skip. If things are that bad- why a gash on yr back- that sounds like violence! tell someone at school, like a guidance counsler. Things are tough enough growing up- why should they be violent! Cover yr basis. It sounds like dad doesn't communicate well. He could of picked a thing or two of something yr mother likes to have for lunch. It's not yr job to be the head of the household. Mitch- maybe there's a "safe house" to go to.

Answer 5

send them on a sec honeymoon and if its not resolved make sure you get no more gashes!!

Answer 6

family counseling. sometimes divorce is the best solution for some people. good luck.