why does he do this and what does it mean???please help?
why does my lebanese ex do this????
he left me and he keeps contacting me. he eventually said he was cutting all contact and changed his number. then he contacts me by pranking my phone and rining my sister. does it have anything to do with his culture? why say no contact and keep contacting me. and why does he keep contacting me like turning up at my house and work?does he still have feelings for me?otherwise why would he still contact me?im confused
2006-10-28 20:21:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He doesn't want you but he doesn't want anyone else to have you either. This is typical of the middle-eastern male ownership philosophy towards women, so it does have a cultural component, although most of it is simple immaturity.
2006-10-28 20:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not his culture. It's actually not too uncommon. He's a little bit more "out there" though. What is going on is that he was used to having you in his life, but not adjusting to the change. He's very insecure and is having a difficult time being alone without you. He's struggling with not dealing with the changes. He has no right to invade your life though. If he cannot accept that it's over and you want him out of your life, then you might need to get some help. This seems to border stalking. Be cautious.
2006-10-29 02:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by sweeta : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got nothing else to do. He's an abusive person. Don't let his culture be an excuse hon. Don't invite any abuse. Do what he said he was going to do and cut contact. You might also consider filing a police report saying that you fear for your safety and want to know what options you have, although I hesitate to mention this because the police might make things worse rather than better. About feelings for you, he doesn't have good ones. He might miss having a girl but he doesn't care about you. What he is doing is selfish, abusive, and wrong.
2006-10-29 02:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not his culture. It sounds like he is confused and a little bit on the stalker side - I had a boyfriend like that (but I broke up with him) and I wound up telling him I was going to call the police and his mother (he was a mama's boy) if he didn't stop.
Not sure about you, but be careful. Do a phone number trace on him, and report him. That isn't good what he's doing.
2006-10-29 02:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by dreamcatweaver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety get a reatraining order and move away, ppl that do that are not right in the head. I don't think its a culture thing, I have many lebanese friends and they are not like that at all. I think its just him wacko.
2006-10-29 02:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by ttepinzon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with his culture (what's cultured about his behaviour, I beg you) and everything to do with the fact that he's an immature moron with control issues. Get a restraining order and advise your sister to do the same.
2006-10-29 02:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you say he still sounds interested in you but has some problems he needs to sort out give him some time if you want him back .
2006-10-29 02:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just immature, and a little creepy. I would ignore it unless it becomes abusive then I would involve the authorities, and if it gets scary, find somewhere safe.
2006-10-29 02:25:59 · answer #8 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not his culture, he's just being immature. Guys of all nationalities do immature things like this.
2006-10-29 02:22:47 · answer #9 · answered by robdob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing to do with culture but he does sound like a stalker.
get a restraining order
2006-10-29 02:49:20 · answer #10 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋