I am 24 and I just broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years. I love her to death and I want to marry her. She is perfect.
We were a great couple. But then she started to have a lot of other obligations like school (she's a junior in college) and her job to help pay for her school, and we started seeing less of each other and getting stressed. We had a fight back in January that was pretty bad and we never recovered from it. We had another really bad fight about 6 weeks ago where she hit me in the face and we both said nasty things. We broke up.
We've gone out since then and we're still close friends. It's just that I'm still in love with her. I love her more than anything. I'd do anything to have her back. She says that I'm still really important to her and that she loves me, but that she's not in love with me. She says our old 'chemistry' is gone.
I don't know what to do. I want her back so bad, my life is miserable w/out her. Is there anyway that chemistry will come bak
2006-10-28 20:12:22 · 5 answers · asked by m3brad2002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So Miranda, what about the fact that she still wants to hang out. I still want to be her friend and be supportive of her. Can i still do that?
2006-10-28 20:56:45 · update #1
Face it, it's over. This whole pretence of "being friends" is not working either, because it is just reminding you of what you no longer have. Better to cut off all contact completely and move on.
2006-10-28 20:15:08 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can! Ever hear anyone say "if you love someone, let them go and they will come back"? Well, I believed it once it happened to me. I was dating a guy for four years with our own ups and downs but loved him very much. When we broke up, it was the worst pain I ever felt. It took the next four years to try to get over him and it was hard. I tried dating (two people) during those four years, but things never seemed to work out. It wasn't because they were bad people (and one treated me like gold - would do anything for me, and tried his hardest for a year and a half), but because my heart was still with my ex after being together for four years. Well, needless to say he found out I had been single for about three months after that last relationship that I received a phone call from him out of the blue. We agreed to spend an afternoon together to talk and catch up on each other. He said he was wiping his slate clean and was hoping to at least be friends with me even though our long relationship didn't work out (four years prior). It wasn't until a few hours into the afternoon that I realized we were actually on a date (him paying for the movie we went to watch and dinner to get to know each other again). He started giving up alot of his normal time with friends to want to spend time with me over the next 2 weeks. Well, he was back in my life and we were together again. We still have ups and downs, but I never thought that being together for four years and apart for four years that we'd have a second chance. Well, it's been 6 years now, and we've been married for the past year and a half. I couldn't have had a better prayer answered. He too, had told me that the "chemistry just wasn't there anymore", but for some reason it was there after four years apart. Guess that's true love for you. So if you want her back that much, try letting her go, persuing her dreams, and when the time is right she may just come back! Good luck!
2006-10-29 02:50:15 · answer #2 · answered by Jynxed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let her know that you acted selfishly or jealously...that is a mans thing, but when she says she doesn't love you and the chemistry is gone, you need to work a little harder and be a little more patient.
What I can see is her school played a big role, she wasn't independence you want a dependant, that is where you part ways, let her know that you will stand by her and mean it, that you will support her, but if you don't mean it, let it pass dude, get another girl...
2006-10-29 02:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by Trinity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's over. You are to young to have found your"love of your life". Get out. Meet people. Trust me, the "real one" is still out there waiting for you.
2006-10-29 02:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by desertskieswoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she got tired in fact...do your best and god will do the rest for you both
2006-10-29 02:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by bitch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋