When you first get involved with someone and start to get serious everything including sex is great. Once you get married why does it all change? I for one still want it to be like it was when we meet but he says things are different now. What do you do if you feel this way?
2006-10-28 19:46:30 · 8 answers · asked by 1wickedwitch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How do you get back to those feelings and actions?
2006-10-28 19:47:34 · update #1
Taking a break always works for me. I have been with my husband for 12 years now and love having sex with him even more now than in the beginning. But its the best when he's gone away for the weekend with his friends or for work and when he comes back the butterflies are still there. We have always been creative too so that makes it more fun.
If two people really truly love each other sex only becomes better with time as you learn how to please each other and become more confident with eachother. The problem is that each couple needs to figure out together what makes their sex great. It could be toys, it could be choice of location or it could be the time of day you choose to do it. No one can give you a cure but just trying all the suggestions will probably be exciting itself.
My biggest suggestion is love notes. Write little notes saying you love him and what you want to do to him later and stick it somewhere where he will find it at work or when u aren't around. This will get him excited so he'll be extra frisky when he gets home. Which as you continue will get you more excited about the fact that he at work or whatever thinking about you and what you plan on doing.
Sorry that was long but hopefully helpful
2006-10-28 20:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by jnp3577 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when there mix ups in priorities people get driven by other desires. If before marriage sex was like food, he will definitely get used to you by the time you come to live with him. There are no more adventures,he has already conquered all valleys, so don't blame the brother, he got what he wanted.
On another note though, marriage is a lifetime commitment and only two people who are willing to go it together should do so. It has its rough times, but they do not last forever
2006-10-29 01:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by Trinity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try spicing things up, there are plenty of books on the subject of keeping the flame going in a relationship. Explore each others needs and desires. It might be time to move on if you can't both be able to work on this together
2006-10-29 02:06:06 · answer #3 · answered by 3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that when after youre married, theres just not that spark that you have when you are dating. You spend so much time with that person that it's not as exciting. Not that marriage is a bad thing. Just try to relive what it was like when you guys met.
2006-10-29 01:54:19 · answer #4 · answered by Mcdreamy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you have someone-it's exciting-new. Now- you need to put back the spice in the bedroom/bathroom/kitchen/car......
Do something crazy-try something new. Watch porn together and get out the whipped-cream and sex toys!
2006-10-29 01:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life changes ,nothing stays the same,It is immature to expect it to all ways be like your dating ,real life interferes .If you want more from your relationship then put more in ,it can start with you ,nagging him to be better never works.do nice things for him he will return it and if he doesn't well then maybe you will know you have a real problem.
2006-10-29 01:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by stephanie n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a name like yours, try spanking, or playing out fantasies.
2006-10-29 01:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is relationship most realtionship are like that and some are not like that
2006-10-29 01:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋