Well we go to school with this gurl, Elenita, which my mom knows we can't stand her. She thinks she's all that and is very known around school (popular). We are so different from her, we have friends but aren't really known in school. She's soposely so perfect...a straight A student, she's involved in school activities well thats how my mom puts it. The thing that most pisses me off is that she's so skinny and we are fat, she's a gurly girl and we aren't, and my mom still has the balls to tell us we should be like that. Well we have thought of doing so much stuff just to please her. We haven't told her how we feel since she told us to be like ELENITA, we can't just stop thinking about that.So we need advice!!!!!! Help us please!!!!!Oh by the way she's always putting it in our face how ELENITA is going to graduate and is going to go to college and how we aren't even going to graduate.
2006-10-28 19:39:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
lots of love sis
2006-10-28 20:05:16 · answer #1 · answered by Beautiful Fat Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, why aren't you going to graduate? I couldn't care less about Elenita, this is about you two.
I don't know why your mom is trying to compare you to someone who you don't even look like. What are you supposed to do--get plastic surgery?
In ten or twenty years you'll never hear of this girl again so why do you care what she does? Why let envy of her success ruin your future? It is critical that you at least graduate from high school as this will determine how your whole life goes. Ignore Elenita as she is of no consequence to you at all. Stay in school and do as well as you can.
Don't let your mother's lack of sensitivity towards your feelings ruin your life either. Some people are just dense when it comes to realizing how other people feel. Why let a personality fault of her's determine how you are going to live the rest of your life?
I really doubt that you are "fat" either. Even if you are you can do as well as Elenita at anything that interests you. Pick something that really interests YOU and excel at it. This will be your area of expertise and she won't even be able to compare to you when it comes to skill at whatever it is that you wish to pursue.
2006-10-29 02:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you're going through. I've got three options for you.
1) Be nicer and talk with her about it.
2) Guilt trip. It normally makes a parent think twice before saying low things like that. She should accept you two for who you are!
3) (I like this one the best.) Pick a friend's mom for the example of a perfect mother. And then talk about how good of a mother she is, and maybe even talk *loudly* with your sister about how you wish she was your mother. And make sure she knows you want her to be like that person. And when she complains to you about how much that hurts, then tell her that's how she made you feel with this 'elenita' person. That will put things into perspective for her.
2006-10-29 02:00:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well grades should help you get into college. You shouldnt try to change for the sake of being "prettier" or being more "popular" if you like yourself and are happy with your body and the friends you hang out with and the grades you have a status in school should not be important. As long as your happy your mom should be happy for you!
2006-10-29 01:44:13 · answer #4 · answered by ManWithAPlan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 I don't think it's good that your mom compares you like that.
#2. She's probably right (which is probably hard to hear and admit)
#3. You're not like Elenita because your mom's not like Elenita's mom (and your mom won't like hearing that either).
If you're overweight, slim down. It's not healthy, it's not attractive, and it doesn't make you feel good.
You should graduate from HS AND go to college.
Sometime sit down with your mom and ask her if you can talk to her about something that's been bothering you. Don't yell, don't get defensive, don't raise your voice, don't insult. Say "I feel..... when you say......" Be open and honest, hopefully she'll respond in kind.
2006-10-29 02:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by Ender 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur mom that every person is differnt
tell her that how good ur aunt is and she should be like her
if she ignores u and scolds u 4 telling like that
then
u should say it even hurts u and ur sister wen ur mom wants u both to be like that girl
compare ur mom
\then she will never compare u
but dont hurt her'
she is always ur mommy
deep in her heart she loves u
2006-10-29 01:46:41 · answer #6 · answered by Manu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider matricide
2006-10-29 02:58:11 · answer #7 · answered by bkk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell your mom how you feel!
she should be bragging on you two more than anything
2006-10-29 01:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by DUSTY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋