I have been thru the ringer this year, and I will not look back at it fondly. I am feeling wicked, and want to act on those feelings. How can I hold them back?
2006-10-28 19:30:25 · 24 answers · asked by desertskieswoman 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Recall how you felt about your husband on your wedding day. Surely you loved him then, like no other man. Even if things have changed, how could you possibly do such a terrible thing to someone you once cared about so deeply?
If you want to be with someone else, then don't betray the one you promised to cherish all your days. Be decent enough to tell him that you've become convinced that the marriage isn't working for you, and it's time to part company. Only then will it be appropriate to seek intimacy with others.
If you can't get yourself to do that, then clearly anyone else who holds your interest really isn't all that important to you, are they?
You're in the enviable position of having two valid choices - honor your commitment, or leave. Think carefully, then make your decision.
2006-10-28 20:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by Ed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many couples especially when they have been together for a very long period of time feel a sense of complacency. Whether their complacency mean sheer boredom or contentment is entirely dependent upon the state of the relationship.
Infidelity is often a symptom of a frail relationship. A successful marriage has a solid foundation where each partner respects each other's boundaries, enjoys the benefit of sharing separate lives, and entrust in each other the commitment to fullfill the needs and desire of their partner despite one's own personal longing.
If your relationship is lacking, your desire to explore other avenues of interest will become increasingly intense. As a result, you will ultimately act on those desires unless your own moral values prevent you from doing so. In that case, you may find yourself bored and miserable. Assess your marriage to see if it's worth saving. If you strongly believe that it isn't, do the honorable thing by ending the marriage then you may pursue whatever it is you desire. Good luck!
2006-10-29 01:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by Ana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of the consequences after - you have alot to lose.
You will never be able to take back what you have done, and sooner or later will have to admit it, have it found out or live with the knowledge. So DON'T do it.
Tough time and all you are blessed... focus your mind on all the good you have.
Life is always like the two rails of a track - one is good and one is bad - we always have joys and problems. The mistake we make is to focus on the problem which is our tendency.
You know what? - the only person you can change is yourself - so change your perspective and things will get better. Change how you see things.
Today is a new day, and the day after that - so live like it.
2006-10-29 01:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of us ladies feel that way from time to time.You probably don't want to dispose of your whole life as you know it you just want some spice.Get together with your girlfriends and go have a night or even a weekend of fun.Or gather up your hubby and go out with friends, you know the ones you wouldn't usually go out with because there too wild..lol ..Get sexy and have fun.Fantasize some, it helps alleviate some of the wicked feelings too.. Its allowed after a year that totally SUCKED!!!!
2006-10-29 01:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by Meemi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...you're on the right track. Take time out for yourself. Use what is right in front of you right now..your computer. Take your mind off of what is frustrating you. Download a move and watch it...
I'm 54 and married but because of this computer...I'm very seldom bored. There are a lot of computer games. I damned sure would be without it though...
Good Luck in finding something interesting to do!
Bottom line take what's on your mind and fill it with something else. I feel for you. Let your computer help fill a void...
2006-10-29 01:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by BadBill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know EXACTLY how you feel!! ME TOO!! Sometimes. THIS may sound strange but i think of the Deceased Relatives I have, Father, Mother, Grandmother, Nephew....etc. and think well nothing could be worse than they're currant position, So, "EVERYTHING IN LIFE" cannot be worse than DEAD.. Now "LIFE" Just Seems So Much Better and ANY OF THE PROBLEMS are now so much easier to handle I Think I Can Cope Another Day !!
2006-10-29 01:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont try to go against the running water... You may like to put your feeling on paper and it is possible that after a year you may come up with a wonderful creation....
2006-10-29 01:54:33 · answer #7 · answered by CosmicLight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some guilty pleasure you enjoy. A cheesey novel, movie or something of that nature. Spoil yourself a bit. Know just what you mean, been 8 rough years for me. Just get your mind into something that you like and bury yourself in it for awhile.
2006-10-29 01:34:11 · answer #8 · answered by Rich B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By promising to do one great random act of kindness tomorrow. Another on Monday... 'til you do 5 on Friday. Your problem will be solved by Tuesday.
2006-10-29 01:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by kinsmed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two words: Colon Hydrotherapy.
You'll feel wicked having something shooting up your bum, and there's NO holding back!!
2006-10-29 01:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by Johnna L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋