I have a daughter, and a daughter-inlaw that seem to want to throw thier marriges out the door, and they can't give an exceptiable answer, as to why. considering all of the ramifications of there actions, you would think they could come up with a better excuse other than, I don't feel in love anymore.
2006-10-28 19:26:50 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK I should add, that they came to me about this, as for the husbands, one is my son, the other is my favorite son-inlaw, they both go to work everyday, they don't do drugs, they don't get drunk and well too stupid, good to the wife and kids. They nice homes, new cars,food on the table. Granted they still have an occasional disagreement, but nothing serious. And yes my kids also do not lie to me. I just can't see a problem big enough to warrent a decision that will have suck a negitive effect. And two other couples I know are have the same trouble at the same time. Do women go crazy at the same time, are linked somehow?
2006-10-28 20:14:20 · update #1
Because men drive us this way.
2006-10-28 19:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by cfoxwell99 5 · 2⤊ 5⤋
Are you telling me you want your two lovely daughters to live in a loveless marriage for the rest of their lives?
Just because you chose to stay in yours doesn't make it right to ask them to stay in theirs.
Sure, it seems that they don't have very good reasons...but maybe they aren't getting into details with you either. Sounds like you're a very judgemental man to me.
Women do not go crazy...women are emotional beings. Men are logical thinkers. You try thinking logically when your emotions are taking over.
Maybe if you were not so judgemental toward your own daughters they would sit down and talk to you like a friend and go into detail about why they are divorcing. Seems to me I'd be telling my dad if he was easier to talk to.
I really hope you don't think I'm being hard on on you. I don't mean to be. It's not your fault they are getting a divorce, it's just that maybe there is a lot more to it than meets the eye and if you make yourself receptive, they will tell you.
Either way, these are your girls and you need to support them in their decisions, whether they are right or wrong so they know you love them.
Good luck.
2006-10-28 19:31:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it has something to do with the fact that at some point in most marriages, the woman figures out that the man is getting more out of the relationship than she is.
When so many demands are placed upon us, and we feel we are getting nothing in return, we begin to wonder what we were thinking in the first place.
Courting is such a great time. Men make us feel really special. Marriage is so different. It is so much work and sometimes one partner (or even both) decide it is just too much work. Staying married is a choice that has to transcend feelings. Looking ahead for the long term rewards is the only way to make it through the tough spots.
Sometimes "I don't feel in love anymore" really means "I don't feel loved right now." Maybe you should give the men in their lives a pep talk.
Hope this helps!
2006-10-28 19:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by sendmedaisies 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's the sign of the times. Everyone think about them self's. They don't think about the ones they love. It's the way the world is now. Get all you can and just think of yourself. Yes women are going crazy. Woman are making out with other women because women know what women like. What a bunch of crap. Yes! Yes! Yes! You are so right.
2006-10-28 21:13:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been married for 17 years, love is alive and well over here! We take the good with the bad [to many give up and divorce without really trying hard, it's not easy but it is so worth it] and have no need for jealousy [it is such a waste of energy] and respect our differences, which is why I think we have survived for so long when most of our friends have not. We both are very proud that we have 17 years together as hubby and wife and 20 together total. Good luck.
2006-10-28 19:29:46 · answer #5 · answered by NotSoTweetOne 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever heard of Mad Cow Disease?? That is where the crazy Women get there weird behavior and act so weird... However it isn't your Business or mine so i'm out of it
2006-10-28 19:30:22 · answer #6 · answered by nunesjeff 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is actually a really tough question. You can't force love though. Maybe they were never in love to begin with. Be sure that they think very seriously about it though. No one wants regrets.
2006-10-28 19:29:40 · answer #7 · answered by 100% TOP NOTCH 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just exactly why are your daughter's and your daughter-in-law's marriages any of your business? Whether or not they stay married is something they have to sort out with their respective husbands. They don't owe you any explanations. Maybe they're reluctant to tell you the real reasons for their marital problems because they know from experience what a pushy, nosey busy-body you are. Back off and let them run their own lives.
2006-10-28 19:30:10 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
It sounds like you come from a different generation where you stayed married til death do you part. Maybe the answer is unacceptable to you, and you are the one with the problems in regards to the end of the relationships. Sometimes things are just that simple.
2006-10-28 19:32:32 · answer #9 · answered by desertskieswoman 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Betty.
Plus, you're not married to their husbands. How do you know what they're like when it's just the two of them? You can't really comment because it's not your place.
2006-10-28 19:29:48 · answer #10 · answered by Nicky 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Part of the insanity is the belief that everything wrong is the guy's fault. Read all the ditsy commenters who blame men.
2013-12-19 09:09:44 · answer #11 · answered by Starbuck 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋