They say patience is a virtue, but what is the best way to learn patience?

Answer 1

You ask a simple question, but here is no simple answer, I'm afraid.

This is because patience is not an intellectual skill nor is it a piece of knowledge that can be learned. Rather, it is a state of mind. You are patient or you are not patient.

It may not, therefore, actually be possible for you to learn patience -- even if you want to.

Sometimes people who experience life-threatening situations find that they become patient afterwards because they realise that the things that made them impatient before are not really worth fretting about when seen in the overall perspective of a human life.

Some people try to achieve a similar perspective through mediation.

But while you are waiting for your mind set to change, you may have to change your lifestyle by eliminating the things that make you impatient. If trying to learn that dammed computer program is just too frustrating -- well maybe you can live without learning it. If that annoying person keeps pushing your buttons and making you angry -- well maybe you can ignore them -- or at least not respond to their provocations.

Answer 2

There are two parts too this, in my experiance.

The alcholics prayer? How does it go? "God grant me the serinity too accept the things I can change, the stranghth too change the things I can't, and the wisdom too know the difference?"

I think that's right. It really doesn't matter that it's a Chritian prayer. For me, the answer too this question "how do I learn" patientes" lies in it. That is the first part of the "how".

The next part is thinking about those situations in which you became angry or frustrated and analize them for why you could have avoided becoming angry or frustrated.

Let me give you an example:

There is a guy that I work with that is hopelessly stupid. He knows he's stupid. I know he's stupid. He know's that I know he's stupid and he knows I know this.

(I'm intentionally being harsh here... it's just for dramatic effect. I really like this person. He's a good guy.)

Now... every now and then something will happen with what every he's working with that will cause a machine harm. He won't realize that contuinued opperation of the machine will result in machine failure. (manufacturing industry-- case you were wondering) When this would happen I would become very frustrated and even angry with him. "HOW COULD YOU NOT NOTICE THE BLUE DUST!?" Ect. This would result in him feeling bad and me feeling bad and everyone just feeling bad. Not good.

But looking back I soon realized that becomeing angry with him because he was so completely oblivious too simple machanics was just plain dumb. Vanilla dumb. Springer dumb. It would be like if I put vinigar into a salad dressing and got all kinds of pissed off that the dressing had a vinigary taste too it.

Just dumb!

I have too accept the things I can't change. I can't make him a wiz bang machine whisperer.... and even if I could it would be wrong of me too force him into that possision. So.... what can I change? I can wander over peirodically and just quietly observe the machine he's opperating for a few seconds. If I detect a problem I can shut it down and then set too work trouble shooting it.

I wouldn't have arived at that answer if I didn't first ask why I got angry and then asked what I can do too fix it. A large part of that was accepting the limitations of what was presented with serientiy. Then ... changing the things that I could. It is a bit of a pain in the butt too remember to wander over to where he is six times a day for a few seconds. But I found the strangth too do such. Wisdom... being able too ask those questions... I suppose that's the wisdom.

Hope that helps.

Answer 3

Thats sot of like a paradox all by itself. You have to discipline yourself for patience, but you need patience to have discipline. How exactly do you learn patience when your searching for it, doesn't it come to you by waiting? There is no best way to learn patience, it is something that is automatic, the moment you stop trying to learn it is the moment you could have aquired it. It's more of a state of mind rather than an item to be taught. Technically speaking when your trying to teach someone patience, if there listening to you they already have it. You can summon patience with intrest, but you can't hold it with intrest. The moment they stop listening or look away they lost there patience. This is just one of those things that everyone has, it's just not used all the time, looks to be invisible unless you see it, and you learned it the moment you know it... paradox.

Answer 4

Honestly? The best way to learn patience is to wait for something patiently.

My friends & I joke that the last thing you want to pray for is patience, b/c God will put you into a situation where you're forced to be patient. (lol). But I've gotta admit...it works :)

Answer 5

Getting old is patience. You have already learned it. Stay busy and enjoy the ride!

Answer 6

For most people, patience is 'slowing down'....
It is more risky to procrastinate thus !
Patience could be, even WHILE driving at the maximum possible speed, and yet extremely cautious, fully focused, leaving no chance for any possible mishap, collusion etc...
The life energy when totally focused on any thing, issue, subject , situation etc, IRRESPECTIVE OF OUR LIKES AND DISLIKES, IRRESPECTIVE OF OUR ATTITUDES, DISINCLINATIONS, PRIORITIES, ETC, ETC, ETC... that .. is.... patience!
Best way to learn is to try to dissolve one self with the situation, that way our own disabilities are neutralised, and we are fully focused, and wholly available at OUR BEST !

Answer 7

Be respectful of the fact that not all individuals, or occurances, FLOW at your pace. That may also relate to others who feel that about you, should you move at a slower pace than they.

Certainly don't stress before a fact, nor over things not strictly in your control.

Also make tolerance and acceptance a lifestyle, habitual.

Steven Wolf

Answer 8

Like something staying power takes practice. additionally questioning some thing via helps to not only calm your techniques, even though it provides a greater advantageous awareness related to the priority it rather is threatening to make you lose your staying power. The greater you practice staying power the greater commonly you will use it without questioning. In a stressful subject, the place you experience like your going to lose it, you only might desire to think of. think of roughly being affected person with the guy, animal, or venture. think of issues via.

Answer 9

Patience isn't learned,it is acquired

Answer 10

You probably don't want to know, because it's a hard lesson to learn. See fyrechicks answer