A friend of mine is staying in my living room. He has been here for almost 2 weeks. I really do enjoy his company and like having him around, but i am starting to feel a little used.
Background on our relationship is that we use to date, and it ended poorly. We have been good friends since then.
I think i still have some feelings for him. Given our history i am just hesitant to bring up how this is making me feel.
2006-10-28 19:01:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Also, he is taking some time to figuer out what he wants to do next in life.
2006-10-28 19:07:13 · update #1
Oh Lordy! There's nuthin' worse! I just got out of one of those (it was my cousin & it went 9 months! It was horrific!) You really need your space & you'll only feel more uncomfortable (in your own home?) as time goes on. Why doesn't he have his own place anyway? Think about it, distance yourself. If he respects you he'll understand. If he gives you any poop then he's really gotta go!
2006-10-28 19:10:11 · answer #1 · answered by PAMELA G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy is your friend, you should be able to tell him that he needs to move on and get off your sofa. If he puts up a fuss or tries to make you feel guilty for telling him he has to go then he is using you. As long as he has a feeling that you are letting him stay with you because you are too hesitant to tell him otherwise, he will continue to use you, and your sofa, and your food, and your electricity, and your hot water, and whatever else you may "accommodate" him with.
Stand up, girl. This is your space and he is too far in it.
2006-10-28 19:06:27 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always give someone a time limit on their stay in tough situations so you dont walk around wondering what to do. So, you'll just have to tell him now. Give him a specific amount of time and make a specific date to move out and to make other living arrangements and that you'll help him move his stuff to his new place. Good luck.
2006-10-28 19:18:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Josh, what do you propose particular? To pink Flag, the guy who save demeaning you and laying guilt journeys on you isn't perfect interior the pinnacle. i've got had pals like that and that i merely decrease them off using fact friendships propose being respectful to each and each others. absolutely everyone who calls me the N notice regardless of if the guy is black or white might loose my friendship using fact the N notice isn't a marvelous notice and that i do no longer placed up with the abuse from absolutely everyone. ask your self this, what form of friendship do you pick for and seem for it. bear in mind you deserve respects and you do have a life-time of your person so which you weren't impolite and thoughtless for no longer calling him back using fact pals shouldn't make pals uncomfortable. wish this helps.
2016-11-26 01:43:34 · answer #4 · answered by reel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have a plan to get out of your living room & into his own place? If not he is using you.Does he want you back?If so & you want him as a boyfriend then he needs to work & pay half the bills.But,,I dont think that you want him like that so dont let him play the pity card on you.You can still be friends but let him find his own crib.
2006-10-28 19:04:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it weird how we can love our friends, but it's harder than helll to tell them of things their doing that bother us??
Just come out and point out the things and reasons your feeling used. Maybe their BIG things to you, and in reality their not big, but the longer you keep it inside of yourself, they'll even grow bigger.
If you have a good friendship, then he should understand and try and fix it!!
2006-10-28 19:06:57 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw him out, because that is exactly what he is doing using you, and you don't deserve that, you tried to be nice, but now it's time to stop being nice, remember YOU and YOUR hapiness comes first before anyone elses.
2006-10-28 19:04:39 · answer #7 · answered by dahorndogd013 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like being used keep your mouth closed if not open your mouth and tell him what you feel-remember that a closed mouth never gets feed
2006-10-28 19:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to help you around the place and clean up. or at least clean up after himself if he isn't already. don't ask for money quite yet. but if he won't at least help do some stuff then tell him that you can't help him out anymore.
2006-10-28 19:05:18 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him out and tell him 2 get ajob so that he can get his own place.
2006-10-28 19:17:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋