why do people judge us for who we are
2006-10-28 18:55:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
We are using ourselves as the guide of measurement and most rate themselves high.
2006-10-28 18:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by R C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're not necessarily "judged", although people may dismiss you for being strange.
It makes people uncomfortable to see someone making choices that will ultimately result in failure, delusion and depression, isn't it? Hiding behind some sort of "community" or calling it a "lifestyle choice" doesn't change the end result, does it?
Think about it. Have you ever met a transsexual or transvestite who was totally comfortable, totally well-adjusted, possessing a successful social life, rewarding relationships, and was happy with the choices they made? Personally, I've never met a TS/TV who wasn't on antidepressants.
Have you thought about the people in your life, father, mother, brothers and sisters, friends, coworkers; the people who care about you, and the effect your choices are having? Aren't they forced to make a value judgement of some sort or another? Aren't you being a bit selfish with all the "HEY LOOK AT ME! I'M DIFFERENT! DID I MENTION I'M DIFFERENT? DON'T YOU ACCEPT ME?" ....?
Maybe you're not "who you are", but you've got a fetish that needs a little management....or at least, discretion.
2006-10-28 19:39:31 · answer #2 · answered by roberticvs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is it when people go to the supermarket they pick out special tomatoes, why not just grab and run. Because there is a decision to be made as to what you are going to have pay for. Don't you want the best ? Same with people, I'm not into homo's does that mean I judge them and condemn them. No.
Don't confuse judging with condemning. Just like I don't buy rotten tomatoes to prove to the world that I don't have anything against rotten tomatoes. I see a homo or lez I don't hate them but I have decided or judged as you put it that lifestyle is not for me. It's against my principles, religion and I stand by it. If that is judging people then I am guilty but then so is everybody that makes anykind of decision
2006-10-28 23:34:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i work in an envirerment thats mostly gay , the straight peeps there all except that and we get along just fine , anyone who cant except dont work there long , they the ones that judge us and they the ones that have to leave . tv/ts well its new to me and have fallen for someone who has been honest wif me,i dont judge him/her am trying to understand. but i feel outside my work area others will judge him , and me , but i really dont care. every one has the right to be different and if we were all the same life would be sooooo boring
2006-10-28 23:39:31 · answer #4 · answered by chrissy b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it isnt "normal" for the rest of us. What is "normal" you may ask? It the willingness to accept ourselves as we were made. This is part of the reason why Michael Jackson is "judged" by a lot of people. He couldnt accept himself as being black so he resorted to surgeries and who knows what else thinking that the grass is greener on the other side. Now that he is on the "other side", a lot of people think he is a bit of a nut.
2006-10-28 19:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when those people judge us they think
they are trying to care even if they are not
people that do not understand us tend to fear
and try to change us to the way
the reason is they think we are going againest what god has given us
by choosing to change our bodies
it is true some of us feel we are redifineing what god gave us
because we are
but it is our body to do this
with TV it is only clothes so how is that hurting any one
because mainsteam society thinks we are being rebelous to them as some of us are
we are judged as out siders becouse we think defferently about our lives and life styles
people stereotype us and don't even ralize they do it
we all have to be true to ourselves no one can say that transgender people do not do that
why be a sheep think i think for myself and but me first
that is not a bad thing when i see i am only being my true self
people that judge me can say what ever they want i know who i am and what i want for my life
2006-10-28 21:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by Zara3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats the problem, they judge us for everything but who we are. We are just human, like them. im slowly getting my frends and family to except the fact that i love wearing womens cloths. but hear this , it takes a while to get the general public to do the same.I think most people are just scared of the unknown or what they dont understnad.
2006-10-28 22:21:17 · answer #7 · answered by jerry g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know, that sucks. But it's not just you. All people get judged for some reason or another.
2006-10-28 22:17:07 · answer #8 · answered by Alias400 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't judge your guys...I say be happy...lead a good life and so on and so forth. Just be a good person.
2006-10-28 18:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by K.O. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose because you are different from other people and they really don't understand...I'm gay so I feel I have a much better understanding of who you are than mainstream christians...but I just don't think they get it.
2006-10-28 19:05:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋